What to do?

[U luv Isabelle]

I am moving aout an hour and a half away pretty soon. I have 3 girlfriends that I fool around with. I have been having sex with those 3 for about 4 years now. So I feel very uncomfortable picking up on women. I have no problem with men because every time I leave the house I get asked out, but with women its a lot harder. Im still afraid to get rejected by females and I dont feel comfortable revealing I'm bi unless they say so first. So what do I do to meet new girlfriends. Any advice?

 

[human_male]

Well how did you meet the three girls you have now? That's doing pretty well. Why are you so worried?

 

[U luv Isabelle]

I wont be seeing them anymore except maybe once or twice a year. I met them in high school and became really close. One kissed me when she was drunk and we went from there. The second was an open lesbian and I told her that I was attracted to her. The third was when I was playing truth or dare with a group of friends. She later admitted that she set it up so the dare would be for us to kiss. All 3 times I did nothing, it just fell in my lap. I dont think I will be so fortunate. Nothing like that has happened in 4 years.

 

[human_male]

I wont be seeing them anymore except maybe once or twice a year. I met them in high school and became really close. One kissed me when she was drunk and we went from there. The second was an open lesbian and I told her that I was attracted to her. The third was when I was playing truth or dare with a group of friends. She later admitted that she set it up so the dare would be for us to kiss. All 3 times I did nothing, it just fell in my lap. I dont think I will be so fortunate. Nothing like that has happened in 4 years.

You know, never in my life have I had anything like that just fall in my lap. Women don't know they're born.

I don't know what you should do though. Things like this stem from social circles though don't they? So develop a social circle and maybe you'll meet someone through there. If not, I bet someone will post something useful soon. If not, an hour and a half isn't all that far. You could always organise weekend get togethers every month, say.

Or personals sites, or bars/clubs.

 

[sxxyblueyes]

You know, never in my life have I had anything like that just fall in my lap. Women don't know they're born.

I don't know what you should do though. Things like this stem from social circles though don't they? So develop a social circle and maybe you'll meet someone through there. If not, I bet someone will post something useful soon. If not, an hour and a half isn't all that far. You could always organise weekend get togethers every month, say.

Or personals sites, or bars/clubs.

I agree- an hour and a half isn't that far to be with them. Heck that trip could be made a couple times a month Try being a few thousand miles away from who you want to be with.
But if you didn't want to make that trip- try doing personals or clubs..

 

[revolution724]

I'd also wonder if there's a bi/poly group of any kind in your new area - I'd imagine that's a good way to meet people.

 

[Toilette]

Get a guy-to-bring-a-girl-to-you, in a bar/club sitch... where everybody's loud and distracted. Feed-him-the-line: " That girl said you look good under the streetlight..." or something. Bi/lez-codes buzz-the-flower...

 

[U luv Isabelle]

Get a guy-to-bring-a-girl-to-you, in a bar/club sitch... where everybody's loud and distracted. Feed-him-the-line: " That girl said you look good under the streetlight..." or something. Bi/lez-codes buzz-the-flower...

I know absolutely zero bi/lez codes. I dont know if there are signs or words to look for. Can you name some?

 

[Toilette]

The 'lingering eye-contact'-thing... The sudden-use of French-or-another-language to paint a random-comment... Using the C-word instead-of the P-word, when slang-intending the V-word... The-touching/clasping-of-your-upper-arm, while making a seemingly-random conversational-point... A hazardously-sweet compliment that transcends girl-talk... Codes involving drinks-n-cigarettes are myriad...

 

[CharleyH]

I am moving aout an hour and a half away pretty soon. I have 3 girlfriends that I fool around with. I have been having sex with those 3 for about 4 years now. So I feel very uncomfortable picking up on women.

Hunh? Makes no sense, PANZIE.

 

[U luv Isabelle]

Hunh? Makes no sense, PANZIE.

no need to be mean. Im not saying I wont ever see these people again but I would like to meet some new women in my hometown.