This might be more of a rant than anything but here goes lol:
I want to believe that there is still a man out there that is honest and caring, loving, respectful…and not just when he wants sex either. I know that people aren’t perfect and can’t be that way all the time, but I’d like to believe that those qualities are still around. I’d like to be loved for who I am, not just what the guy thinks I should be…people shouldn’t try to change people, they should love them unconditionally (with the exception of cheating or abuse, those are unacceptable). I’d like to believe in love again. I wonder though, if there are men left that are willing to prove that it CAN exist? Not just a sexual response but the feeling of racing hearts and how you just can’t wait to see the person, can’t stand to be away from them…thinking of them whenever you have something that you want to tell someone. It seems to me, and this is only my opinion here, not a factual statistic, that people—men and women in general—don’t just want a lasting relationship. There are so many “relationships” out there that are swinging…or male/male/female or female/female/male (whichever)…not so much of the one on one. And I only say that because whenever I’m chatting with a guy, and it’s not too often that a guy doesn’t mention it, a question that always comes into the conversation is---would you be with another woman for/with me? What’s wrong with just having one person at a time in the relationship? Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for to each their own. I’m not lesbian but I certainly wouldn’t not chat with a woman just because of her sexual preference. (Yes I know it’s a double negative lol) As long as it’s known right away that I’m strictly for men and they accept and not try to pressure me into anything sexual with them, then I’m fine…friends only, ok? I just want to find that special someone around my age or a bit older, not some college dude that wants a ‘mom figure’ or whatever…and not a man that’s twice my age—I don’t need a ‘father figure’. I believe that 2 people meeting should begin as friends and whatever happens from there happens. A relationship is a huge area of subjects---friend, lover, companion---and as much as I love sex (I mean, who doesn’t right??) there is just as much importance in communication and friendship and just being there to provide a shoulder if that’s what’s needed, you know? I must say that it’s going to take a lot of convincing of any man that I speak to for him to make me believe that he’s different from other guys. If he likes a challenge, then I just may be it lol. I have 2 children so he should like children…and patience with difficult situations is a must---my oldest is ADHD and if you think regular teens are hard to raise, try one that has ADHD! Maybe I’m asking too much? I don’t know… maybe. I do know that around my area there aren’t available men that like a woman that isn’t Barbie material. Very shallow men if you ask me. I’m 5’6” with naturally curly hair that hangs to the middle of my back…sorry, it’s brunette not blonde, hazel eyes, glasses, some freckles because the sun doesn’t like me much and not skinny <shrugs> I’m basically a shy person until I get to know someone…but the ‘getting to know’ period seems hard because I’m still gun shy from being burned by the ex (even though I know that all men aren’t the same). I’m quiet and not really a conversation starter, but will talk about anything that’s being asked about (as long as I know anything about the subject lol). Anyway, long subject, sorry about that, just felt like getting it off my chest, so to speak. And sorry if I bored anyone, guess you didn’t have to read it all lol…if you started to get bored, you could click back to the main forum J. This is just me putting my thoughts in writing.
Have a good day…__Hunny__
