What is the age difference between you and your SO? What is your limit if you're single?

[JBoy1952]

Wife was almost 4 years younger. We were married for 25 yrs before divorce. I've had 2 LTGFs since: first LTGF was 1 year younger. 2nd LTGF was 13 yrs younger and passed away not long ago.

 

[Not Normal]

12 years. But she always claims to have been born an old lady. As to other partners, it would really be about the who and how we got along.

 

[FL30]

first boyfriend was 19 when i was 16... married him at nearly 19, first child at 23...and we split up when i was 31.
second, i was 31, he told me he was mid 20s but he was 21. everything about him was a lie.
my husband now, H, is 8 years older than me. he embraces his inner child well at times so i don't feel he's a lot older than me.

age gaps may have their problems in relationships, but so do any differences between couples: soft or firm mattress, what kind of holidays or sports or hobbies partners like, whether or not religion rears its head, what kind of food they enjoy yadda yadda yadda.

too big an age gap? that's all about the individuals involved and honesty. A couple might fall in love with a large age gap between them, but would sooner spend what time they might have together, perhaps 10 years, maybe 30, with the person they love than be without them. I respect the individuals' choices so long as it's not about coercion, manipulation, lies and so on. Even if it's a purely financially beneficial arrangement for a couple to choose to be together, so long as they're both honest and happy about it ...no problems.

i wouldn't want to date or be with someone my kids' ages or who'd feel like a parent to me, but then you never know what the future holds and no-one chooses to fall in love.

this! True words.

Lots of people have small age differences and still break up, some people have huge age gaps and stay together for long term. Although age can have some sway on compatibility, there are so many more differences that are more problematic than just the age difference.

Religion, money, sex, kids, jobs - just to name a few.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

My husband was 1 year 9 months younger than me...
Now, I prefer older men... There's really no max age..
Well, I'm 49, so maybe no more than 25 years older

 

[Fierywhore]

It’s about getting it up, and keeping it up not age

 

[collegegirlsub]

The man I'm seeing is 27 years older than me.

 

[Lbethy]

im 8 years younger. My limit? Absolute no to anyone born 2000 onwards. Im unlikely to be interested in anyone under 30 tbh, male or female. I dont have an upper limit in general so its more person by person

 

[someplace]

I've tended to lean toward older men for partners and younger ones for FWB, but Blues was a couple of years younger than me. He evened things up by being more worldly than me, and he was very serious about his role as my Protector, which was annoying and refreshing at the same time. I've always felt it was more about how well you mesh together cerebrally as a couple. My ex-husband was 6 years older than me which was just enough of a difference to give us vastly different perspectives from growing up. He is British and a post-War baby and the cultural differences really became annoying. What were once quaint and charming became like fingernails on a blackboard. Well that, and the fact that he decided he liked to beat me up.... I can't explain how refreshing it was when Blues announced his preferred mayonaise was the same as mine. *laughing* That's a big deal in the South. We were both Texan. Our parents had very similar belief systems. It just made it so much easier to move forward with a common foundation. And he made me laugh. A lot. I guess that's a long way of saying it really depends on the person and I wouldn't put a limit on it either way as long as there's enough common ground for the basis of a relationship.

 

[SadieAnne]

I don’t know if I have a limit. I don’t think I could do my age or younger, I require patience

 

[Azuldrgon]

My biggest age difference for someone was 15 years older.
I'm good for anything because to me, age is just a number.

 

[MNGuy]

With a woman 13 years older, I was 19, she was 32.
Then with a woman 12 years younger, I was 31, she was 19.

My SO is 5 years younger.

The rule I was always taught was the youngest you could go is half your age plus seven. So theoretically, I could date 37 years old and up.

But I think dating two 20 year olds would qualify because 20x2=40.

 

[allclad]

In the abstract, I'd imagine between 20yrs younger (I'm getting old) to perhaps 10yrs older. In practice, I judge each person as an individual, not by the number on their birth certificate.

 

[Rob_Royale]

The age difference between my wife and I gets bigger every year because I get another year older and she stays twenty-nine. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

 

[Lbethy]

I have to say that age isnt just a number. Age is experience. Age is power. If you have to say “they're mature for their age” they are way too young.

 

[JBoy1952]

And conversely, getting it wet and keeping it wet

LOL
Even at my age, it'll get up---I have all the confidence in the world in getting her wet and keeping her wet; and if she reacts to my efforts like I believe she will, it'll take her a while to cool off.
She might have to wear a blindfold to start...but she'll take it off to see who I am.

Just because a man is old, doesn't mean he's deadheads in both places.

 

[Lady_Libra_]

8 year gap, I’m the elder.
Elder, not dead

 

[drobert44]

8 year gap, I’m the elder.
Elder, not dead

I am 5 years older than her, but still in good shape.

 

[JBoy1952]

It’s about getting it up, and keeping it up not age

I don't think there are many women who like cake without the frosting.
Also, I don't think there are many capable men that want women without a libido.

 

[JBoy1952]

With a woman 13 years older, I was 19, she was 32.
Then with a woman 12 years younger, I was 31, she was 19.

My SO is 5 years younger.

The rule I was always taught was the youngest you could go is half your age plus seven. So theoretically, I could date 37 years old and up.

But I think dating two 20 year olds would qualify because 20x2=40.

Hmmmmmm....so by the math, 42 would work for me. That sheds a bit of shining light tonight.

 

[scottstone7]

Wife is 6 years younger than me. I've never dated or been with anyone older than me. My mother isn't too much older than me so the thought of older was always a turn off. Not to kink same anyone, that just isn't for me. As far as younger goes, I have an unknown daughter out there somewhere that will be 20 in December, so 21 would be the current lower limit.

 

[live4thebj]

Significant other that I know 6 years older than me. But a one night stand. Old enough to be my grandma.

 

[Markie100]

My affair partner is 33 I’m 60 we been together for 12 months

 

[Sienna62]

Consider myself a young 64 ( slim, physically fit for now ! ) MAN. Last three partners over ten years have been 10, 16 and 3 years younger.
Was pleasantly AMAZED recently to realise I was being smooth talked by an 84 year old woman … and hypnotised in the process … so , no limits !

 

[y=mx+b]

...now if I were single.

a fwb age gap is pretty irrelevant to me as we'd both be in it for the fucking. But in the pursuit of a serious partnership I think maybe ten years younger and twenty years older.

 

[One_ping_only]

My wife is 12 years younger than I am