What do you think, please

[lost]

First off I'd like to say I'm not looking for legal advice. I just want to know what you think.

Here is the problem: My husband and I have been separated for 3 years. He has been very bad about paying any kind of support. He's two months behind (not to mention the 12 months he skipped completely before) and has stated he is not going to "waste" any more money.

My solution- Call state services and get them to make him pay.

My Dad's solution- Leave it be. When it come up in court (in his divorce action) it will look really bad for him. My concern is that it would look bad for me to.

Please tell me what you think.

 

[hogjack]

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Please tell me what you think.

Your dad is wrong.
Do what you need to do.

I'm sure you'll get a long tally backing this up. Knives sharpened and ready...here they come.

 

[RastaPope]

First off I'd like to say I'm not looking for legal advice. I just want to know what you think.

Here is the problem: My husband and I have been separated for 3 years. He has been very bad about paying any kind of support. He's two months behind (not to mention the 12 months he skipped completely before) and has stated he is not going to "waste" any more money.

My solution- Call state services and get them to make him pay.

My Dad's solution- Leave it be. When it come up in court (in his divorce action) it will look really bad for him. My concern is that it would look bad for me to.

Please tell me what you think.

is it support for you, or the kids? there's a difference.

 

[thumbs2_ca]

well

My two cents is that you should get in touch with the people that enforce it. The courts said he is to pay support then he should pay support.
If you go to court and they see that you have not tried to make him pay is it possible that they will say "Obviously she does not need that much or she would have been after him to pay."

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Call DSS...they can "garnish" his wages, removing your support from his paycheck before he even gets his grubby mits on it. A friend of mine had to do that.

 

[ksmybuttons]

3 years?! I think it is time for the divorce...two years ago!

 

[mike_mike02128]

my 2 cents are going in the change jar. I'm saving for a new bike.

 

[LukkyKnight]

My advice: get legal advice. I don't know if there's any way of enforcing payments during a separation, but regardless for the useful advice about what's right, now and during the divorce proceedings, you want a knowledgeable attorney, not your parents and a bunch of schmucks on the internet as your source.

 

[lost]

Re: Re: What do you think, please

Your dad is wrong.
Do what you need to do.

I'm sure you'll get a long tally backing this up. Knives sharpened and ready...here they come.

Thanks hon

 

[lost]

Re: Re: What do you think, please

is it support for you, or the kids? there's a difference.

For the kid

 

[Calamity Jane]

My advice: get legal advice. I don't know if there's any way of enforcing payments during a separation, but regardless for the useful advice about what's right, now and during the divorce proceedings, you want a knowledgeable attorney, not your parents and a bunch of schmucks on the internet as your source.

Shit. There goes my idea for a quick and painless divorce.

 

[Lancecastor]

My advice: get legal advice. I don't know if there's any way of enforcing payments during a separation, but regardless for the useful advice about what's right, now and during the divorce proceedings, you want a knowledgeable attorney, not your parents and a bunch of schmucks on the internet as your source.

This schmuck supports his view.

 

[lost]

My advice: get legal advice. I don't know if there's any way of enforcing payments during a separation, but regardless for the useful advice about what's right, now and during the divorce proceedings, you want a knowledgeable attorney, not your parents and a bunch of schmucks on the internet as your source.

They can enforce in this state. I know I need to hire another lawyer. The first was a jerk and ripped me off. I don't have any $ right now, and obviously its worse now, so I'm going to have to use legal aid something I have been putting off as long as possible. *Sigh* Sorry to dump, bad day.

BTW I adore your AV

 

[lost]

Shit. There goes my idea for a quick and painless divorce.

Is there such a thing?

 

[lost]

Re: well

My two cents is that you should get in touch with the people that enforce it. The courts said he is to pay support then he should pay support.
If you go to court and they see that you have not tried to make him pay is it possible that they will say "Obviously she does not need that much or she would have been after him to pay."

That's what I was thinking to. Ok the paperwork goes in the mail tomorrow.

 

[BoobsNBrains]

Bottom line: think of your child and what he/she will need. He helped you make the baby, he can help you pay to raise the baby. It's all about personal responsibility, something I feel is extremely lacking in today's society...but that's another story.

Good luck. Don't back down...you obviously have a wonderful support group of schmucks here.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Is there such a thing?

Yup, with the proper application of a shotgun or really sharp knife, I hear it can be painless for at least one of the divorcees.

 

[lost]

Thanks all,

I'm going to go down tomorrow and talk to legal aid or what ever they call it.
I'm taking all donations, especially if they involve a large man sitting at my front door when "hubby" finds out. He will be rewarded well for his services.

 

[A Desert Rose]

you want a knowledgeable attorney, not your parents and a bunch of schmucks on the internet as your source.

Absolutely.

 

[lost]

Yup, with the proper application of a shotgun or really sharp knife, I hear it can be painless for at least one of the divorcees.

LMAO- I wish- he's a real ass, have I mentioned I left him cause he gave the baby a black eye? I'm just waiting, cause I know all that pain will come back to him someday.

 

[cumman]

Call the state.