what ever happened to forever

[usemeplease28]

I have been a member her for a while.. but don't post much at all.. I used to read stories and such..

I had a love that has recently been lost. something that felt so real. It was great. I gave her the best sex of her life and she gave me cuddling and hugs.

now shes gone and I don't know what to quite do.

I miss her badly.. but I now am growing angry.

any suggestions?

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Give yourself some time to hurt and process the loss, but don't give her the power to destroy you. Love is never without risk and hurt, but it is worth dusting yourself off and giving another try for.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

Give yourself some time to hurt and process the loss, but don't give her the power to destroy you. Love is never without risk and hurt, but it is worth dusting yourself off and giving another try for.

Not much to add to that - Lucky's nailed it in one.

 

[minsue]

Not much to add to that - Lucky's nailed it in one.

That she has.

 

[gauchecritic]

Grief. I think there are 5 processes, and anger is one of them.

Many people don't realise that the loss of love can be as painful as the loss of a person. In many ways it is the same thing.

Something to hold onto and keep you sane and your life in perspective is that you aren't and can never be the same person now as you were before you found that love.

It built you and remade you. It will always be a part of you. Remember this and let the grief have its way, then when you emerge from that, you'll still have the love which made you as you are and be grateful you had it at all.

 

[impressive]

It built you and remade you. It will always be a part of you. Remember this and let the grief have its way, then when you emerge from that, you'll still have the love which made you as you are and be grateful you had it at all.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

OK, we were wrong, Min: Gauche managed to add something very worthwhile to what Lucky said.

Damn, we're good - you came to the right place, useme. (Spoken from the peanut gallery, having added nothing useful myself. )

 

[Dar~]

I am with you on tis, I recently went through the loss of my first and only girlfriend. I loved her like I had never experienced before. She's been out and open for years and I had just come out. I wasn't prepared to deal with that loss so suddenly. I still hurt everytime I see her with her new love. I get angry and I rage. The thing is that I also see her reasoning and I know it is sound. It doesn't belay the fact that it hurts and the massive changes in my planning and my perseptions are sometimes hard to deal with. M and I had something tht was supposed to turn into coffee on the front porch at 80. Instead it turned into roommates who have a hard time even talking right now.
I wish I had something profound to add, all I do have is this, you aren't alone although I know it feels like it.

 

[maggot420]

I have been a member her for a while.. but don't post much at all.. I used to read stories and such..

I had a love that has recently been lost. something that felt so real. It was great. I gave her the best sex of her life and she gave me cuddling and hugs.

now shes gone and I don't know what to quite do.

I miss her badly.. but I now am growing angry.

any suggestions?

Forget about her...she did the same thing to me.

 

[lipsofanangel]

OK, we were wrong, Min: Gauche managed to add something very worthwhile to what Lucky said.

Damn, we're good - you came to the right place, useme. (Spoken from the peanut gallery, having added nothing useful myself. )

Nothing much to add to those, I have to say. They pretty much said it all so I'm joining you in the peanut gallery.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

In 1932 the U.S. Congress approved the charter for the Bonniville Power Administration. The preamble to the charter reads, in part: "...to bring cheap electrical energy to the Pacific Northwest forever." In 1982 the NorthWest Power Planning Council decided the "days of cheap power in the NW are over." In other words, FOREVER ended on Noverber 16, 1982.

 

[maggot420]

In 1932 the U.S. Congress approved the charter for the Bonniville Power Administration. The preamble to the charter reads, in part: "...to bring cheap electrical energy to the Pacific Northwest forever." In 1982 the NorthWest Power Planning Council decided the "days of cheap power in the NW are over." In other words, FOREVER ended on Noverber 16, 1982.

So forever last about 50 years...not bad.
I think I'm going to live forever.

 

[Pure]

you pick yourself up and you move along.

it will help to let go if you can eliminate the feeling of being unfairly treated or that the outcome was somehow unjust. it's my impression that this is the case.

for example, you mention the 'best sex in her life'. commonsense, then, says that that wasn't her criterion for staying or leaving; any number of factors may have--quite fairly-- been judged by her, including some you may not see the sense of-- perhaps you are the wrong height or the wrong color or the wrong kind of baptist.

it's also worth saying--without trying to deflate your ego-- that she may well have gained in sexual arousal, fulfillment. indeed you may have opened those doors. BUT her gains are not tied to you, sorry to say. perhaps she realizes this: it follows that what you state as a big loss for her may be something she expects to be able to remedy.

you hurt and you want to find something to justify it; but such 'justifications' don't realy matter. a loss is a loss; rationalizations about what you think she lost may not help. only time and experience does.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

I am with you on tis, I recently went through the loss of my first and only girlfriend. I loved her like I had never experienced before. She's been out and open for years and I had just come out. I wasn't prepared to deal with that loss so suddenly. I still hurt everytime I see her with her new love. I get angry and I rage. The thing is that I also see her reasoning and I know it is sound. It doesn't belay the fact that it hurts and the massive changes in my planning and my perseptions are sometimes hard to deal with. M and I had something tht was supposed to turn into coffee on the front porch at 80. Instead it turned into roommates who have a hard time even talking right now.
I wish I had something profound to add, all I do have is this, you aren't alone although I know it feels like it.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

Nothing much to add to those, I have to say. They pretty much said it all so I'm joining you in the peanut gallery.

Doggone - even ( ) Pure chimed in with some valuable advice. "We" really are good.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Too bad people don't get to know the whole story.

All I can say is Damn, you're good.

 

[bad_girl69]

I have been a member her for a while.. but don't post much at all.. I used to read stories and such..

I had a love that has recently been lost. something that felt so real. It was great. I gave her the best sex of her life and she gave me cuddling and hugs.

now shes gone and I don't know what to quite do.

I miss her badly.. but I now am growing angry.

any suggestions?

Listen, some things happen for a reason. I know u probably have heard this so many times, and at first, i thought it was a whole load of crap. But i than soon realized it was true. I was going out with this guy for close to 2 years, and i loved him. I know i did. You can tell when you have that one feeling. And he loved me right back. I thought for a while that he was the one, but all the sudden, he just like ended it. I was so hurt, and i remember crying over it. I remember telling myself that i never wanted to love anyone again, but then i met this other guy, and wow, everything has changed. He bring more love and light to my life than anyone has ever b4. We have been together for close to 5 years now, and things are just getting better and better.

Maybe she wasnt the one for you, and yes it does hurt, and you do get angry, but there is that girl out there, that you will find, that will make you happier than ever... Just hold on.. and dont give up

 

[h_i_s]

Listen, some things happen for a reason. I know u probably have heard this so many times, and at first, i thought it was a whole load of crap. But i than soon realized it was true. I was going out with this guy for close to 2 years, and i loved him. I know i did. You can tell when you have that one feeling. And he loved me right back. I thought for a while that he was the one, but all the sudden, he just like ended it. I was so hurt, and i remember crying over it. I remember telling myself that i never wanted to love anyone again, but then i met this other guy, and wow, everything has changed. He bring more love and light to my life than anyone has ever b4. We have been together for close to 5 years now, and things are just getting better and better.

Maybe she wasnt the one for you, and yes it does hurt, and you do get angry, but there is that girl out there, that you will find, that will make you happier than ever... Just hold on.. and dont give up

Wow... your situation just seems to get more complicated with each post and/or as the night goes on...... The guy of two years? You mean the 'master' that you had the LDR/online thing with? Your version of this story on the BDSM forum added to this version doesn't add up very easily..... it's complicated in some ways for others who are trying to follow it......
Or maybe you forgot to include the other half of the story on your post to the BDSM Talk section of the forum?

 

[cloudy]

I have been a member her for a while.. but don't post much at all.. I used to read stories and such..

I had a love that has recently been lost. something that felt so real. It was great. I gave her the best sex of her life and she gave me cuddling and hugs.

now shes gone and I don't know what to quite do.

I miss her badly.. but I now am growing angry.

any suggestions?

"gave her the best sex of her life"?

Puh-leeze.

There's more to this story, folks.

My suggestion? Let her go. She's much better off without you.

 

[Jubal_Harshaw]

Call her up. Yell and scream at her, call her a bitch and a whore, then tell her to fuck off and hang up. Get it all out of your system. You'll feel a lot better. Trust me.

From what I've seen, Forever is about 7 months. By then they are bored with you because your not Tom Cruise/Brad Pitt/Justin Timberlake or whoever the hot guy of the day is and it's all down hill from there.

 

[usemeplease28]

lol

lol... that last post was funny.. I sense a tad bit of anger..

about the best sex of her life... she is the one who has said that many times..and its true...the reason is because of love and understanding of each other and each others bodies, wants and needs.
and our separation was a good thing for us both.
because now....
..
We are together for good and in love without hesitation on either end.
I love her to death
and she also knows/feels how important I am to her now.

I posted it once.. and its been around for a long time... the wisdom that if you let something go and it comes back then its meant to be... well we both did and we both came home to each other.

only a few people here know of the woman im speaking of...just know your all very lucky to have her in your life, as am I.

Thank you all for the helpful messages and kind words.

now I need to somehow get more messages posted so I can submit naked pictures of myself in the avatar thing. lol

 

[arienette]

lol... that last post was funny.. I sense a tad bit of anger..

about the best sex of her life... she is the one who has said that many times..and its true...the reason is because of love and understanding of each other and each others bodies, wants and needs.
and our separation was a good thing for us both.
because now....
..
We are together for good and in love without hesitation on either end.
I love her to death
and she also knows/feels how important I am to her now.

I posted it once.. and its been around for a long time... the wisdom that if you let something go and it comes back then its meant to be... well we both did and we both came home to each other.

only a few people here know of the woman im speaking of...just know your all very lucky to have her in your life, as am I.

Thank you all for the helpful messages and kind words.

now I need to somehow get more messages posted so I can submit naked pictures of myself in the avatar thing. lol