What makes a person good in bed?

[Lovepotion69]

So I keep hearing friends asking each other "Is he/she good in bed? *wink wink,nudge nudge, know what I mean*"

I've at some point been referred to as good in bed (God knows why) LOL

I know that of course it's all up to emotional attachment in the long run, it enchances everything, but c'mon when we ask that question, it's hardly the emotional aspect we're referring to!

So, I'm just wondering, what makes a person good in bed?

/LP

 

[Wiggles]

I think it's a lack of inhibitions, eagerness, tenderness, energy, rhthym, experience, playfullness and the ability to ummm... ride without falling off.

lol

 

[red_rose]

In general... I think active involvement make someone good in bed. If you just lie there like a cold fish, that's not gonna do.

Outside of that, it's all chemistry, I think.

It's very rare for someone to melt me on the first try... usually there has to be some communication and some hit & miss runs before things start to level out.

 

[someplace]

Blind raging naked ENTHUSIASM!

 

[Diablogrl]

lots of things...sometimes its the chemistry of the person you are with, sometimes its just the fact that you can feel comfortable with the person. As a female, sometimes its my partner's receptivity to taking "suggestions" gracefully.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

everything wiggles said, but then I have to add... courtesy. If you go out of your way to please your lover, it's pretty much assured that you'll be told you're good in bed.

 

[Lovepotion69]

I think it's a lack of inhibitions, eagerness, tenderness, energy, rhthym, experience, playfullness and the ability to ummm... ride without falling off.

lol

Wiggles,
I think you got it all with! And the ride without falling off...hehe yeah, that's a bonus....

/LP

 

[Wiggles]

Blind raging naked ENTHUSIASM!

Laughing my ass off here, just thought you should know. LoL

 

[Lovepotion69]

In general... I think active involvement make someone good in bed. If you just lie there like a cold fish, that's not gonna do.

Outside of that, it's all chemistry, I think.

It's very rare for someone to melt me on the first try... usually there has to be some communication and some hit & miss runs before things start to level out.

I agree on the active involement thing Red_Rose. Definitely needs to be some proper action going on, otherwise, where's the enjoyment?

Chemistry is also a huge factor yes. But I think that even though I've had personal chemistry with someone, I at times just felt the sex itself wasn't all that... Was I being too superficial?

I look at sex with a new man as almost losing my virginity again. LOL. I do not expect it to be good, I believe it takes some time and communication to make it get really good. Still, there are people that just make you tick straight away...mmmm....

/LP

 

[Lovepotion69]

everything wiggles said, but then I have to add... courtesy. If you go out of your way to please your lover, it's pretty much assured that you'll be told you're good in bed.

Vixen!
Yes, wanting to please is also on the top list.

And, I just gotta say I really love this AV.... I tried drawing you last night, but it didn't work out too well. I'll tell you if it'll turn out ok next time!

/LP

 

[1hotjob]

I'd prefer someone who's bad in bed.

A VERY VERY BAD Girl!!!

 

[Nora]

*dusting off the distant memories*

I think that the most important thing is actually giving a rat's ass if the other person enjoys it. Paying attention to their signals, both verbal and non-verbal AND acting on them. If you do something for your partner, do it because you want to (the enthusiam that Someplace mentions) and not because it's an expected chore or because it's the quickest way to Point B.

An honest, unselfish desire to please your partner can be more exciting than all the technique in the universe.





Oh, and don't call them by someone else's name. That's always a good tip.

 

[DéjàNu]

I'd prefer someone who's bad in bed.

A VERY VERY BAD Girl!!!

oh my a sighting of so sexy 1hotjob....

I like bad boy!!!

 

[someplace]

GAWD BLESS US Nora!!!!!!!

Originally posted by Nora
Oh, and don't call them by someone else's name. That's always a good tip.

Oh Fucking HELL!

Ohhhhhhh you crack me up sometimes!!!!! Shit!

I think I'm having apoplexy here!

 

[red_rose]

Oh, and don't call them by someone else's name. That's always a good tip.

Shit.. Sorry about that.

Will you give me another chance??

Puh-leeeeeeaase??

 

[someplace]

Now that I've caught my breath....

Laughing my ass off here, just thought you should know. LoL

I spoke off the top of my head first off. Upon more serious thought, I think what REALLY makes a good lover is one who is so into it, that they actually derive pleasure from the act of giving their partner pleasure. That is, without regard to any kind of scorekeeping such as "you cum, now I cum." It has to flow way beyond that. You can't be thinking of anything outside the bubble around your love-making -- no worrying about the kids, the chores, the job, etc. You must be totally focused on the sharing at hand. I hope that makes sense. I still choking over Miss Nora.....

 

[Nora]

Shit.. Sorry about that.

Will you give me another chance??

Puh-leeeeeeaase??

Depends, will you do that um..ya know...that "special" thing you do with your tongue for me? *leers*

 

[Phil333]

I think the number one thing, is a lover who puts their partner before themselves. Always trying to make sure that the other person is really loving what is going on.

Other things: Willing to try new things, communication, some type of rythm. I would say coordination but I'm really clumsy but when I get into the bedroom I don't really have that problem. Except once I elbowed my gf in the eye. She cried, then we laughed it off. But one accident in six months isn't so bad

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

Chemistry- physical, mental and emotional
Passion for the person you are with
Being adventurous and tender

 

[someplace]

Depends, will you do that um..ya know...that "special" thing you do with your tongue for me? *leers*

I just want to see it the first time <still pouting>

 

[Lovepotion69]

I'd prefer someone who's bad in bed.

A VERY VERY BAD Girl!!!

Mmmm, and how do I become BAD?


/LP

 

[nasty1]

It's very rare for someone to melt me on the first try

So, you wanna do at it, again?

 

[Nora]

I just want to see it the first time <still pouting>

You're not SPESHUL enough to see the tongue!!

Sorry about making you choke, btw. Well, unless you like that sorta thang...But that's for another thread *waggles brows*

 

[Lovepotion69]

Oh, and don't call them by someone else's name. That's always a good tip.

Hm, do I even need to KNOW their name?


Kidding!
/LP

 

[1hotjob]

oh my a sighting of so sexy 1hotjob....

I like bad boy!!!

Yes, I'm still breathing.


Nice AV