What is the secret of a lasting relationship?

[Guest]

Me too.

You're young, Angel. Just wait, and you will have the good things you deserve.

 

[Angel]

Aren't I older than YOU?

 

[SweetNick]

Actually Angel, your real good troll has you by about 3 months. That one though, I dunno.

 

[Angel]

Ah, I forgot your birthday just passed. And yeah I thought that was you.

 

[The_old_man]

First and formost: You have to be frends. I do not mean just liking her\his looks or personality.

Second: Let the other person have an independent personality. Any attempt to Make over the other person is shure to generate resentment.

Third:Be suportive in thier goals.

Sex is way down the list. But it is a lot of fun learning what your partner likes .

Politness also helps a lot .

 

[Sateema Lunasi]

Don't get married.

Don't have kids. If you MUST have children wait till later...like when you are 35.

Don't get married.

Don't get married.

Oh, and um, don't get married.

 

[Meow4U]

Friendship is the most important thing. I have found the longer to people are just friends before anything romantic happens the longer the relationship lasts. Everyone in my family is still married to the same person so it all worked for them.

 

[LakotaMoon]

Respect

...well yes, I think, this is it.

 

[naudiz]

I think the key to any relationship is knowing yourself. If you don't know who you are, how can your partner? If you don't know what you want, how can you communicate it? If you don't know where the line is drawn between acceptable and unacceptable, how can your partner avoid crossing it? Blind luck is how, and I wouldn't bank on that.

Have a good relationship with yourself, and the rest will follow. You'd think knowing yourself would be obvious and unavoidable, but I've met way too many people who, when you get down to it, have no idea who they are.

Compromise is good. So is communication. But without knowing what you want, these things can only do so much.

 

[MissTaken]

I think the key to any relationship is knowing yourself. If you don't know who you are, how can your partner? If you don't know what you want, how can you communicate it? If you don't know where the line is drawn between acceptable and unacceptable, how can your partner avoid crossing it? Blind luck is how, and I wouldn't bank on that.

Yes. Being able to communicate your own needs is key in a productive, loving fashion.

Willingness to grow together. Have you ever seen a very old couple look at each other will a special twinkle in their eyes after 40 years of marraige? The burden for the maintaining the relationship and happiness is a two fold thing. Both partners have to be invested in the relationship and each other. When one partner gives 70% and the other 30% , the relationship is doomed.

But, I really don't know a damn thing about it and am going to find one of those elderly couples and ask them!