What makes you respond to a personal?

[Petulence]

I have a new-ish account but I've lurked here for a while. Having responded to a few posts on this board, one thing I've noticed is if you don't have an extensive post history, your odds of being dismissed are exponentially higher.

Having said that, I'm curious to know what makes you respond to a personals post? Are there limiting criteria that scratch a post off the list for you?

Grammar?

Too suggestive up front?

Too short or doesnt meet a minimum word count?

Too vague or unrealistic?

Let me know so I can create my own post here that won't waste anybody's time.

 

[AlliaPotestas]

I have a new-ish account but I've lurked here for a while. Having responded to a few posts on this board, one thing I've noticed is if you don't have an extensive post history, your odds of being dismissed are exponentially higher.

Having said that, I'm curious to know what makes you respond to a personals post? Are there limiting criteria that scratch a post off the list for you?

Grammar?

Too suggestive up front?

Too short or doesnt meet a minimum word count?

Too vague or unrealistic?

Let me know so I can create my own post here that won't waste anybody's time.

It’s a competitive market place - your best chances are to be authentic and talk about what interests you... there are a lot of relatively bland ads, anything that gets your personality across can only be a good thing.

If there are any deal breakers for you be upfront, if you are only interested in online or want to eventually want to take it offline be upfront...

Bonus points if your ad is both interesting and funny, best of luck lovely, x

 

[lovetporoleplay1]

It’s a competitive market place - your best chances are to be authentic and talk about what interests you... there are a lot of relatively bland ads, anything that gets your personality across can only be a good thing.

If there are any deal breakers for you be upfront, if you are only interested in online or want to eventually want to take it offline be upfront...

Bonus points if your ad is both interesting and funny, best of luck lovely, x

Best advice ever. Stick to this plan. Where were these guidelines when I first joined?

 

[Petulence]

It’s a competitive market place - your best chances are to be authentic and talk about what interests you... there are a lot of relatively bland ads, anything that gets your personality across can only be a good thing.

If there are any deal breakers for you be upfront, if you are only interested in online or want to eventually want to take it offline be upfront...

Bonus points if your ad is both interesting and funny, best of luck lovely, x

Sound advice, of course. I will incorporate all of this into my next personal, thank you much.

 

[Jada59]

Usually it's the smart ass in me that takes over. Then I respond.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Well, I will be honest, I almost never respond to personal ads. Reasons why I don't respond:

They list a bunch of requirements. If something is an absolute deal breaker or must have, list it, but be clear, and careful to not make your window too small. I have seen many an ad say like 25 to 39. Ok, I am 40, so no, I won't contact them. Using vague subjective terms as requirements also makes me question whether I meet that requirement.

Heavy text speak
Sounding depressed and lonely (I am here for fun)
Sounding angry, hostile, or overly arrogant
Sounding creeptastic.
Low post count and just looking for a fast cam to get off. I do appreciate the honesty, but I can do that with someone I have seen around enough to know they aren't creeptastic.

The few ads that I have responded to sound light, somewhat funny, haven't eliminated me as a person worth talking to based on their requirements, are welcoming, and the big thing that lures me into a message is aluding to something very unique but not giving me the information, thus I wonder and message just to get details. Curiosity always gets me.

I am much more likely to message someone who is placing no expectations on me or the conversation, has very few requirements, and is just welcoming conversation, than I am the people with this perfect ideal in their head. Downside to this is you may get people who aren't what you are looking for. Upside is sometimes what you aren't looking for is the best find. Some of the most amazing people that I have met here would not meet my ideal on paper, yet I would rather be talking with them than others who do.

 

[bi11ionaire]

I'd respond if the post contained something that piqued my interest, showed that there was some thought that went into writing it and that she seemed like she was sure of what she wanted. Assertiveness, a wonderful vocabulary and clarity of thought are amazingly hot!

If she throws in something clever, has a pop-culture reference or something else that shows she's a good combination of book-smart and street-smart, I'm a goner!

 

[quietlylooking]

I haven't responded to too many personals here on Lit, but those that interest me are usually written by men whose intelligence and education is obvious from their ad, their other posts, and their signature/profile. It's important that certain bits of information are available on Lit in one of those places without having to ask: gender, gender preference, approximate age, type of relationship that is being sought, and a few general interests to assess commonalities. If there are significant discrepancies that I can easily find in their Lit posts (age, height, etc.) I probably won't respond. The ad has to have a positive vibe overall, and a sense of humor really helps. If there is a long list of deal breakers or turnoffs, that makes it less likely I'll fit those requirements and respond. It has to look like they spend some time considering their ad, checking spelling, etc. before spelling.

Then again, I'm picky.

 

[Replicant2018]

I haven't responded to too many personals here on Lit, but those that interest me are usually written by men whose intelligence and education is obvious from their ad, their other posts, and their signature/profile. It's important that certain bits of information are available on Lit in one of those places without having to ask: gender, gender preference, approximate age, type of relationship that is being sought, and a few general interests to assess commonalities. If there are significant discrepancies that I can easily find in their Lit posts (age, height, etc.) I probably won't respond. The ad has to have a positive vibe overall, and a sense of humor really helps. If there is a long list of deal breakers or turnoffs, that makes it less likely I'll fit those requirements and respond. It has to look like they spend some time considering their ad, checking spelling, etc. before spelling.

Then again, I'm picky.

If you would like to PM. I’m 66.

 

[Poprockz]

Well, I will be honest, I almost never respond to personal ads. Reasons why I don't respond:

They list a bunch of requirements. If something is an absolute deal breaker or must have, list it, but be clear, and careful to not make your window too small. I have seen many an ad say like 25 to 39. Ok, I am 40, so no, I won't contact them. Using vague subjective terms as requirements also makes me question whether I meet that requirement.

Heavy text speak
Sounding depressed and lonely (I am here for fun)
Sounding angry, hostile, or overly arrogant
Sounding creeptastic.
Low post count and just looking for a fast cam to get off. I do appreciate the honesty, but I can do that with someone I have seen around enough to know they aren't creeptastic.

The few ads that I have responded to sound light, somewhat funny, haven't eliminated me as a person worth talking to based on their requirements, are welcoming, and the big thing that lures me into a message is aluding to something very unique but not giving me the information, thus I wonder and message just to get details. Curiosity always gets me.

I am much more likely to message someone who is placing no expectations on me or the conversation, has very few requirements, and is just welcoming conversation, than I am the people with this perfect ideal in their head. Downside to this is you may get people who aren't what you are looking for. Upside is sometimes what you aren't looking for is the best find. Some of the most amazing people that I have met here would not meet my ideal on paper, yet I would rather be talking with them than others who do.

This.

Although, I'm one of those users who are uninterested in anything but reading, writing, and participating in sexy rpg's. So I typically don't respond to personals unless they're fun discussion topics.

 

[Jackba57]

It’s a competitive market place - your best chances are to be authentic and talk about what interests you... there are a lot of relatively bland ads, anything that gets your personality across can only be a good thing.

If there are any deal breakers for you be upfront, if you are only interested in online or want to eventually want to take it offline be upfront...

Bonus points if your ad is both interesting and funny, best of luck lovely, x

You are absolutely right! No wonder no one talks to me lol.

 

[Chris_Michael]

If she's attractive. *shrugs*

 

[daizyduke77]

I’m random. Something in the post has to really interest me. Or, if something makes me giggle I may take the leap and send a message. If the message sounds generic, I’m passing it by.

 

[Sexysweet7]

If you are genuine and funny, you'll usually get my attention.

 

[Mei5ter]

I have only ever replied to one personal ad here.

As a result of that experience, I tend only to engage with people who have a posting history. That way, I have some confidence they are who they claim to be, and that they aren't going to vanish five minutes later.

Beyond that, all I'd suggest is to be honest and open minded about what you're looking for. I have met four or five genuinely lovely people here in ways I'd never have expected. If you're really looking to meet someone in person then go for it and good luck - but if you're too prescriptive you may miss out on making friendships with people who aren't or can't, for example.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I tend to respond only when one is being stupid, needs a kick in the gut, or otherwise I'm in the mood to dish out a little piece of my mind. So, I'm not really much the typical audience for the personal ads. I read them more for my amusement than anything else, to be honest.

That said, if you're serious about placing an ad here, be upfront about what you're expecting. Be honest about your current relationship status. It's okay to have preferences, but it's not ok to be a dick about them.

I'd suggest being specific in the beginning about any sexual deviance that turns your crank, so to speak. The last thing you want is to find someone you might be compatible with only for her to learn you really want to smear shit all over her before fucking her in a giant FR bib ....

Just sayin'..

Good grammar is a plus, but seeing how a large population nowadays uses their phones to surf the web, and are limited to teeny tiny keyboards, I think *reasonably intelligent * people understand that autocorrect is a complete bitch. Forgiveness of typographical errors is a virtue!!

If I didn't emphasize it above....not being a complete dick will work in your favor.

I'm sure I've missed a few pointers, but if you manage stay out of the drama around here, you'll probably be fine.

And, don't forget the part about NOT being a dick..ok?

Cool.

 

[occasional_lovers]

Literacy, intelligence, and humor is a motive for me to pm him. A history of witty comments on other threads, or on my personal thread, is a great motive.
Personals reading "I want to chat because I 'm bored" and usernames such as "hardtool4fuckingUendlessly&mercilessly" are a deterrent (sorry guys, I 'm sure there are thousands of great women who like it), although I 'd like gim to be hard and fuck me endlessly and mercilessly it I ever meet him in flesh.

 

[NiceScottishGuy]

Plenty of info, comes across genuine and manners. Love a polite lady haha

 

[Rachaelxx]

I prefer low post counts. Shows someone has a more balanced life.

 

[StarGazer58]

There are certain threads on the personals that I respond to if the topic interests me but I rarely respond when it is a person looking for someone specific. Mostly because the vast majority of personals are posted by guys and the few women that post are mostly looking for RP partners which is something that I am not into.

 

[mijayoo]

I enjoy humor and well written post.