What should my punishment be?

[Liana26]

Dom's orders... I have to think of a punishment for myself because of the way I've been acting this whole weekend. I've talked back, provoked him, made a few bitchy comments, had an orgasm without permission and then played with myself a little bit the next day (no orgasm that time). Somebody please help me think of something because I have a feeling he'll be harder on me if he doesn't think the punishment I dreamed up was harsh enough.

Thank you everyone

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Dom's orders... I have to think of a punishment for myself ...

What part of this did you not understand?

 

[Desdemona]

Sorry babe. If your dominant told you to come up with a punishment, then you have to do it yourself. Now, if you want to read through the library and do research on punishment, then you are doing the work. Part of the punishment is actually for you to come up with the punishment. Do you see what I mean?

Good luck. des

 

[Liana26]

He's pretty fair... I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I got some extra help. Still, maybe you're right. God I'm in so much trouble....

 

[Desdemona]

He's pretty fair... I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I got some extra help. Still, maybe you're right. God I'm in so much trouble....

Never assume what your dominant would or wouldn't mind. If you ask and get permission, then you know for sure. Otherwise, you're asking for more trouble than you've already got. Suck it up and do what you were instructed to do.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

He's pretty fair... I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I got some extra help.

If you needed extra help, where should you go first?

It sure as hell ain't us.

Based on what i've read, you had enough of a wild hair up your ass to pretty much declare your independence of his wishes. Guess what? Be glad he's tolerant. Had you done the same to some on this board, you would have your independence.

i like this Dominant of yours. He presented you an object lesson with a twist. Let's see if you pick up on it.

 

[Guest]

He's pretty fair... I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I got some extra help. Still, maybe you're right. God I'm in so much trouble....

Hmmmm...AA..I've got $5.00 that says if he had a CLUE that she was posting all this here..It would take the EMT's ten minutes to get his head pried loose from the ceiling???

Wanna Bet???

 

[Liana26]

He won't need a clue because once he calls me I'm telling him that I posted this and if he doesn't mind then will someone please help me out? And if he does mind then I guess you three were right and I'll just have to accept the consequences.

But anyway, yes I know how lucky I am that he's lenient enough not to toss me out on my ear. Or maybe I don't know because I seem to be taking advantage of that. It's not that I don't want to be good, I really do, I just fuck up a lot. Well... hopefully I'll learn my lesson this time.

 

[Desdemona]

He won't need a clue because once he calls me I'm telling him that I posted this and if he doesn't mind then will someone please help me out? And if he does mind then I guess you three were right and I'll just have to accept the consequences.

But anyway, yes I know how lucky I am that he's lenient enough not to toss me out on my ear. Or maybe I don't know because I seem to be taking advantage of that. It's not that I don't want to be good, I really do, I just fuck up a lot. Well... hopefully I'll learn my lesson this time.

"I just fuck up a lot"? Sweetie, it sounds as if you think that's beyond your control. It's your job to decide NOT to fuck up and to learn how to avoid it. It takes some effort to submit. Part of that effort is making some concious decisions about your behavior. Pay attention to what he doesn't like and don't do it. Pay attention to what he does like and do it. It sounds simple; it's hard to do. You have to decide to learn how not to fuck up. You have to decide to treat him with respect and to follow the rules within your relationship whether they're convienient or not on any given day.

That said, I'm real glad you're going to fess up and communicate with him. That's the first step.

 

[Kajira Callista]

amazing......................

 

[Liana26]

What's amazing?

 

[Caitlynne]

He's pretty fair... I'm sure he wouldn't mind if I got some extra help. Still, maybe you're right. God I'm in so much trouble....

Sweetie, he was already being fair. He said for you to come up with your own punishment. That is fair; more than fair.

It's the whole process. You thinking about what you did that deserved punishment, and then coming up with the appropriate punishment. It's the whole process he is interested in you going through.

My advice, do exactly as he has instructed you. Doing otherwise is already something you're being punished for. You'd hate to compound one act of disobedience with yet another one, now wouldn't you?

See what I mean here?

~ Cait

 

[rosco rathbone]

thread of the day.

*rubber stamp BANG*

 

[Kajira Callista]

thread of the day.

*rubber stamp BANG*

your mustache needs a trim

 

[rosco rathbone]

your mustache needs a trim

Back to provocation school with you, beejay lips.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Back to provocation school with you, beejay lips.

eat me!

 

[rosco rathbone]

eat me!

That will most surely be the day.

 

[Kajira Callista]

That will most surely be the day.

shup uncle rosco.... i know where you live. i'll send da boys.

 

[rosco rathbone]

shup uncle rosco.... i know where you live. i'll send da boys.

You'll send no boys.

 

[Desdemona]

LOLOL You two should sell tickets

 

[Kajira Callista]

You'll send no boys.

well i could....but i won't and yes i'll shut up now

 

[rosco rathbone]

Look what you done did kasey. Derailed the thread of the day. Are you pleased with your antics now??

 

[Kajira Callista]

Look what you done did kasey. Derailed the thread of the day. Are you pleased with your antics now??

uhmmmm..... *looks around nervously* isn't that my job?

 

[Liana26]

Quiet! This derailment could just give me time to slip out the side door unnoticed.

 

[snowy ciara]

He won't need a clue because once he calls me I'm telling him that I posted this and if he doesn't mind then will someone please help me out? And if he does mind then I guess you three were right and I'll just have to accept the consequences.

Just a shot in the dark from one the virgins running around here.. Tell him with tact and maybe an apology when you tell him what you did, this time.. Next time, ask if you can get assistance? I asked a Domme I know about what she would do in this case. She said, theoretically speaking. get ready to give your collar back since you went behind her back when she told YOU not all of the Lit bdsm forums to think of a punishment.

You know, when you make a choice a to serve someone, you make a choice to do it. It's not easy! But you and you alone are responsible for your actions. "I don't know why I fuck up." is not a valid defense. It didn't work with my parents, it didn't work with my teachers and I'm sure as heck not gonna try it on a PYL< should I find one.

I hope your Master is as understanding as you say and gives you another chance.