What makes hatefuck good?

[DarkSollat]

I've decided my next story will be about hatefuck. And I would like to ask you, what makes hatefuck hot? Like what things, tropes, motives etc.

 

[Brandnewbuddy]

Plain and simple catharsis. Like my favorite hatefuck story is “kisscam” because the whole story, you see it from MC’s point of view, How her brother is spoiled rotten and a bit of a pig, but at the same time you see how she is pushing his buttons and the two of them hit a point where it’s either going to come to blows or a hatefuck and they’re already nude soooooo….

Even if you haven’t had a hatefuck you can feel the same thing as the characters. After all arousal isn’t just erotic, it’s the blood pumping, it’s your senses getting heightened, it’s the fight or flight response, and if you’ve been mad enough you can have your heart beating just as hard as if you’re with an attractive partner for the first time…and in both cases, you need a release.

 

[DarkSollat]

Plain and simple catharsis. Like my favorite hatefuck story is “kisscam” because the whole story, you see it from MC’s point of view, How her brother is spoiled rotten and a bit of a pig, but at the same time you see how she is pushing his buttons and the two of them hit a point where it’s either going to come to blows or a hatefuck and they’re already nude soooooo….

Even if you haven’t had a hatefuck you can feel the same thing as the characters. After all arousal isn’t just erotic, it’s the blood pumping, it’s your senses getting heightened, it’s the fight or flight response, and if you’ve been mad enough you can have your heart beating just as hard as if you’re with an attractive partner for the first time…and in both cases, you need a release.

Yep, read that story and favored it xD

 

[Rob_Royale]

I have known a couple that hated one another but couldn't keep their hands off one another. They were just two exes who had a bad breakup, but they were SO sexually compatible they kept visiting one another for a hot night. Loudest sex I've ever heard. Insults, screaming, crying, wailing, you name it. The next day we'd see scratches and bruises. Hatred is a passionate emotion.

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

while I’ve never actually hate fucked anyone, it makes for an a rousing read. For this reader, it’s one thing: unbridled intensity.

 

[ZfrkS62]

I have known a couple that hated one another but couldn't keep their hands off one another. They were just two exes who had a bad breakup, but they were SO sexually compatible they kept visiting one another for a hot night. Loudest sex I've ever heard. Insults, screaming, crying, wailing, you name it. The next day we'd see scratches and bruises. Hatred is a passionate emotion.

Probably makes the choking and impact sex that much more intense. No point in a safe word cuz the other probably doesn't care.


Hatred and rage are another form of passion, so it's not hard to deduce that it can be channeled into intense physical release with the right chemistry. I haven't done it myself but if you put a competitive edge on it, one trying to break the other, then I don't think it'd be too hard to write. It still ends the same way. Exhaustion, fleeting euphoria, stress release, and a wet spot on whatever piece of furniture it took place one.

 

[CuttingEdge]

I wrote a hate-fuck scene in a non-erotic novel. I won't lie; it was THE HARDEST scene I have ever written, ever, and not sure I fully pulled it off to be honest with everyone.

The novel was a reverse mystery, so think Columbo here. The reader knows who is the murderer, its the fascinating way that they are revealed that makes the story interesting. In this situation a wife's husband had been assassinated, and she took revenge by killing the two men who took out her husband. However, in this situation, the detective wanted to get the woman to break down her defenses because he KNEW she killed two people, yet she wanted to throw the detective off so she let him have sex with her. The difficult part came about by each being very untrusting of the other, yet chemistry was pulling them together... literally, physically... together. I conveyed the struggle by symbolism... of them fighting over whether the light was to be left on or not as they had sex. He wanted it on, because he did not trust the murderer he was sleeping with, and she wanted it off because she was ashamed of having sex so soon after becoming a widow, but felt she had too.

I encourage everyone to write one. It is incredibly hard to pull off well, but will also challenge and improve your writing skills by really getting out of your writing comfort zone. Kudo's to you @DarkSollat for trying something so challenging!

 

[DarkSollat]

I wrote a hate-fuck scene in a non-erotic novel. I won't lie; it was THE HARDEST scene I have ever written, ever, and not sure I fully pulled it off to be honest with everyone.

The novel was a reverse mystery, so think Columbo here. The reader knows who is the murderer, its the fascinating way that they are revealed that makes the story interesting. In this situation a wife's husband had been assassinated, and she took revenge by killing the two men who took out her husband. However, in this situation, the detective wanted to get the woman to break down her defenses because he KNEW she killed two people, yet she wanted to throw the detective off so she let him have sex with her. The difficult part came about by each being very untrusting of the other, yet chemistry was pulling them together... literally, physically... together. I conveyed the struggle by symbolism... of them fighting over whether the light was to be left on or not as they had sex. He wanted it on, because he did not trust the murderer he was sleeping with, and she wanted it off because she was ashamed of having sex so soon after becoming a widow, but felt she had too.

I encourage everyone to write one. It is incredibly hard to pull off well, but will also challenge and improve your writing skills by really getting out of your writing comfort zone. Kudo's to you @DarkSollat for trying something so challenging!

Jeez, and here I was just wanting to mix "fuck me" and "hate you" in one sentence.

 

[AchtungNight]

Hate sex is real when you can discern who the hate target really is. Usually it’s the hater hating themselves for not being able to admit they actually like the target of their so-called hate. An activity can also be the hate sex activity. Ie a professed faithful wife indulging in repeated one night stands at the local bar while professing she is having hate sex with random strangers.

 

[FantasySharer1]

Sister-in-law (wife's sister) hatefucks are my favorite hatefuck fantasy.

Just a total bitch sister-in-law who is a 10/10 compared to the 8/10 wife. Husband wants her so bad but hates her personality. Bitch sister in law has soft heart inside but this bitchy exterior.

Husband super successful.
Wife is stay at home.
Wife's sister in super successful and works HARD for success. Resents her married sister for her carefree rich life, while she herself has to work hard for the success.

Husband and wife's sister constantly getting in on while not being able to stand each other.

 

[CurtGiles46]

To me, the ultimate hatefuck would be within the family. Stepson/Stepmother. Stepson hates that his Stepmother took the place of his Mother. He hates his Stepmother’s whole personality.

But it increases his anger that he secretly loves her body. He hates admitting to himself that she has big tits and a great ass. Making things worse, his Stepmother smirks whenever she catches him checking out her body.