BarnabySchmidt
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- Aug 10, 2005
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Hello, this is my first post. I looked elsewhere for this subject but couldn't find it so I thought I would ask.
I am a mid 20's male, and the last several years I've been dating a mid 20's female. We are looking to spice up our sex life; things are great and all, but we want to add some spice to an otherwise vanilla sundae. Strangely enough, she was intrigued at a BDSM scene from the TV cartoon show "Family Guy" (which is a great show, by the way, for those of you unfamiliar with it.) Anyways, after that, we have talked a little bit about getting into bondage, etc., but neither of us really have any experience with it, so I am not sure where we can start.
We have done some handcuffing of one another, some blindfolding. She likes getting spanked, and two or three times she'd used a finger up my ass while giving me head (I liked alot). That is what we've done.
So I am looking to get started on my expedition of exploration.
My idea is this: to come up with a complete list of activities that fall under the BDSM umbrella. Then, separately, we'd each go through the list and write down for each thing whether we'd want to do something, not want to do something, or are unsure about doing something. Then, trade lists, separately review what the other one is interested in, then come back together talk about what we want to do. We'd have all of our interests and no-no's out in the open right away, and could move on from there.
Does this sound like a good idea? To me it does, but then again, I have no experience in how one gets into BDSM. heh.
Any and all input on this is greatly appreciated. And, if anybody knows where I could get such a list, or if I would have to create one myself, culling the information from different sources, any help finding those sources is greatly appreciated.
Thank you my friends.
I am a mid 20's male, and the last several years I've been dating a mid 20's female. We are looking to spice up our sex life; things are great and all, but we want to add some spice to an otherwise vanilla sundae. Strangely enough, she was intrigued at a BDSM scene from the TV cartoon show "Family Guy" (which is a great show, by the way, for those of you unfamiliar with it.) Anyways, after that, we have talked a little bit about getting into bondage, etc., but neither of us really have any experience with it, so I am not sure where we can start.
We have done some handcuffing of one another, some blindfolding. She likes getting spanked, and two or three times she'd used a finger up my ass while giving me head (I liked alot). That is what we've done.
So I am looking to get started on my expedition of exploration.
My idea is this: to come up with a complete list of activities that fall under the BDSM umbrella. Then, separately, we'd each go through the list and write down for each thing whether we'd want to do something, not want to do something, or are unsure about doing something. Then, trade lists, separately review what the other one is interested in, then come back together talk about what we want to do. We'd have all of our interests and no-no's out in the open right away, and could move on from there.
Does this sound like a good idea? To me it does, but then again, I have no experience in how one gets into BDSM. heh.
Any and all input on this is greatly appreciated. And, if anybody knows where I could get such a list, or if I would have to create one myself, culling the information from different sources, any help finding those sources is greatly appreciated.
Thank you my friends.
