What kind of Master is he?

[KinkyKiki7]

I’m interested in what kind of Masters are out there. I have been a Slave for nearly 5 years to the same Master and am curious what other Masters are like. I am not looking for a new one so don’t get that impression- just curious about what other Masters do under certain areas.

Control- How does your Master show he’s in control? Mine personally has had me shave my pussy. That was the first thing he did to show me that I was his. He also brands me with the words SLAVE above my ass, and usually SLUT above my pussy. He has chosen out panties for me to wear on numerous occasions if he allows me to wear panties at all. He has also chosen outfits and told me whether or not it was acceptable to wear a bra.
Assignments: One way he shows control is that he also demands that I complete certain assignments/projects yet these are newer to our relationship. They can range from writing stories, posting, or reading Lit for ideas. I have only really been looking a Lit seriously and regularly for the last 8 months or so. I have enjoyed browsing for ideas and getting others opinion on certain things in the BDSM world. I have found that writing sexual stories is something that I’m not only good at but can really get into. I’ve only just started but can see it occurring more frequently. I also write a letter to him each night telling him whatever is on my mind. Initially it was supposed to be sexually orientated but has turned into more of anything that I’m thinking about- this has helped our relationship in all aspects including BDSM.

Spanking- How does your Master spank you- where and how many? My Master punishes usually for spankings but as he taught me early on, being his Slave there is reason enough to earn a spanking. His spankings can be anywhere from 15-50 depending on the area. I usually receive more to my ass and fewer to my pussy. He deeply enjoys reddening my ass and also enjoys the outcome it brings about in me. Some how being spanked turns me on and I have yet to figure out why.

Nipple Torture- What kinds? Master usually avoids nipple torture as he views them as fragile and precious. In return my pussy and thighs usually pay for it. But when he does torture my nipples it usually involves nipple clamps or clothespins. He does flick and twist them occasionally also, along with using a whip.

Restraints- What kinds? We have tried a number of things over the years from rope to belts to handcuffs to bondage tape and finally true restraints. We have found that the restraints we enjoy the most and the ones that get the point across without having to spend a lot of time on it are the Thigh Cuffs. We recently purchased them and they are an excellent addition to our collection. If you want to know where to purchase them- ask. They bind your wrist to your thighs while keeping your legs spread- amazing! When we have more of our own place- we are looking into the under the bed restraints.

Gentle or Fierce- Overall what kind of Master do you have? Overall my Master is amazing. He is stern and has high expectations yet he is caring and compassionate. He realizes that since I started off completely vanilla that I have truly come a long ways and in some sense he’s created a monster … He knows how to push me yet also knows when enough is enough. He has brought our sexual relationship to a level I never knew I would reach. He is a wonderful Master and a wonderful man.

 

[slavemarissa]

Hi,

Well, in my opinion we are still quite new, i have only known Him for a few months, but i feel that things are progressing very well. It is an online relationship so most of the things are not applicable to me such as spanking, nipple torture, and restraints, at least they aren't relevant at the moment.

Similarly to you, i send an email everynight to Him telling him about my day and what every thing i have been thinking. i love doing this, in my opinion i think it helps us to connect more having Him know every detail about my day that i can remember, and He does say He wants to know all about me.
Also, before i met Him, i had never worn a thong and would never have dreamed of doing so but He made me go and buy one and i have worn it on a couple of occasions. i really seem to crave that sort of control, but he is wanting to take it slow as i have some issues at home.

So far, he seems like a fairly gentle Master although, i can tell that as time goes on he will start to become more fierce. As i've said he's taking things quite slow but....


Anyway, the main reason i wanted to post on this thread was just to say a thank you for starting it. i can tell that this is going to become very informative in the future, for me anyway....

xxxxx

 

[intothewoods]

I have a Dom, but I don't call him Master.

Control- How does your Master show he’s in control?

He doesn't have a list of things he controls, but when he puts his foot down about something, I comply. We've talked about this a lot recently as our relationship has grown more serious. He doesn't want to micromanage my daily life. He doesn't want to take me out to parties and show me off. He primarily wants a partner, I would say, but on those occasions when he's made a decision, that is the final word.

Assignments: My "assignments" aren't abstract. I have looked through his health insurance information, done research for him on something he needed, scheduled his haircuts, and figured out the stylistic aspects of his home remodel (which will soon be our house). So it's whatever makes his life easier, pretty much.

Spanking- Spanking his hot. It's not punishment for us. Usually just comes up during sex.


Nipple Torture- Sadly, we don't do much of this.

Restraints- Mostly he is hands on. We do have leather cuffs though, and rope.


Gentle or Fierce- - Hmm. I would not call him gentle at all. I also wouldn't call him fierce. I would say that my Dom is pretty even-tempered, but you don't want to piss him off.

 

[KinkyKiki7]

Slavemarissa-
Thanks for replying- it's always interesting to see what others are doing! It's cool to find someone else who likes to communicate through writing each day! I hope things continue to go well for you both- let me know if you have any questions in the future- maybe I can help!
~Kiki

 

[KinkyKiki7]

Into-
I really enjoyed your reply. I never thought of assignments as something that could be an every day task. I'll bring it up with my Master and see if there's anything he needs done- thanks for the suggestion! Thanks again!
~Kiki

 

[Netzach]

Control- He just is. If I didn't want to do what he wanted, I wouldn't. But I do.

Spanking- Sometimes. Foreplay.


Assignments- No. Just conduct myself well in the things I do, generally. Assignments are pretty much a treat for me. Sometimes I've had writing assignments, but they're uncommon.


Nipple Torture- Yes. Biting. Bites on my ass, shoulders, tits, thighs, neck. You name it he's bit it. This seems to be the A-1 way he's comfortable causing me considerable amounts of pain, and so that's what happens.

Restraints- I tie myself up for him as prettily as I know how, and I know how. With red hemp rope or whatever else stikes my mood. If he didn't like my bondage I'm sure he'd adjust it accordingly, but it seems to amuse him.

Gentle or Fierce- Very gentle, not aggressive so much as hedonistic, very playful and not particulary Dominant. Fits my agenda like a glove seeing as I'm not particularly submissive. Someone I simply like making happy, so I do.

 

[KinkyKiki7]

I know that new faces have joined the site ....do any of you have anything to share about your Master? Anyone want to comment on your Mistress feel free to do so....I'm sure she fulfills these categories too.
~Kiki

 

[BiBunny]

Well, I'm not new, but I'll answer, anyway.

Control: He's in control. It's not overt, but I know the score.

Spanking: Rarely. Not. Our. Thing.

Assignments: Rarely. Also not our thing. Since we don't live together or anything, I do self-bondage stuff pretty often. Sometimes, he'll tell me what to do during my masturbatory self-bondage sessions, but he hasn't even done that in awhile. Also occasionally, he'll ask me to write a story for him.

Nipple Torture: My favorite. His, too. Well, nipple and breast torture. You name it, we've probably done it.

Restraints: Clean, utilitarian, and strict. We aren't into that whole bondage for decoration thing. I'm also not a bondage fetishist. If you're going to tie me up, do something with me. Don't just leave me there to wallow in how "helpless" I am. I can and will get loose if I'm bored. He usually goes for rope (sometimes by itself, sometimes in combination with leather cuffs) or metal handcuffs. Doesn't really matter to me.

Gentle or Fierce: Fierce, sadistic, demanding bastard in bed most of the time. Tender and loving in bed when the occasion calls for it. Laid-back, brilliant, hilarious, thoughtful, and effortlessly in control the rest of the time.