"What Men Want" ... What about what I want?!?

[SweetAlizsa]

After reading the "how-to" on how to supposedly keeping my man happy, I have one question:

What about men that work a lot, and come home to whine about how tired they are? Mine does. I take care of the baby, I keep the house clean, and I have dinner and a beer ready for him when he gets home! He's got a HOT little nympho, but he's the one whining about how tired HE is!

We're married, and we agreed that we wouldn't become a boring "old" married couple!(we're only 21 and 23!) We've been together since August of 2001, and we're very close emotionally, and extremely close in our spirits.:

I KNOW he's Not Cheating. Absolutely impossible. Not that I'm being niave, but it's just totally against the kind of person he is. And it's totally against the way we feel about each other.
I know he's truly my soul mate, and I was just wondering if there's any way to get him a little more engergy... just about an extra hour's worth, I guess! LOL!
Or am I just doomed to be with a man that only wants sex once a week? Is that even heard of? A man that only wants sex once a week, twicetops??

 

[Zanzibar]

Some suggestions that worked on me while I was putting 3 months worth of 12 hour days for proposals.

Learn how to give massages if you don't know already. Some wine instead of beer (or even a mixed drink, like a daquiri or margarita (Strawberry daquiri's worked for me))

Break out some candles, some soft music, some warm oil and a massage... nine times out of ten turned into a night of romance.

Another possibility is to have someone take care of the kid(s) for the night, and get a hotel room somewhere for just the two of you. Doesn't have to be fancy, just make the effort for it to be something special. Dress up, go dancing, then back to the hotel...

Good luck with your situation!

Zan

 

[Guest]

I gotta say, what makes me happy, what turns me on the most, is making my woman happy. If she hasn't had at least one orgasm, I'm not finished. And when she does orgasm it makes it damn hard for me to hold back.

Let's face it, with most men, just getting laid makes them happy. But to be truly great sex, it has to be a shared experience. If she isn't in to it, it's not going to be very satisfying for me. In fact I'd rate that kind of sex one notch above masturbation.

 

[nicegirl69]

Honey I'm sure it's not you. He's probably not feeling very sexy at the end of the day. He also may not have the sex drive you do.
Here's one suggestion...after you put the baby in bed, put him in a hot bath and lightly scrub him from head to toe with a coarse cloth while you talk about his day. He can't focus his energy on you until he's had a chance to unwind. Plus, hot water and a scrub will "wash off the day" and get his blood pumping. Wear something cute and talk dirty to him if you're comfortable being naughty. What ever you do, do not rub, wash or massage his cock for more than a minute or two. Make him wait until after for that. He'll be invigorated and all over you.
Erotic dancing is great too.
If you're the adventurous type, bring one of your girlfriends home and flirt with her in front of him. It sounds silly but I can tell you from personal experience that men LOVE IT when women flirt with each other. I am totally straight (and my husband knows/hates it) but my best friend and I flirt with each other after we've had a couple of drinks. It drives our husbands crazy.
I know it's not fair that you're doing all the work here. Believe me I feel for you and agree it's not right. But someone has to. Don't give up and do whatever it takes to keep it hot. At least you're doing something about the problem instead of running around! Hang in there girl!