What does getting a spanking do for you?

[Betticus]

I know it's different for everyone and even different depending on mood, etc...

I'm curious to know not the immediate sexual stuff but what it really does for you, deep inside.

The most profound spanking experience I had was with my niece, not sexual, she was naughty.

I used to do all of my grandmothers yard work and house maintenance and my sister was using my grandmother as a day care. Not the best situation.

The back yard got infested with dandelions because a neighbor refused to keep his yard up where it should be and the seeds for those things spread with the wind. So I had mowed the lawn and sprayed weed killer. My niece liked to play in the yard barefoot and she was only about five years old, I had read the warning labels carefully and told her that she had to stay out of the yard for a couple of days because of the poison and explained that it could make her sick. I had boots and jeans on and socks, was wearing the protective eyewear and all that, went out to do the weedeating around the fenceline to finish up the yardwork. My niece saw this and she was upset that I was in the yard after telling her that she couldn't be. I saw movement and turned just in time to see her throw the water she had filled a glass with. She turned and ran for it but I caught her at the back door, sat down on the step, put her little self over my lap and spanked her. To make matters worse I then sat her in my lap and explained that I was wearing clothing that would protect me from the weed poison and that she was barefoot, I told her that I wanted her to stay out of the yard because I loved her and didn't want her to get sick. Then I let her go after I hugged her and she ran inside. I finished up the yardwork, put all the tools away and showered and changed.

I didn't find out until later that day that my niece had never been spanked in her life. She was mad. She went to my grandmother and asked her to give me a spanking. That was just too cute but my grandma just asked her what she did to get a spanking. Grandma was old school about discipline. My niece told me she hated me and ran off and hid in a guest bedroom for a couple of hours. She'd pop out once in a while and let me know how much she hated me. My sister came over once she got off work and we were all having dinner there, my niece told her about the spanking and even though my sister didn't spank her kids she told my niece that she shouldn't have misbehaved and getting a spanking was her own responsibility. So, my niece had absolutely no help or sympathy from the family.

After a couple of hours she came out of hiding, she went to the kitchen and then she came over to me. I was sitting on the couch, still cooling off from the heat of the day. My lil niece brought me a big glass of iced tea and then she sat right by my side and wouldn't leave that spot. She got one of her practice reading books and read it to me and pointed out all the pictures and told me all about it.

It seems that with no real discipline at home, divorced mom, no father figure that she just didn't feel important. Something clicked in her mind and made her realize that someone in the family cared enough about her to enforce a little discipline and that one simple thing done in that manner changed this kid. She would always go out of her way to give me a hug and talk with me until I moved away.


Like I said, it's non sexual. What does the spanking mean to you though?

 

[Homburg]

Great story. Seriously.

Spanking is just another tool in my toolbox. I am a sensualist, not a disciplinarian. But I definitely appreciate that the act could have deeper meaning for others.

 

[EmpressFi]

I really dont know if I can put into words what the spanking does for me. I love the feeling of it, the pain, the way it starts at my ass and the tingling goes all over. I love the attention and I love the feel of his hands as he soothes me.

 

[Netzach]

What xanax does, but faster.

I never was spanked as a child. I was belted a couple of times, but more often dragged by hair or knuckles rapped with a fork or my favorite things destroyed in front of me. Let's just say phsyical discipline, while not something that should have pulled me out of my home by CPS, wasn't always the healthiest.

So I have no point of reference except that it's calming to me. When I was pro I actually "middled" in a scene with the headmistress and it was so calming and nice to be on her lap getting reddened, even though it hurt a lot.

 

[malinborn]

I do not know that I can answer this.. i mean, i don't really receive "spankings" so much as beatings... not always for being bad, but for the sensation of it. my Mistress just really enjoys it... sometimes sliding on her leather gloves and slapping my skin from ass to upper back... sometimes paddling, flogging, or caning (we've not progressed to single tail). Sometimes they are gentlish but most times.. harsh.

When we play.. well, people around us stop and watch. It's not to say other's play is not fantastic, but for weeks after we play people stop Her in the club and talk to Her about our session together, the amount of torment i take at Her hands, the sound of my scream (which sometimes i do).

What i get out of it, i think, is this sense of satisfaction that She has to work so hard... that She is satisfied in the workout she gets, that others enjoy watching us, that, for that brief bit of time, so many eyes are upon me. Which is weird since I generally do not really like a lot of attention.

my Mistress and i have our private play but that is usually much different, still sensual, but less spanking or beating, more caressing, nails, etc.

What i get most out of it is just knowing for that time that we are together is special. Cannot explain it, it's just special.

 

[WriterDom]

Is there more control than having someone over your lap, your hand tangled in their hair, their buttocks upturned and ready, pussy wet with anticipation? Fleshy soft curves being rubbed, warming the cheeks, soft spanks at first, too soft, torturously soft, becoming harder, stopping to fingerfuck her cunt and asking if she wants more.

 

[ecstaticsub]

When I was a kid my mother used to do the "wait till your father comes home" type of discipline. It wasn't all that often but up until maybe the age of 10 I remember having to lay down on the edge of my fathers bed, (sometimes with my brothers) my skirt/dress pulled up and my father beating us with his belt. The only thing that was running through my head was "my father loves me so he won't beat me to death". He always told us to think of what we had done wrong while he was beating us. I never did. Usually by the time he got home from work I had forgotten what it was anyway..


Fast forward to spankings now..The first (ond only time so far) my Dom has used a belt on me was for a punishment. I don't think I can separate the sexual from the spanking. It was just 4 very hard smacks but I was crying and shaking. He pulled me to my feet and kissed me and then fucked me. Without any doubt it was the most awesome sexual experience of my life.

Another OTK spanking that he did was one I had asked for. He lives far away so we don't get to see each other very often. We were fully dressed and just holding and kissing each other waiting the 15 minutes or so before we had to check out of the hotel and take me to the airport. It had been an incredible visit. As we were kissing I felt this intense craving for a spanking. I just needed it so much. I had never asked him for a spanking before...or anything like that. It just never seemed like correct behaviour. But as the time got shorter and my craving got more intense, I, in the most respectful way I could, begged him for a spanking. He sat up on the bed , pulled me over his lap, pulled my skirt up and my panties down and started spanking me. i could feel him getting hard underneath me and I started feeling guilty because I knew we wouldn't have time to have sex but he was spanking me harder and harder and for the very first time (and only time so far) I orgasmed while being spanked with no vaginal/clitoral stimulation. He then told me never to hesitate in asking for a spanking again.

 

[rachy91]

I orgasmed while being spanked with no vaginal/clitoral stimulation. He then told me never to hesitate in asking for a spanking again.

Me like Me Like!!!

Bahah

 

[subkitty72]

For me, it always comes back to my father.

Boring, stereotypical, pathetic even, but his absence left a weird shaped hole in my heart. I’ve been looking for that missing piece for as long as I’ve known I wasn’t complete. The closest I’ve come to feeling complete was during my one and only spanking, which took place well over a decade ago when I was a college student. It was administered by the much older lover of one of my professors.

There was no penetration, or any other sexual play, it was just an old-school spanking.

Even so, my first response to the spanking was sexual. But underpinning arousal was a security, a sense of being loved and guided. Alice walker has a poem (can’t recall the title) that says something to the effect that her anger…her moodiness is always looking for “somewhere to stop”. That’s kinda what it felt like to me. It was regaining a sense of control and consequence for my actions, a sense of security, a sense of “stopping” that I have rarely felt.

I’ve thought a lot about that night (no shit), wrote an account of it even. It’s haunted my dreams-become my Valhalla-the place I want to go back to. Yeah, one spanking did that. Talk about power.

 

[kiten69]

I know it's different for everyone and even different depending on mood, etc...

Hmmm. . .I've not been spanked in quite sometime, you should come do it and I'll give you a play by play analysis! *bats eyelashes*


For me it's comforting, somewhere I can go and feel completely safe, secure and loved. It is also a good form of stress relief for me, the pleasure mixed in with the pain. As EmpressFi said, "it's hard to put into words".

 

[sexycaz22]

Hmmm. . .I've not been spanked in quite sometime, you should come do it and I'll give you a play by play analysis! *bats eyelashes*


For me it's comforting, somewhere I can go and feel completely safe, secure and loved. It is also a good form of stress relief for me, the pleasure mixed in with the pain. As EmpressFi said, "it's hard to put into words".

I will have to echo what kiten said here....I felt exactly the same when A was doing the OTK spankings on my lovely bum and I loved it.

Hard to put it in words, but simply put, it makes me very happy!

 

[kiten69]

Hard to put it in words, but simply put, it makes me very happy!

*happy sigh* : purring kitten emote goes here :

 

[sexycaz22]

*happy sigh* : purring kitten emote goes here :

Yep.....am already missing the spankings.... and it was only a couple of days ago!

 

[subfem1963]

Hard to put in words what it does for me too, i feel in a strange way comforted by it.
I love the feeling of the flogger or paddle hitting my arse knowing i am going to have some lovely marks left behind.
Strangly enough his hand always hurts me more But afterwards i love to feel his hands soothing me.
I Love it.

 

[His_pita]

Is there more control than having someone over your lap, your hand tangled in their hair, their buttocks upturned and ready, pussy wet with anticipation? Fleshy soft curves being rubbed, warming the cheeks, soft spanks at first, too soft, torturously soft, becoming harder, stopping to fingerfuck her cunt and asking if she wants more.

Yup that pretty much sums it up for me. I love being over his knees! I bury my face in the couch, arch my back the way he likes it, and surrender to whatever he does to me. It's a wonderful time and we try to have an OTK spanking at least once a week.

 

[Stegral]

I'm the odd one out

I must be a freak...
when my Top spanks me during a session/scene it drops me back to reality...
when I fly & wants me to come back he will place one or two on each cheek...
Spanking is a killer for me...
but then again I am still really new & floggers, canes, crops & paddles make me panic...
any "percussion" play scares me.
I prefer the sensory play... pinwheels, feathers, knives & that stuff

 

[be_ignited]

I remember my first real spanking experience very distinctly(possibly because it really wasn't that long ago... ). I was in high school and fooling around and playing grab-ass in mixed company when a male friend of mine reared back and smacked my ass so hard it left a big red hand print and later a bruise in the shape of his thumb ( I kept running into the bathroom and puling down my pants to check..). It was the first time I had gotten a real taste of what I had been fantasizing about for most of my life (in some form or another). I was, among other things, incredibly turned on by it. In fact, 3 or so months later I wound up dating said boy and he was the first person I ever confessed any of my kinkier desires to. Turns out he was more than happy to oblige me .

 

[FurryFury]

It brightens me up, makes me feel loved and H-O-T!

Woo hoo!

Let's hear it for spankings!

 

[im_a_voyeur]

Is there more control than having someone over your lap, your hand tangled in their hair, their buttocks upturned and ready, pussy wet with anticipation? Fleshy soft curves being rubbed, warming the cheeks, soft spanks at first, too soft, torturously soft, becoming harder, stopping to fingerfuck her cunt and asking if she wants more.

That's the kind of proper spanking that I've yet to experience.

 

[Juggins]

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[maybenicegirl]

I really have no deep seated childhood thing about spanking, but I can say that I would love to have my man spank me. It's a very gratifying thing. It's love and fun and sex at the same time.

 

[Bill3250]

I'm a submissive male without a true dom female to tame and train me. My wife has spanked me with her palm and with a hairbrush. She has even used a switch and a belt on my ass. If my hands are bound, I am excited to the verge of coming. A spanking is good, but if my wife were a true dominant it would be great.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm a submissive male without a true dom female to tame and train me. My wife has spanked me with her palm and with a hairbrush. She has even used a switch and a belt on my ass. If my hands are bound, I am excited to the verge of coming. A spanking is good, but if my wife were a true dominant it would be great.

Your post made me think how very ungrateful you sound. Your wife who is not a Dom is willing to indulge this activity you desire but it's not good enough?

Do not be surprised if she suddenly won't or can't do it anymore.

 

[kiten69]

Let's hear it for spankings!

WOOHOO!!!

 

[ownedsubgal]

when i'm spanked for punishment, it lets me know he cares. that my actions matter, which reminds me that i have a purpose and place. when i'm spanked during sex, it lets me know that a man is aroused by me. that i am succeeding in pleasing him. fulfilling my purpose. when i'm spanked, as i often am, as a greeting, sort of "hey what's up"...it reminds me that i am beneath all men, that i am not their equal or peer.

all of the above bring me comfort and stability, so i suppose that is what you could say spanking does for me.