What do you think? Does Rebuilding trust with an Ex through BDSM work?

[Loonytoony]

Hi guys and gals

Right now its more an idea for a story, also through life experience.

Would you guys take your ex back? Trust was lost. And cant probably rebuild.

So would you give a bdsm style relationship a try to rebuild? And if yes, how does that looks like?

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Good Heavens, no!

And NO!

And HELL, NO!

You say trust has been lost and ain’t coming back, yet the very core of responsible BDSM is trust. You’d have better odds playing Russian Roulette with five cylinders loaded. This is a recipe for emotional and maybe physical disaster.

 

[Loonytoony]

Thx for the reply.

I see a lot of these settings in the stories here. And i can warm up with such a unrealistic behaviour

 

[Meduus]

Nope never for bdsm

Sex maybe… but no way I’m,gonna let anyone hurt me that I don’t trust

 

[Loonytoony]

Thanks for the reply. I agree

 

[twister947]

Rebuild trust? Nope. Fool me once...

 

[LisaMayTurner]

Of course not, no.

 

[MiaBabe23]

A different perspective; perhaps so, if you’re both genuinely wanting that and are also working on the other aspects of of your relationship to rebuild trust
Presumably the one who had betrayed/ broken the trust would hold the more submissive position. And if both had broken trust, presumably both could take that position
But imagining that alone would rebuild trust doesn’t sound convincing, and could go very wrong

 

[Hungry68]

If that works then sign me up. I'd be the sub.

 

[cascadiabound]

I agree with many others that this is a recipe for all kinds of trouble in actual life. However, the story arc of lost trust regained by some device is practically cliché. So while I wouldn't necessarily discourage developing a story along those lines, like many stories here and elsewhere, leave it in storybook land and do not expect life to follow art.