What is it with younger women liking older men?

[ADIDAS00]

In the last year, I’ve had at least 5 or 6 women in their late twenties to early thirties hit on me. It happened again today. Like, they openly hit on me. They didn’t hide it. Has it always been this way? I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

I mean, I have gray stubble so I don’t look young at all. I always thought when I got this age, NO younger women would ever even look at me. I find it flattering but my mind is perplexed. It seems like something has shifted in the universe, lol. Are older men in style these days? What’s happening?

 

[DiscoJedi]

I hope that’s the case! A younger (say 15 years) woman chatted me up at work and I like to think she was flirting. Said I certainly didn’t look my age

 

[barefootgirl69]

In the last year, I’ve had at least 5 or 6 women in their late twenties to early thirties hit on me. It happened again today. Like, they openly hit on me. They didn’t hide it. Has it always been this way? I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

I mean, I have gray stubble so I don’t look young at all. I always thought when I got this age, NO younger women would ever even look at me. I find it flattering but my mind is perplexed. It seems like something has shifted in the universe, lol. Are older men in style these days? What’s happening?

I don't think it's a totally new thing. In my 20s, I dated a guy 15 yrs older and another 20 yrs older.

 

[LMWM321]

They aren't necessarily hitting on you.

I hate to say it, but It may be that you are now so old that they are that they no longer see you as someone who is apt to hit on them just because they talk to you. So, they are nice to you in the way they are nice to their friends' parents.

But If you were closer to them in age, they'd likely be more guarded so their friendliness wouldn't be misconstrued. ..Which it seems to have been, anyway.

 

[Britva415]

I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

That you know of Do you think it would happen right in front of you?

Here’s another thing to think about: I don’t know if you’re like me in this regard, but when I was young I missed a LOT of come-one and signals. Now I know it when I see it, and I see it a lot when I’m paying attention or when I’m sending my own signals.

What is it with younger women liking older men?​

“I donno, but I like it!”

Nah, I don’t mean that. I do believe I know. I do like it - I’m mid 50s and I’ve pulled 20somethings and 30somethings in the past few years. Any younger than that and I’m just not interested, but I can see their attention and curiosity about me.

I believe younger women have always been into older men. If today they are being more forward and proactive about it, maybe it’s because today’s younger men could be less attractive than previous generations of young men.

I don’t know whether it’s a generalized truth or a false stereotype that young guys today are less studly, masculine, confident, energetic, funny, or are unattractive in other ways than previous generations of young guys. Maybe the older guys always experienced this asymmetry.

 

[Britva415]

I hope that’s the case! A younger (say 15 years) woman chatted me up at work and I like to think she was flirting. Said I certainly didn’t look my age

Sounds like a flirt to me!

I always know when they’re flirting with me because I’m always ready to flirt, myself. It is really easy to tell when it is one sided and I’m the only one participating.

In other words - it was either me who flirted first, or, I flirt back if something like this gets my attention.

Makes it pretty easy to know whether they intended it as a flirt or not.

 

[gtnlynn]

When my wife was 39, she had a great sexual experience with a 60+ year old man, with my permission. She said that younger women who don't try older men are missing a potential good time.

 

[OralAllOver]

I am 59 yo
Not as attractive as I used to be
Not nearly as athletic

Calmer
More understanding
More giving
Patient
A better man

So why not?

 

[SilentSometimes]

In the last year, I’ve had at least 5 or 6 women in their late twenties to early thirties hit on me. It happened again today. Like, they openly hit on me. They didn’t hide it. Has it always been this way? I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

I mean, I have gray stubble so I don’t look young at all. I always thought when I got this age, NO younger women would ever even look at me. I find it flattering but my mind is perplexed. It seems like something has shifted in the universe, lol. Are older men in style these days? What’s happening?

Not to be crass but if that’s you in your profile pic: that’s why they’re hitting one you.
I’m in the dating world right now at 37 years old and the dating pool of men who take care of themselves is limited. I recently had a fling with a 51 year old, smoke show of a man because he was smart, witty, fit, and smelled so good that I wanted to eat him up.
Older men who are well put together just do something to me. Every other guy in my age range dresses like Adam Sandler in the early 2000s. It’s not sexy.

 

[jason28053]

Not to be crass but if that’s you in your profile pic: that’s why they’re hitting one you.
I’m in the dating world right now at 37 years old and the dating pool of men who take care of themselves is limited. I recently had a fling with a 51 year old, smoke show of a man because he was smart, witty, fit, and smelled so good that I wanted to eat him up.
Older men who are well put together just do something to me. Every other guy in my age range dresses like Adam Sandler in the early 2000s. It’s not sexy.

To be fair, I don’t think Adam dresses any better now

 

[rubydlite]

Granted, I'm in my late 40s but typically, older men have 'done their emotional homework, understand it's not about the race, and 'nice guys finishing last' isn't a bad thing...

 

[SilentSometimes]

To be fair, I don’t think Adam dresses any better now

Ahh yes. The timeless outfit combo of: wrinkled, oversized tshirt, baggy pants and a baseball hat.
It’s just such low effort. I have cuter outfits when I go to the gym than most of the men I go on dates with. It just feels like they don’t think they need to put in effort. So like, why should i?
Instead I just look cute for me and hope to stumble upon someone who matches my energy and effort.

 

[urbangentleman]

I’ve been told multiple times by younger women it’s a mixture of young guys being clueless and older guys having experience. I go out of my way to find positive things to say about everyone. I could come up with at least 6 coed girls that have said college guys are terrible and wish they could meet for the attention they need.

For some its comforting stable words. There is also an entire segment that wants DD treatment. I’m generally bigger and taller too which turns some on.

I sure don’t mind.

 

[jason28053]

Ahh yes. The timeless outfit combo of: wrinkled, oversized tshirt, baggy pants and a baseball hat.
It’s just such low effort. I have cuter outfits when I go to the gym than most of the men I go on dates with. It just feels like they don’t think they need to put in effort. So like, why should i?
Instead I just look cute for me and hope to stumble upon someone who matches my energy and effort.

I always put the effort in when I go to the gym. You’re right though, always do it for you.

 

[jason28053]

Full disclosure, I love the attention of women and age isn’t a key factor

 

[ADIDAS00]

Not to be crass but if that’s you in your profile pic: that’s why they’re hitting one you.
I’m in the dating world right now at 37 years old and the dating pool of men who take care of themselves is limited. I recently had a fling with a 51 year old, smoke show of a man because he was smart, witty, fit, and smelled so good that I wanted to eat him up.
Older men who are well put together just do something to me. Every other guy in my age range dresses like Adam Sandler in the early 2000s. It’s not sexy.

That is me in my profile but I shop at the grocery store with my shirt on so they have no idea if I’m fit or in shape. Lol

I have gray stubble most of the time. I only shave every 3-4 days, so I look kind of old if I must say so. I’m almost 47

I do like cologne so I like to smell good so maybe that’s what may attract some of them? That could be a factor I guess

Thanks for the reply!!

 

[ADIDAS00]

I’ve been told multiple times by younger women it’s a mixture of young guys being clueless and older guys having experience. I go out of my way to find positive things to say about everyone. I could come up with at least 6 coed girls that have said college guys are terrible and wish they could meet for the attention they need.

For some its comforting stable words. There is also an entire segment that wants DD treatment. I’m generally bigger and taller too which turns some on.

I sure don’t mind.

Great input!!! I also go out of my way to be very nice to everyone. I think it may be a confidence thing.

A lot of people talk shit about other people and they’re not nice to people and they do it out of lack of confidence or being insecure. They default to being negative about others to defend themselves maybe.

Soooo….maybe if you’re comfortable with being nice to others, it comes across as confident. And maybe younger guys lack that?

 

[ADIDAS00]

Full disclosure, I love the attention of women and age isn’t a key factor

Nothing wrong with that!! lol

 

[Crankbait88]

In the last year, I’ve had at least 5 or 6 women in their late twenties to early thirties hit on me. It happened again today. Like, they openly hit on me. They didn’t hide it. Has it always been this way? I never remember younger women hitting on older men when I was younger. It just wasn’t a thing…that I know of.

I mean, I have gray stubble so I don’t look young at all. I always thought when I got this age, NO younger women would ever even look at me. I find it flattering but my mind is perplexed. It seems like something has shifted in the universe, lol. Are older men in style these days? What’s happening?

I've learned to just not question it. Just bask in the glory that is the infatuation of youth.

 

[ADIDAS00]

I've learned to just not question it. Just bask in the glory that is the infatuation of youth.

I think I’m gonna stop questioning it and just enjoy it and be flattered.

I just truly just don’t get it. Everytime I try to make it make sense in my head, I get confused.

 

[ADIDAS00]

I am 59 yo
Not as attractive as I used to be
Not nearly as athletic

Calmer
More understanding
More giving
Patient
A better man

So why not?

Ok, you make some good points after reading that

 

[ADIDAS00]

When my wife was 39, she had a great sexual experience with a 60+ year old man, with my permission. She said that younger women who don't try older men are missing a potential good time.

Love that you shared that!! Apparently there’s something to it all!!

 

[zysmith]

I don't know but as an older man, I think some further research is needed. Any young ladies who would like to volunteer, feel free to contact me. lol

 

[ADIDAS00]

I don't know but as an older man, I think some further research is needed. Any young ladies who would like to volunteer, feel free to contact me. lol

lol

 

[ADIDAS00]

I don't think it's a totally new thing. In my 20s, I dated a guy 15 yrs older and another 20 yrs older.

Bad girl!! lol

Good for you, I hope it was fun