What is a slut?

[Booboobear84]

Originally I wondered: If a guy who gets all of the pussy he wants is a stud, why is a women who gets all of the cock she wants a slut? Yes I know the PC answer for this, my point is do we need a different name for this?

Then I realized there are several edge cases.

I tend to think of a slut as someone who gives sex as the only method of attracting someone sexually AND has serial relationships because there is no real foundation for the relationship.

There is also the argument for someone who is so controlled sexually urges that they fuck anything that moves.

Then there is the person who enjoys the thrill of the conquest, and doesn't want a relationship.

The truly bad one which is to combine the two above and do it with married partners regardless of the consequences to the partner.

Part of my point is that slut is at best an imprecise term, and it tars perfectly reasonable behavior with the taint of various harmful ones.

All of that said, I still enjoy the use of the term in fiction here, so I admit to being part of the problem.

 

[LikeItLots]

Slut? Good Question!

What an interesting question!

I couldn't think of a suitable word either. I found plenty of derogatory words/expressions for 'slut' such as wench, tart, trollop, whore, tramp, hussy, prostitute, slag, broad, fallen woman, femme fatale, floozy, harlot, hooker, jade, loose woman, scarlet, strumpet, vamp... (some I'm not familiar with) but none complimentary. Pretty awful eh?

It was a Christina Aguilera track in 2002 on the Stripped album that brought double-standards like this to my attention. In the song "Can't Hold Us Down" Lil' Kim sings...

"...Here's something I just can't understand
If the guy have three girls then he's the man
He can even give her some head or sex her off
But if a girl do the same she's a whore..."

I thought then how true and unfair. Why can't we have a decent sounding word for a woman who knows how to enjoy sex.

I like the word 'slut' sometimes in connection the way some women or girls make themselves appear but I wouldn't wish to call them that - I rather like that naughty provocative look. Although sometimes they can over-do it!

I hope there is at least one word out there we can use in a positive manner for a woman who enjoys her sex with a man (or woman). If I'm fortunate enough to meet a woman who wants to 'lay me' (rarer as I get older), I certainly wouldn't think of using any of the aforementioned words.

Yes, you've raise a very valid thought provoking point.

 

[Liatheslut]

Why does being a slut have to be a bad thing?

 

[Booboobear84]

Why does being a slut have to be a bad thing?

Lia,

Totally agree. That was part of the point of this thread.

 

[AnAmericanDarling]

I'd tell you what a slut is, but then that might give away too much info about me.

 

[cyberking001]

my definition

My definition of a slut is one who loves to give his or her body to almost any male
partner at almost any time and who just loves to be used by him. In my imagination
a slut, who is either male or female, is perpetually horny for cock and can't get
enough of it. This means that the slut is the receiver, i.e. the submissive one.
Of course, this is not a bad thing at all, just describing someone who knows what
(s)he likes and is proud of it! Just saying (Sam)

 

[Jada59]

My definition of a slut is one who loves to give his or her body to almost any male
partner at almost any time and who just loves to be used by him. In my imagination
a slut, who is either male or female, is perpetually horny for cock and can't get
enough of it. This means that the slut is the receiver, i.e. the submissive one.
Of course, this is not a bad thing at all, just describing someone who knows what
(s)he likes and is proud of it! Just saying (Sam)

That's one definition but what would you call a woman who loves sex and only wants to be with one partner?

 

[JerseyJade]

My definition of a slut is one who loves to give his or her body to almost any male
partner at almost any time and who just loves to be used by him. In my imagination
a slut, who is either male or female, is perpetually horny for cock and can't get
enough of it. This means that the slut is the receiver, i.e. the submissive one.
Of course, this is not a bad thing at all, just describing someone who knows what
(s)he likes and is proud of it! Just saying (Sam)

That's actually a pretty good definition in my opinion.

That's one definition but what would you call a woman who loves sex and only wants to be with one partner?

Someone who's in love with her partner

 

[Jada59]

That's actually a pretty good definition in my opinion.



Someone who's in love with her partner

Maybe but what if she doesn't love him? What if it's just a sex thing?

 

[JerseyJade]

Maybe but what if she doesn't love him? What if it's just a sex thing?

He's that good, huh? Lol

 

[Jada59]

He's that good, huh? Lol

Some are!

 

[cyberking001]

That's one definition but what would you call a woman who loves sex and only wants to be with one partner?

Dedicated
Loyal
Definitely NOT a slut; a slut implies multiple partners.

 

[cyberking001]

Maybe but what if she doesn't love him? What if it's just a sex thing?

Good for both of them; they are fun-loving and loyal, but she is not a slut.
Once again, being a slut implies not just being easy, but also multiple partners.

 

[SudaStoleHer]

A wise man once told me....

Originally I wondered: If a guy who gets all of the pussy he wants is a stud, why is a women who gets all of the cock she wants a slut? Yes I know the PC answer for this, my point is do we need a different name for this?

Then I realized there are several edge cases.

I tend to think of a slut as someone who gives sex as the only method of attracting someone sexually AND has serial relationships because there is no real foundation for the relationship.

There is also the argument for someone who is so controlled sexually urges that they fuck anything that moves.

Then there is the person who enjoys the thrill of the conquest, and doesn't want a relationship.

The truly bad one which is to combine the two above and do it with married partners regardless of the consequences to the partner.

Part of my point is that slut is at best an imprecise term, and it tars perfectly reasonable behavior with the taint of various harmful ones.

All of that said, I still enjoy the use of the term in fiction here, so I admit to being part of the problem.

A wise man once told me,

"A key that unlocks any door is valuable beyond imagination, however, a door that opens to any key.... Well, that may as well be a window."

I hope we can all appreciate the humor in this and understand that its just a joke.

 

[JerseyJade]

The word slut can have different meanings to it. It just depends on how you use the word.

I've called girls sluts before when they have cheated on their bf or they had sex with a guy that was taken… but that didn't mean they were having sex with multiple guys.

I never considered anyone who was having sex with multiple guys a slut. A party girl maybe, or just someone who likes to have fun, but never a slut. I only use that word out of anger or if I'm trying to hurt someone who pissed me off.

Although I don't really like the word, slut, I do like being/feeling slutty at times. To me, that's just another term of feeling sexy inside.

I guess if you want to get technical about it, then what's the difference between a slut and a whore? I think being called a whore is the worst.

 

[wickedpanda]

Sluts rock and don't cry rape later, find a slut use her,feed her and she'll rock you hard !

Just stay away from the skanks and the feminist they are nothing but trouble.

 

[Ghostee]

So my door is not a jar no matter how many times my car says it is.....then the glove box isn't just for gloves, ......why all these lies, why !!!!!

A door is a door , a window is a window and a slut unless used is just you staying an incel!

 

[Ratchetman1982]

I tip my hat to all of the sluts, everywhere. I appreciate what you do!