What if your wife found out you suck cocks

[Penguy]

What do you think would happen if your wife found out that you suck cocks? Do you think that she might have suspected this all along? Would she encourage you to continue, or just totally freak out? Has anyone had this happen?

 

[deluxe3000]

I told my wife that I was feeling really bi-curious and she totally freaked out. So much for being honest. I was hoping for some openmindedness but that didn't happen so now I've gone underground and every 9 months or so get a little man sex. I'd rather be honest but...

 

[Tazia]

Ha!

My wife would freak - plain & simple! After 24 yrs of marriage that would be a major BOMB drop! So why risk the damage!

 

[tonethebone]

Mine would probably think I need a shrink

And I would become her next "mission in life"

A few months ago she found a copy of a LIT story in the pocket of my robe. A Bi-Sex story. She asked me if I was turning gay. I said of course not, just curious

I'm more careful now.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm a wife, but I'd be really hurt if my partner hid something like that from me, especially after we've talked about it and gone through my discovery of my sexuality.

If he had been involved with men behind my back, I'd be extremely angry and hurt. We have agreements on cheating and a somewhat open relationship, so all he would have had to do is communicate, and we'd work something out.

Someone who truly loved me wouldn't knowingly hurt me like that. Putting his desires over trust, honesty, communication and my health just wouldn't go over well, and I suspect it'd take a lot of time and probably some counseling to have a shot at repairing the damage he did by lying for years and cheating.

 

[katiebaby]

I'm a wife, but I'd be really hurt if my partner hid something like that from me, especially after we've talked about it and gone through my discovery of my sexuality.

If he had been involved with men behind my back, I'd be extremely angry and hurt. We have agreements on cheating and a somewhat open relationship, so all he would have had to do is communicate, and we'd work something out.

Someone who truly loved me wouldn't knowingly hurt me like that. Putting his desires over trust, honesty, communication and my health just wouldn't go over well, and I suspect it'd take a lot of time and probably some counseling to have a shot at repairing the damage he did by lying for years and cheating.

I do understand where the men are coming from, I mean, many of them got married not really knowing they were bi, and still love their wives. They don't wish to upset the apple cart. Still, if I found out my guy was having sex with a man and I didn't know about it, it would be the most hurtful thing ever.

Luckily, everything in my relationship is out in the open. Hurrah!

 

[Curious_Red]

edit-made a better reply on page 2.

 

[LoboBoy]

Putting his desires over trust, honesty, communication and my health just wouldn't go over well, and I suspect it'd take a lot of time and probably some counseling to have a shot at repairing the damage he did by lying for years and cheating.

Bingo.

 

[DomRick]

This exact thing happened to me when my now 2nd X-wife found some stuff on my computer at work (self-employed). I had hidden it for almost 20 years, not only from her, but oftentimes from myself, not dissimilar to binge and purge of other hidden addictions. I went into counseling because 'something must be wrong with me', we went through trial separation, then reconciliation. She could never bring herself to trust me again, and I was becoming emotionally alive at the same time, realizing I was bi, and I wasn't evil, and I wasn't the scrounge of the earth. We ended up divorcing and it was probably the best for both of us. She's a good mother to my daughter and I'm a good non-custodial father, but it just didn't have a future after that. It's been almost 10 years since then, and I've never been more emotionally grounded or happy with my life. I don't have to hide anything from anybody now, although I maintain extreme discretion in either a hetero or bi relationship. All of my "girlfriends" since my divorce have known early in the relationship that I was bi. I'm not into trying to fool anyone, mainly myself, anymore. For those in circumstances where being bi is just your secret, I can only wish you good luck and encourage you to find a mental outlet for release (of course in addition to the physical desires). Best wishes to all.

 

[katiebaby]

This exact thing happened to me when my now 2nd X-wife found some stuff on my computer at work (self-employed). I had hidden it for almost 20 years, not only from her, but oftentimes from myself, not dissimilar to binge and purge of other hidden addictions. I went into counseling because 'something must be wrong with me', we went through trial separation, then reconciliation. She could never bring herself to trust me again, and I was becoming emotionally alive at the same time, realizing I was bi, and I wasn't evil, and I wasn't the scrounge of the earth. We ended up divorcing and it was probably the best for both of us. She's a good mother to my daughter and I'm a good non-custodial father, but it just didn't have a future after that. It's been almost 10 years since then, and I've never been more emotionally grounded or happy with my life. I don't have to hide anything from anybody now, although I maintain extreme discretion in either a hetero or bi relationship. All of my "girlfriends" since my divorce have known early in the relationship that I was bi. I'm not into trying to fool anyone, mainly myself, anymore. For those in circumstances where being bi is just your secret, I can only wish you good luck and encourage you to find a mental outlet for release (of course in addition to the physical desires). Best wishes to all.

I'm glad you can live an honest life now.

My very first boyfriend knew I was questioning my sexuality, and he did not approve. I tried to change for him. My husband always hid his bi side from former lovers. Luckily, we found in each other a space where we never need to be anything but ourselves, and it's the best thing that could have ever happened to me.

 

[Harrowborg]

She'd be hurt if I hadn't told her before, she'd want to join in if I had

 

[PredatorSmile]

She'd be hurt if I hadn't told her before, she'd want to join in if I had

Yeah, your wife/girlfriend could walk in, catch you, her supposedly straight boyfriend/husband blowing some other guy and say : " Honey, let me show you how it's done !"

What would you say to that ?

 

[versatile1]

I told almost all the girls that I dated that I was curious--including my wife--and she married me anyway. Glad I got that out of the way early!

Eventually, we did manage a mmf 3some that we both enjoyed--unfortunately the guy had different feelings about it the next day and that was the end of that.

It's been many years since. Hopefully something will fall into our laps some day. I got a taste of m2m contact and really loved it.

Truthfully, I think she has mixed feelings about my bisexuality though. While the whole threesome thing turned her on when it happened, I believe she'd rather I not want it so bad. I am sure that she would never consent to my being with a guy on my own and I wouldn't feel right about it anyway.

 

[bimori]

Yeah, your wife/girlfriend could walk in, catch you, her supposedly straight boyfriend/husband blowing some other guy and say : " Honey, let me show you how it's done !"

What would you say to that ?

I would say come and play with us honey !!!!!! I'm sure that my wife know's (she call me a cock sucker all the time)

 

[colostang]

I suppose she'd most likely freak if she walked in and saw me with the real thing. During our weekly sessions she loves it when I tell her I'm going to get him hard for her, him being a dildo she enjoys me using on her during foreplay. Gets her extremely hot when she looks down between her thighs to see me going down on it. She also loves (as do I) to have me lick and suck it and her during foreplay. If ya can't have the real thing, might as well take second best

 

[Harrowborg]

Yeah, your wife/girlfriend could walk in, catch you, her supposedly straight boyfriend/husband blowing some other guy and say : " Honey, let me show you how it's done !"

What would you say to that ?

Since we've been dating a while, we've both admitted to liking and wanting to do stuff to the same sex. Shes very open minded and has a good friend who I'm pretty certain wants to sleep with her, shes a girl as well. As I said before, as long as I was open and honest, she would have no preconceptions about me being supposedly straight so if she 'caught' me blowing some other guy and wanted to join in, well, more the merrier.

 

[Cowbi]

Lol

Yeah, your wife/girlfriend could walk in, catch you, her supposedly straight boyfriend/husband blowing some other guy and say : " Honey, let me show you how it's done !"

What would you say to that ?

I would say get over here and then we are going to Vegas to get married

 

[human_male]

I think most women would freak the hell out because they'd assume you were gay, or turning gay and they'd assume you weren't attracted to them anymore. They seem to be very insecure. A lot of women can't understand why their husbands look at porn. They assume they're doing so because they're not attracted to their wife or the women in the porn have something the wife doesn't, which is of course all bollocks.

If I was to ever get married, although I wouldn't cheat on her, I'd hope we could share and explore all areas of each other's sexuality. I just can't imagine being with someone for years and keeping anything that big a secret. And I wouldn't have much patience for her if I did reveal something like that and she was unaccepting of it.

Not that I suck cocks for real mind you, just generally speaking.

 

[jshawk74]

My wife knows that I had m/m experience before we were married, and she was cool with it. However, if I did anything now (and I would like to), it would be a different story.

 

[rjp44]

I'm single and unencumbered, so I can lick whatever I like. ;-O

 

[wantonthoughts]

Hmmm you can't assume most women would freak out if they found out- there are many of us who find it a turn on!

 

[MarciGrrl]

What do you think would happen if your wife found out that you suck cocks?

She'd probably just say something like: HA! I KNEW IT!!! (at this point, nothing would surprise my wife.

MarciGrrl

 

[bimori]

Hmmm you can't assume most women would freak out if they found out- there are many of us who find it a turn on!

Well I would sure love to meet you love .

 

[Gavionn]

I'm a wife, but I'd be really hurt if my partner hid something like that from me, especially after we've talked about it and gone through my discovery of my sexuality.

If he had been involved with men behind my back, I'd be extremely angry and hurt. We have agreements on cheating and a somewhat open relationship, so all he would have had to do is communicate, and we'd work something out.

Someone who truly loved me wouldn't knowingly hurt me like that. Putting his desires over trust, honesty, communication and my health just wouldn't go over well, and I suspect it'd take a lot of time and probably some counseling to have a shot at repairing the damage he did by lying for years and cheating.

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[wantonthoughts]

Well I would sure love to meet you love .

whoo hoo~does this mean you are single???