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What pissed you off today? Mark III

People that think their own narrow minded viewpoint (the "normal" one) means that others are wrong for assigning a different definition to a label, which doesn't conflict with anyone elses viewpoint on it when everyone has their own.

The idiot tried to hide behind "BDSM rules" and state "If there's no more activity then it's still aftercare". I am of the mind that if there's no activity with someone that state they don't want or desire aftercare then it is not aftercare. For me (and others I asked) aftercare needs to involve something happening. Everything is subjective. But in this case it's about how ANOTHER views it as well. ZERO acknowledgement of how others view things. And they gave me lectures to boot as if they knew everything about everything. Needless to say I put them on block. Being a dom doesn't mean "I get to walk over who I please and refuse to consider other peoples viewpoints. I'll just pretend I fail to see where they're clearly coming from when they state how an outsider views things."

Also "nice" people complaining about me "grading" posts when they did it with me. Sure, in "nice" tones but that's just dishonest about it. I at least was blunt on the matter. Who gives me the right to do that? ME! That's fucking who. I decide for me and others decide for them. No "should" about it. That and a owner that has my consent. Even then it's my choice to obey or not. How do people in BDSM overlook such simple logic? Wasn't on this site, fortunately.

And that's enough of that. Not going to waste any more time on thinking about narrow minded idiots that can't consider the opinions of others and tries to make their choices without consent. Ahh, I can feel myself being happier by caring less already.
 
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People that think their own narrow minded viewpoint (the "normal" one) means that others are wrong for assigning a different definition to a label, which doesn't conflict with anyone elses viewpoint on it when everyone has their own.

The idiot tried to hide behind "BDSM rules" and state "If there's no more activity then it's still aftercare". I am of the mind that if there's no activity with someone that state they don't want or desire aftercare then it is not aftercare. For me (and others I asked) aftercare needs to involve something happening. Everything is subjective. But in this case it's about how ANOTHER views it as well. ZERO acknowledgement of how others view things. And they gave me lectures to boot as if they knew everything about everything. Needless to say I put them on block. Being a dom doesn't mean "I get to walk over who I please and refuse to consider other peoples viewpoints. I'll just pretend I fail to see where they're clearly coming from when they state how an outsider views things."

Also "nice" people complaining about me "grading" posts when they did it with me. Sure, in "nice" tones but that's just dishonest about it. I at least was blunt on the matter. Who gives me the right to do that? ME! That's fucking who. I decide for me and others decide for them. No "should" about it. That and a owner that has my consent. Even then it's my choice to obey or not. How do people in BDSM overlook such simple logic? Wasn't on this site, fortunately.

And that's enough of that. Not going to waste any more time on thinking about narrow minded idiots that can't consider the opinions of others and tries to make their choices without consent. Ahh, I can feel myself being happier by caring less already.
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I negotiate after care as much as anything else in the scene, part of my job to cover the bases if I'm weilding the crop. Admittedly, I have to because of my history as a medic and being partly disabled now. Either way, everyone has different post-scene needs and that's something to be understood on both sides of the paddle. Prepping that before hand can be a "mind in the game" for both parties. Or an independent task set out with exact specifics depending on the scene. Even if you just need water and a snack, or a cuddle, electic blankets and more, this should be part of new pair planning at a minimum. Communication is how any relationship works.

Guy sounds like a bad dom that probably doesn't keep irl girls long in collar before they toss it at his feet or crotch.


My rant- I fell, hips went nope and the door frame won against my left hip, side and shoulder upon contact. Wasn't the howling keen of the wrist sprain earlier this year but geeze it's painful and frustrating. Least the rib cage spasms stopped. Those make breathing rough.
 
Vixandra said:
I negotiate after care as much as anything else in the scene, part of my job to cover the bases if I'm weilding the crop. Admittedly, I have to because of my history as a medic and being partly disabled now. Either way, everyone has different post-scene needs and that's something to be understood on both sides of the paddle. Prepping that before hand can be a "mind in the game" for both parties. Or an independent task set out with exact specifics depending on the scene. Even if you just need water and a snack, or a cuddle, electic blankets and more, this should be part of new pair planning at a minimum. Communication is how any relationship works.

Guy sounds like a bad dom that probably doesn't keep irl girls long in collar before they toss it at his feet or crotch.


My rant- I fell, hips went nope and the door frame won against my left hip, side and shoulder upon contact. Wasn't the howling keen of the wrist sprain earlier this year but geeze it's painful and frustrating. Least the rib cage spasms stopped. Those make breathing rough.
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Some people actually get scared about aftercare if you can believe that. For my part it's more of a "always lifestyle so always during with no after" thing (no scenes basically). It's never something that should be assumed to be wanted (or any other thing for that matter). When one is already close already communication tends to be happening already too. Much "just happens" without having to be agreed upon due to simply stating "I've made it clear I'm into this or not into that." I consider it a good thing. Obviously not as likely to occur with people you don't get more personal with.

I imagine some people don't want aftercare to prevent getting "that close". Perhaps even due to said lack of closeness, ironically. Something as simple as a snack might not count for a number of people too. Everyone has their own phrase of it I suppose. When I say "activity" I mean going out of your way to "be there". Not tossing a blanket and a candy bar. That's my definition towards aftercare. Technically there's "Caring enough to treat someone like shit and not cuddle after because it's what they want" but I doubt that context comes to mind for a lot of people in the situation. Even if it is technically accurate.

Also this was a female, not a male.

Rant of the day: Why on earth does bacon come with fat that needs peeling off? I don't really mind pulling it off with my hands but yikes. On a side note it comes off easier then you'd think. Try it. Then rant about how I gave you that idea. I dare you. :devil:
 
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The system crashing at work because someone turned off the a/c in the server room!
 
"We dislike Cuba for no reason whatsoever, so I'm going to condemn hundreds, possibly thousands, of Americans with cancers who visit Cuba to acquire their lung cancer vaccine to death by making it significantly harder to travel to Cuba from the US unsupervised and specifically ban travel to Cuba for health reasons." ~Trump

These are people who might be nearing the end of their life and just want to squeeze a few more years in by getting a new method of treatment that isn't available internationally yet. And the apes in your government intend to eliminate their ability to do that for petty brownie points with the most maniacal members of their voter base.

:mad::mad::mad:
 
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Coding anxiety. Every time I encounter a bug in my program it feels like the end of the world and I usually spend longer fretting about it than it actually takes to fix the damn thing.
 
at midnight: it's 31 degrees (88 F), humid as hell, and our taps only give hot water. This is not the weather I requested.
 
Someone's natural assumption that, since I was talking with him at Starbucks, I wanted his phone number, and his reaction to my declination.
 
Waiting in DMV line and then some one not answering their phone every single damn time I tried.
 
A new worker who thought that his suggestion to me was a command and when I didn't immediately do as he said, he went to his supervisor.
 
Asshats that tell you they are going to do something, then don't without even contacting you to reschedule until hours after the expected time.
 
The other half bring home the crud so you both end up sick.

Somewhere in the fine print of the marriage license I know it states that we are not allowed to be sick at the same time.

It really sucks because I'm the one that doesn't get any coddling. :(
 
Myself, not catching that "gee if something looks like Brail I should try a translator" when responding to someone on a fibro board. Check the OP's profile after they replied to my request for clarification- they're legally blind and I'm an ass. I apologized because I should have checked the profile first- shit I hate not having my contacts in, I can't imagine being legit blind with this crap. And I'd never want to make someone with that load have a worse day when they were asking for help.
 
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