What is the purpose of this forum?

[KillerMuffin]

Please take a moment to answer the following questions.

Please respect every single other poster on this thread and not start a fight.

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?

3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?

4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please?

 

[Verypowerful]

1. The purpose is to be a place where one can meet, get to know others within our community, share thoughts, ask and answer questions, seek and give support, etc without fear or roleplay .
2. Not that easy to answer but subjects relating to the above; questions relating to "our world", experiences to be shared, thoughts to be discussed.
3. Chat; no. Happy Birthday/hello; hard for me as a beginner to answer since many of you seem to know eachother pretty well.
4. No, I don't think so. What attracted me here was the warmth, the acceptance of others, the feeling of belonging somewhere and not be judged and the respect that the people here show eachother.

Vp

 

[sexy-girl]

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

a GB-2 for people interested in BDSM (i think its a little more then that but i think it sums it up well)

2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?

anything that is posted by people that have interest (any interest) and respect for BDSM

3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?

yes and no (see above)

4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please?

i cant answer that because i dont feel i am a member of the BDSM forum as much as most people that post here ... so i wouldnt say what they should or shouldnt post



i have to make a few comments to my above answers i think this is a good idea for a forum but to put to many restrictions or rules to it would harm its ability to grow ... i think seeing this as a GB-2 for BDSM folk allows it to become almost anything and to mold itself with the people that post here and thats whats important i guess

 

[Ebonyfire]

My answers

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

I thought the purpose was to share information about BDSM and/or D/s <or whatever you call it these says>

2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?

The broad range of activities that are included in #1.

3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?

Every other BDSM list I am on does this. All that is needed is a short message like off topic in the subject line. It isn't a big deal in my mind.

4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please?

Of course as long as there is no flaming, and people debate issues, not hurl insults at each other when they cannot think of anything better to say.

The control freaks on this fourm need to back off. If the Moderators think a post is unsuitable then they should delete it. Leave the preaching to Jimmy Swaggart.

Just my 2 cents worth.

Ebony

 

[cellis]

Please take a moment to answer the following questions.

Please respect every single other poster on this thread and not start a fight.

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

For people who have an interest in BDSM to learn about it and the lifestyle.

2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?

Anything related to #1.

3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?

Chat no... there is a chat room for that. Birthdays, hellos, just checking in... why not? It doesn't take away from this discussion board.

4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please?

As long as it falls within the general guidelines of the community, of course... that is why we are here...


While we are on this topic, and bear in mind that I am only speaking for myself as a general observation... I personally think there are enough rules here. One of the things that drew me to the old mother thread was that there seemed to be not rules.

If you had a question, no matter how stupid or silly, you were never treated with disrespect and told how to post or that the question was not allowed. There was a tolerance that seems to be missing lately and I personally miss that tolerance.

This is a discussion board on a literary site... people outside of the BDSM lifestyle are bound to have questions and come here seeking questions. I think it behoves us to remain open minded and tolerant of those unknowledgable of our lifestyle.

Several people on the general board have stated that they have posted here in the past and were treated poorly. I do not understand this type of behavior. I, for one encourage people to come here and post there questions, if they so desire.

As a disclaimer, I want to state again that the above is just my own personal observations and opinions, but as this community grows and if we want to continue to have a cohesive community, we must be tolerant of one another.



s

 

[SpectreT]

Please take a moment to answer the following questions.

Please respect every single other poster on this thread and not start a fight.

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

Its prime purpose, in my opinion, is to provide a place for the discussion of topics, thoughts, experiences, and emotions by and for anyone with an interest in the vast mountain of activities and feelings which comprise the nebulous entity we call BDSM.

2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?

Anything that falls under the vast (or maybe half-vast ) umbrella I posted above.

3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?

I'm not sure about story links, but otherwise, we're a community here, and some of us rarely venture into the (personal opinion here, and I'm wearing my asbestos underpants) cotton candy for the mind that the GB occasionally feels like, so the best place to post such things is where they will be read.

4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please?

Within reason. Freedom of Speech is not freedom to shout "Fire!" in a crowded theatre; some common sense and consideration should be exercised at all times in any human interactions, regardless of the method of that interaction. In short, DON'T BE AN ASS!

 

[cymbidia]

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

In my view, the purpose of this forum is to provide people who are interested in exploring their BDSM needs within a real-time, skin-to-skin environment a place to ask questions and talk with others of the same bent. Whether or not they've acted on the "real time, skin-to-skin" part of the previous sentence is immaterial; the intent is to help those who already play in the real world (i hate that term) or intend to do so at some point.

This forum and the thread that preceeded it for so long have always been and shall remain inappropriate places for chat room style fantasy play. By that i mean all the bowing and scraping and bullshit that assaults most of us in chat room style "BDSM".

edited to add: it is also a place for those who simply want info to come ask for that, nilla or otherwise.

2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?

How to...
Where to...
When to...
Why should i, or not...
What if...
I'm worried about...
I'm scared...
Wow! I found this cool thing out today...

You get the gist.

Examples of inappropriate subjects are:
Did you see the lastest Tom Cruise movie?
[Insert nick here] is just plain wrong!
Oooooooohhhhh...i'm sooooooooo horny!
My Mistress is the bestest one in the whole world!
How do you think the eleection will come out?

This is most assuredly not a GB2.
(You know i love you s-g, but you're wrong on this one! )

3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?

We have a thriving BDSM poetry thread; check it out. Birthdays and big occasions and some of that kinda thing is indeed appropriate for here; we are, after all, a community made of real people. We don't wear corsets and sit around holding floggers all the livelong day; we have lives, all of us. chatty threads are a nusiance - but honestly, we haven't ever had too much problem with anything like too much chat. (At this moment, i'm crossing my fingers and hoping i didn't tempt the gods by putting that out plainly.)

Many of us have grown close over the last year because, in part, we opened to each other and let each other into our lives and hearts as real people who happen to also share a similar kink. I think we need to continue to encourage the growth of personal relationships of value among our community members. One way to accomplish that is by the posting of tidbits of our lives for all to savor.

A caveat: we don't want a daily post telling us what you had for breakfast, what you thought about on your way to work, whether your undies were creeping up your butt all day, how often you thought about your wonderful Master, and/or how you felt about the cat puking on your comforter. That's just too much. But you already know that, right?

4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please?

No.
We have explicit Lit-wide and BDSM forum rules as well as informal community standards for threads and posts.

They will continue to be enforced.

 

[artful]

Please take a moment to answer the following questions.

Please respect every single other poster on this thread and not start a fight.

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

I see no valid reason for having "ONLINE PLAY" threads in this forum. I agree with Cymbidia and others, who think there should not be THAT type of posting threads allowed. I came here to learn more about my chosen lifestyle, from others who have had different exposures to this multi-faceted
experience.



2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?

I see absolutely no reason for hate, malicious, prejudicial, or sarcastic threads to be allowed.



3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?

I see no harm in any of us participating in light chatty threads, birthdays, anniversary, message, greetings, singular poems, etc.(After all, we ARE a community)



4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please?

Absolutely not! All communities need regulation, our Forum Moderators are here to enforce the policies of the majority, and to keep us within the scope and boundaries, as set forth by Literotica itself.(Legalities etc,)

In additition,
We are fortunate in having 3 moderators in this forum.(I feel sure they are all overworked at this site, due to them also having a real life), but personally, I would like to see a practice of the THREE getting MORE involved, at an EARLIER stage of bitter, sarcastic and/or CAUSTIC postings, before it gets anywhere near the EVENT, I was so recently involved in.(I know, some things are just not possible) Still,...

 

[petrel]

Please take a moment to answer the following questions.

Please respect every single other poster on this thread and not start a fight.

1. What is the purpose of this forum?

To discuss matters pertaining to BDSM - how to, lifestyle, starting out, etc etc

2. What do you consider to be appropriate subjects for threads?[\QUOTE]
questions, comments, ideas, thoughts about the above and a small amount of personal/community stuff (see number 3)

3. Is this the place to post irrelevant things like happy birthdays, hellos to friends, poetry (BDSM related or not), story links, or chatty threads?[\QUOTE]
a small amount is fine - especially if the thread title makes it fairly obvious what the content is - happy birthday to someone on the board, congratulations to someone from the board passing a test or exam are fine, comments on the world cup or america's elections aren't really welcome. If it becomes a bore wading through all the 'chatty and Non BDSM' threads on here then maybe we need to address that issue but as my screen is showing me 26 open threads right now and only 6 of them are non-BDSM I don't think we have a problem right now.

4. Should people be allowed to post whatever they please? [/QUOTE]
No; see other people's posts for why - if you are unsure you can always ask a moderator beforehand I did when I posted about a fetish event I am organising becasue I didn't want it to come across as a professional pitch - I just wanted to let friends and likeminded people know that something was happening.
Personally I really don't like or want the type of 'chatroom' scenes being played out in a public forum.

I agree with Cellis that we don't need more rules and I would also like to add that the occasional flare up is bound to happen as we are discussing things that are fairly sensitive/personal matters. I have probably said things wrong or got on people's nerves at times and I will apologise whenever it is asked for - I do not apologise for my lifestyle or opinions but I do apologise if I hurt/upset or wound anyone here with my words.

thanks for watching!!!

 

[petrel]

bother messed up the quote thingy again - sorry everyone

 

[SpectreT]

bother messed up the quote thingy again - sorry everyone

Don't worry. the bracket thingy for quotes the way I responded is cumbersome. Simple pattern, but a royal pain none the less. Took me almost a half an hour to make it look like an interview.

 

[NemoAlia]

It's difficult to ban off-topic threads, though. Particularly since it's easy for long-time members to encourage newcomers to behave within the set rules for the community, but it seems difficult for them to limit themselves to the same rules. And who's going to monitor the words of the gurus?

I don't mean to challenge anyone or to suggest that anyone is treating this community poorly or hypocritically, but we're all human, with the distinctly human variety of thoughts, desires, and thread topics. Although it's nice to idealize the BDSM board into a community of always-thoughtful, non-repetitive, meaningful discussions, it seems impractical to expect our words always to meet these standards.

Maybe one way of maintaining order in this chaotic world would be to encourage the moving of misplaced threads into threads that already exist for that purpose. For example, if I post a thread entitled, "I am soooo horny tonight, who's up for a challenge?" maybe someone ought to be entitled just to move it to the personals forum, no questions asked.

 

[cymbidia]

Maybe one way of maintaining order in this chaotic world would be to encourage the moving of misplaced threads into threads that already exist for that purpose. For example, if I post a thread entitled, "I am soooo horny tonight, who's up for a challenge?" maybe someone ought to be entitled just to move it to the personals forum, no questions asked.

We can't move threads just because we, personally, don't like them.
They have to violate the rules first.
Thanks for your input.
cym
Forum Moderator

 

[NemoAlia]

Oops -- I didn't mean to imply that threads ought to be moved because they're not liked. Only that they might be moved in order to avoid repetition of threads with similar topics or to fit them into more appropriate categories.

There are perks and drawbacks to every possibility. I just thought I'd add what ideas I have to the brainstorming swirl.

(edited to fix a spelling mistake)

 

[WriterDom]

Does it really need a purpose?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Does it really need a purpose?

Evidently not. However, I thought the purpose was for the discussion about BDSM.