What do you think?

[islandlife391]

This seems to be the best place for this question. For a while I thought my husband was cheating on me. We have been married for 2 years now but for the last few months (7 exactly) he hasn't been taking care of my needs. I snooped on his phone and found a lot of porn and then I looked at his computer and that was full of porn as well. Not just normal stuff but what they call cuckold porn, tons of it, pictures, movies and especially stories from here and several other sites. Along with all this his shorts have had cum stains on them, so I take it he is jerking off to all of this stuff. So my real question is should I confront him with it or what?

 

[pumperguy191]

yes. but in a special way. if he truly wants a cuck's life, you need to decide if you want it as well. you will probably never have sex with him again or very seldom. of course, this is the extreme version. you could confront him and say something to the effect that you found his porn stash, you found his cum stained undies and you want a change. you want to start fucking other guys. at first, away from him. then, you come home and make him clean you up. then, you start bringing guys home and fuck them in front of him.

let us know how it works out.

 

[hopingforthebest]

Yes you should but not in an accusing way, ask him what it is that turns him on about it. Be prepared to be shocked but try and understand what he is going through, he probably feels ashamed and that you will look down at him and judge him. With that being said what is your thoughts on what he has been looking at? would you be willing to do some of the things he is getting aroused by? It requires an open mind from all.

 

[islandlife391]

Not sure if I could do those things. Not that I was a virgin when we got married but I have never cheated. It would have been a lot less shocking if he would have asked for a 3some but the stuff he looks at and reads is like WOW.

 

[Justfantasies]

I realized that I was into cuckolding when I was just in my twenties and chose the women in my life accordingly -- I have been married twice and had a few serious girlfriends and have encouraged them all to "cheat" on me. And in one way or another they all did.

Of course, it wasn't really cheating and I love to prepare my wife for a date and hear all about it when she returns. It seems to me that despite the social pressures that are put on women not to be with multiple guys, they are built for such a relationships, so why shouldn't they have fun like that.

Of course, I still watch cuckolding porn. Love the stuff best when the woman looks like my wife

 

[Wkd_Macey]

Yes you should but not in an accusing way, ask him what it is that turns him on about it. Be prepared to be shocked but try and understand what he is going through, he probably feels ashamed and that you will look down at him and judge him. With that being said what is your thoughts on what he has been looking at? would you be willing to do some of the things he is getting aroused by? It requires an open mind from all.

I think I would agree with this, but to be fair I haven't really been on the planet long enough to understand what he must be feeling (or you for that matter) - Hey I even had to look it up.

One guy I'm chatting with is into that though, and he seems to have worked it out with his wife so that they're both happy. It's just possible, that your man has a problem in that department and maybe he feels that if he can't satisfy you any more himself, then you deserve someone else to do it for him (I've no real idea here - I'm just guessing).

I think I would try to talk to him about it, but be as subtle as possible. As hopingforthebest says - try not to sound accusing Do you think that talking to him might cause a problem in itself?

It may be that he doesn't actually want to put you through the whole cuckold thing at all. Maybe he's just turned on by the idea? If you can both be brave enough to discuss it rationally, then I'd think you're half way to a solution

 

[FGB]

Life and relationships are what you two make out of it.
Nobody's business how you two conduct your marriage.

Start talking!

 

[tw63]

''Confronting" him might make him deny and embaress him enough to lead to a fight. Letting him know you found his porn stash and that it was OK - except your needs are going unmet might be appropriate. Only you can determine what approach to take and what you're willing to do or compromise on.

Most people seem to agree that some discussion needs to happen between you two...