What our parents told us about sex

[Route66Girl]

Nothing! They told me NOTHING!

I was an especially curious kid, too. I'd looked it up in the encyclopedia, and the next door neighbor boy kept wanting to play "doctor." (I obliged) When I was eleven, I ASKED my Mom for "the big talk." "Tell me about sex!" I whispered in her ear one day.

She shied away.

The content of the advice my parents gave me about sex and relationships was: "Ask your father," "Ask your mother," "Don't marry a foreigner," and "We'll disown you if you become a prostitute." Thanks, folks.

Any information I managed to get came from outside the home.

Now, I'm not slamming my parents. They're great people, not particularly uptight, and in just about every other respect I was well-guided.

But these days I can't help but wonder whether or not stumbling around finding things out for myself was a good thing or a bad thing. My road to discovering sexuality was rocky at best, so it couldn't have been particularly good.

I got the idea for this from the "Lies adults told us when we were kids" thread. I didn't even get any lies!

So, what did your parents tell you about sex? Was it helpful or harmful?

 

[Sillyman]

My parents told me everything. I mean everything. Where babies come from, what gay people are, how gay people have sex, whips and chains, they bought me magazines, just everything. I feel highly indebted to them for that.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

You mean parents were meant to use the S-E-X word, and discribe what it is all about??????

 

[bharman4102]

Mine told me at a young age about sperm and eggs, and had me watch something on PBS....never thought about asking them how that sperm got in there, or how good it felt letting the little guys go for a swim! I finally figured it all out looking at a Gallery magazine spread when I was like 11? Of course, that girl had the hugest pussy lips I have even seen, live or otherwise, so I was certain all girls had them like that!

 

[ilovewriting]

My parents didnt try the sex talk with me until i was about 12. By then i knew everything i needed to know.
Good for them because they were VERY uncomfortable about talking about sex lol.

 

[Ishmael]

Nothing! They told me NOTHING!

I was an especially curious kid, too. I'd looked it up in the encyclopedia, and the next door neighbor boy kept wanting to play "doctor." (I obliged) When I was eleven, I ASKED my Mom for "the big talk." "Tell me about sex!" I whispered in her ear one day.

She shied away.

The content of the advice my parents gave me about sex and relationships was: "Ask your father," "Ask your mother," "Don't marry a foreigner," and "We'll disown you if you become a prostitute." Thanks, folks.

Any information I managed to get came from outside the home.

Now, I'm not slamming my parents. They're great people, not particularly uptight, and in just about every other respect I was well-guided.

But these days I can't help but wonder whether or not stumbling around finding things out for myself was a good thing or a bad thing. My road to discovering sexuality was rocky at best, so it couldn't have been particularly good.

I got the idea for this from the "Lies adults told us when we were kids" thread. I didn't even get any lies!

So, what did your parents tell you about sex? Was it helpful or harmful?

LOL Yep, sorta.

I was told a little but never had the "Big" talk.

When I was 14 my father caught me with two sisters that lived down the street a few houses.

The next morning he smiled at me and said, "I guess I don't have to have a talk about sex with you now."

I said, "Uhhhhhhh, I guess not. But I do have a question."

"Well?" He said.

"Uhhhhh, when can girls get pregnant Dad?"

He looked me right in the eye and said "Anytime they want to son." He smiled and winked and changed the subject.

Ishmael

 

[nasty]

I don't think my parents told me anything about sex. What I learned, I learned in Sex Ed.

 

[ybavg]

My parents told me nothing. I found out everything from reading, talking to other teenagers at the time, and trial and error. Lots of reading tho.

 

[SINthysist]

STOP WATCHING! GO OUTSIDE AND PLAY!

 

[zantac666]

My mother she gave me a set of 4 books that told everyting about boys and girls and sex had pics. and every friend of minewanted to see them.

Then there was this lady i know and i still go by and see how shes is and talk but several years ago she used me as a teaching instrument her 12 yr. old was asking her about sex when i was there on day she said will you do something for me i said sure she said stand up and i did she pulled my pants down and told her daughter this is a penis and when you rub them they grow and she said and when you do it long enough they squirt out seamen her daughter ask what it looks like so the mother jacked me off to show her and the mother said this is what gets you pregnant.

The girl asked how do get pregnant she said that the man will inser his penis inyour virgina the girl goes no way i'm going to do that.

The girl was a virgin when she got married and she was 22.

She has two children now.

 

[riff]

I learned it all from my brother who is 3 years older than me.

When I was 11, I think, one night after a couple of drinks my dad takes me out in the back yard and says, 'riff, do you know why god made you a boy?"

"Yeah, Dad. David told me all about it."

"Great," was his his answer. LOL hehehe

 

[WhiteRose]

My mother still whispers the word "period", and if I happen to begin menstruating while I'm visiting them (I'm not very regular, and the only way I can tell it's coming is my mood swings, voracious sexual appetite, sleepiness, and chocolate cravings), she refuses to let me go to the store by myself to buy pads and insists on going for me. I'm not sure who she thinks is buying them for me the rest of the time, since I moved out of her house 13 years ago.

My father's only words of advice about sex were, "If you ever do anything, I don't want to know about it!" Poor daddy

 

[ag2507]

Quote: "I see you're growing hair down there: you'd better read this" handing me the Good Housekeeping Family Encyclopedia.

They were much too late: it had been read long before...

A

 

[Lovepotion69]

I found out about sex via the puberty chapter in my 5th grade textbook. And newspapers, TV, books and friends. Then later we had sex ed, but most people knew the stuff by then (in theory!).

When I was moving to England I just remember dad one night saying "I don't care what you may be doing, I don't want to know, but if you are doing it just don't get pregnant or sick. You live in the 20th century, there's tons of information out there, you know the score".

At some point later mom and I had a talk in general terms where she basically said she'd prefer me to wait until I got married. I told her I wouldn't, whereby she wondered why not. I answered; "Because I may never get married". Poor mom. I just wanted to make it a point to her that I'd definitely do it before marriage. Since then she's been trying to get it out of me if I've done it, even asked me straight. I think I'm entitled to a private life, so I keep shut.

 

[InnocentAngel81]

there was supposed to be a talk??? omg was there a test too?? I never got any of that I learned everything from cable tv. even then I was still a little screwed up. I didnt know that I had a little hole in my body that would soon lead to one of the greatest places on earth. Hell I didnt even know about that time of the month I was afraid I was going to die. "I dont trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesnt die" my mom practice screwed me up so I dont even act like a girl. I fear going down the tampon aisle, victoria secret, and the bra area of any store. I dont know how to use make up. I shopped in the mens department through high school, just discovering dressing like a girl, wow what a concept.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

My parents told me nothing
they told my brother nothing (he now has 2 kids)
they told my sister noghint (she's now a slut and has 2 kids)
they told my other sister nothing.

three of us in our 20 two of which obviousl have done it, my parents almost 45 and 'still' can't talk about sex lol

situation sex comes up, my dad bitches and complains, my mom changes the subject.

 

[DevilBoy79]

eh was no big thing here i knew about it from like age 5 (mom was a nurse and not shy about discussing this - hell even told me she would buy the condoms if i needed them, which felt kinda weired so it never has happened thank god), slept through sex ed/health passed with damn near 100, just a natural i guess

 

[Tap-Out]

My parents didn't tell me anything either. I had to pick everything up from the school yard, or reading on my own.

 

[Kitte]

I got the book 'Where do I come from?' when I was about 7 I still remember reading vividly that it was like tickleing for a really long time and that an orgasm was like a sneeze! But my mom was pretty open with me and I had an older brother and sister and of course the requisite neighbourhood boys who loved sharing that information!

 

[paphian]

They gave me some book that covered the basic biology. The rest I learned by being a willing student

 

[StrawberryPez]

My mother told me anything i wanted to know....well anything she could answer. If she couldn't see'd find out for me. She was great...now i know more than her and she asks me for advice LOL

But the one thing she said that stuck in my mind was "Sex is like sugar...you have it once..you want more" God was she right....

Then my dad said "Actually i think it's like Pringles....once you pop you can't stop" LOL

 

[AzureAngel]

NEVER HAVE IT!

 

[Hamletmaschine]

My parents gave me a feeble, embarrassed, vague explanation of the basics when I was about 10 or 11. Didn't say another word about it until I went on my first date in high school.

Then my dad pulled me aside, handed me a quarter and said, "You know those machines they have in the restrooms at the gas stations? Here's a quarter, just be sure to stop in there before you do something stupid."

 

[lavender]