What do you have to do when you see your Dom...

[lovetobeasub]

Be naked, Keep your legs open, Put on chains, Nipple Clamps, Kneel before them?

Just curious I have to keep my legs open at all times and have clamps on.
In fact my nipples are so sore because this has been a lot lately...anyone know any cures for that too! I will have to do it again tonight and I just don't think my nipples can take anymore.

 

[princess4u]

i must always be naked and keep my legs apart

most times he will also chain me, but not always

 

[shy slave]

We usually meet in airports, all he asks of me is to say 'hello' and give him a hug.

Anything else may cause our time together to be cut short as we try to arrange bail for each other

lol

 

[graceanne]

Give him a hug, a kiss, and say "Hi, honey, how was your day."

I have small children - anything else will get them taken from us.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm with shy and graceannne.....we don't have any elaborate Story of O type rituals, perhaps because it becomes too much work for the Dominant when living 24/7, not to mention sometimes he just wants to relax, have a cup of coffee, and zone out without feeling pressured by having a naked, open legged slave sitting there waiting patiently for something exciting to happen. He is happy with respect, a kiss, an ear to listen to his venting on the events of the day, and usually a coffee and some quiet time in front of the box doing nothing but sit and unwind.

Catalina

 

[lovetobeasub]

Give him a hug, a kiss, and say "Hi, honey, how was your day."

I have small children - anything else will get them taken from us.

I have small children too! I meant when you are finally alone.

 

[graceanne]

I have small children too! I meant when you are finally alone.

Sleep. Beyond that, K's not into rituals, he thinks it makes things boring. He doesn't want to get stuck in a rut. So even if we're going to have sex what he wants me to do differs from one time to another.

 

[FurryFury]

Be naked, Keep your legs open, Put on chains, Nipple Clamps, Kneel before them?

Just curious I have to keep my legs open at all times and have clamps on.
In fact my nipples are so sore because this has been a lot lately...anyone know any cures for that too! I will have to do it again tonight and I just don't think my nipples can take anymore.

In my opinion if you and your nipples are at the breaking point a decent Master would take that into account. He should be caring towards you and not just blindly demanding.

That is if he was aware of it. Are you able to communicate that with him?

On the other hand, he may want you to have to break on that. He may want to see the tears and the coming apart over that. He may need to you see that you do have limits.

Then again he just might not know that you are so close to being over your limit on this or what the damn things actually would feel like night after night.

I don't know you or your master so I'm just putting out thoughts.

Ritual can be good. Adherence to ritual for ritual's sake can get to be too much, if the emotions and people behind the terms "submissive" and "master" are not taken into account.

Fury

 

[pellso27]

My slave

Well we have not met in person yet but she must get on her knees when she calls and greet me with a Sir everytime she speaks She knows when we meet she is expected to drop to her knees and put her head back and open her mouth turning her head as she winks with a wicked grin!

 

[Master Sensei]

I expect my slave to use punctuation when we're together.

 

[FurryFury]

I expect my slave to use punctuation when we're together.

That is a great expectation!

I LOVE that!

Fury

 

[Netzach]

I don't have children and yet I mainly expect a smile and a kiss when he gets home. Beneath all this perverted exterior I'm somewhat integrated into normal doings, hard to believe I know. I try not to overdo that.

 

[graceanne]

I don't have children and yet I mainly expect a smile and a kiss when he gets home. Beneath all this perverted exterior I'm somewhat integrated into normal doings, hard to believe I know. I try not to overdo that.

A SMILE! Man, that's just mean. He has to actually SMILE at you? You sadist.

 

[cati]

Be naked, Keep your legs open, Put on chains, Nipple Clamps, Kneel before them?

Just curious I have to keep my legs open at all times and have clamps on.
In fact my nipples are so sore because this has been a lot lately...anyone know any cures for that too! I will have to do it again tonight and I just don't think my nipples can take anymore.

I can undstand the legs open part. Having you in nipple clamps that long just doesn't seem the right way to go. (From what I have heard and read) Nipple clamps shouldn't be worn more than 15-20 minutes at a time. Have you told your Dom this? You could use just decorative nipple jewellery if he lets you.
If he insists on your wearing clamps, try and rub toothpaste (with brush) over your nipples when they are bare, the abrasive nature of the paste and rubbing is supposed to toughin' up the tender area.

 

[serijules]

I think the originial poster was asking more about what kinds of rituals and expectations are in place in your D/s relationship at any given time, not necessarily the second you walk in the door and every moment you are together...

Me, I have to answer with Yes or No Ma'am...not ok, not yeah, etc.

Now when I visit, my slave collar goes on the moment we meet and doesn't come off until the moment I leave.

When we are alone in her house, I am expected to be naked while in her room.

Always shaved smooth. Asshole always lubed when with her.

I like ritual. It feels good and helps us keep in touch with our D/s, even when we are not being D/s.

 

[Naked Blade]

In my opinion if you and your nipples are at the breaking point a decent Master would take that into account. He should be caring towards you and not just blindly demanding. Fury

Well said. I tgink that's a really important point. Dominance is not simply about lavishing oneself at the expense of another person - D/s is still a loving commitment expressed in a particular way that takes into account the feelings, needs, wants & expectations of both (or more!) people involved.

 

[lovetobeasub]

In my opinion if you and your nipples are at the breaking point a decent Master would take that into account. He should be caring towards you and not just blindly demanding.

That is if he was aware of it. Are you able to communicate that with him?

On the other hand, he may want you to have to break on that. He may want to see the tears and the coming apart over that. He may need to you see that you do have limits.

Then again he just might not know that you are so close to being over your limit on this or what the damn things actually would feel like night after night.

I don't know you or your master so I'm just putting out thoughts.

Ritual can be good. Adherence to ritual for ritual's sake can get to be too much, if the emotions and people behind the terms "submissive" and "master" are not taken into account.

Fury

Well I think he thinks I complain a lot. I believe he wants to push me to my breaking point. When I told him they are very sore he strongly replied "He doesn't care. He says he as per our contract can punish me derserving or not". He says he will clamp me again tonight and no he does not leave them on more then 20 minutes.

 

[FurryFury]

Well I think he thinks I complain a lot. I believe he wants to push me to my breaking point. When I told him they are very sore he strongly replied "He doesn't care. He says he as per our contract can punish me derserving or not". He says he will clamp me again tonight and no he does not leave them on more then 20 minutes.

That does explain a lot then. It's hard to break in front of someone. I wish you well.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

Well I think he thinks I complain a lot. I believe he wants to push me to my breaking point. When I told him they are very sore he strongly replied "He doesn't care. He says he as per our contract can punish me derserving or not". He says he will clamp me again tonight and no he does not leave them on more then 20 minutes.

Hopefully he has the skills to deal with it if you do break...many a Dominant wants to encourage it, but then throw their hands in the air when it happens and not only complain about the outcome and the sub's shortcomings, but expect the sub to prove themselves further by miraculously putting themselves back together so play can continue without the ugly stuff to deal with. Good luck.

Catalina

 

[Miss Trickery]

Be naked, Keep your legs open, Put on chains, Nipple Clamps, Kneel before them?

I have to give him a kiss on the cheek, give him a big hug, and smother him with affection. Or is that what I like to do for him? Who knows, it happens though

 

[lovetobeasub]

Well he didn't put the clamps on me just twisted and pulled and sqeezed them...I guess not as bad as clamps. They are still sore and he tells me tonight he will go back to the clamps. I am not sure if he is playing with me or he will do this tonight. He had me worried all day yesterday and I think he enjoyed that so has me doing it again today. He tells me he bought new strong ones and nipple nooses (not sure what they are) but he said they are both stronger then what he has already and if they come in the mail today I am getting those.

Anyone know what nipple nooses are? Are they really strong?

 

[h_i_s]

i've never been required to greet Him with any particular formalities.
In answering this question i stopped to reflect on why that might be.
Perhaps it is simply because i am His slave, and by our definition *FOR OURSELVES* ..
this means that i am in always in 'slave mode', aka always conscious of being His, obeying Him, honoring Him, loving Him ... etc ect.
We are married and reside together, and my being His slave and He being my Master is not something that changes when He walks out the door and then 'turns on' again when He returns to me.
Most times, i simply greet Him by saying hi/hello, and lean in for a kiss & a hug ... because that is what i LIKE to do.

 

[catalina_francisco]

i've never been required to greet Him with any particular formalities.
In answering this question i stopped to reflect on why that might be.
Perhaps it is simply because i am His slave, and by our definition *FOR OURSELVES* ..
this means that i am in always in 'slave mode', aka always conscious of being His, obeying Him, honoring Him, loving Him ... etc ect.
We are married and reside together, and my being His slave and He being my Master is not something that changes when He walks out the door and then 'turns on' again when He returns to me.
Most times, i simply greet Him by saying hi/hello, and lean in for a kiss & a hug ... because that is what i LIKE to do.

LOL, I can so relate.

Catalina

 

[His_pita]

Well, we are not in real life yet, but we do talk about what he will expect from me. One scenario is that I will come home from a hard day at work and he will be there to greet me. Maybe hand me a drink and then tell me to go take a shower. There will be clothes laying out for me. Maybe a skirt and a button down top, along with my collar of course. My Dom doesn’t like panties so I won’t be wearing them very often. I will then get to sit on his lap, tell him about my day, and hear about his as we snuggle and reconnect with each other. Or if I get home first then I will greet him at the door with a kiss and hug and do whatever it is that will make him happy.

He likes rituals, so I suspect we will gradually figure out what works best for us. I will always be his submissive and it will always be very important that we keep our D/s in the forefront of our relationship.

 

[shy slave]

lovetobesub~ This is absolutely none of my business, but i have been in a similiar realtionship to the one your describing, your PYL worries me.

I am sorry if you think I am speaking out of turn, however no-one is a PYL or pyl 100% of the time.

It takes a brave and honest man to listen to you and back down when it becomes a situation that can cause you unintended harm.

For example if your nipple clamps are punishment (and I have very strong views on when sadism is and isn't punishment, there is a thread in the library if you want to look further); and the offshoot of that punishment means your nipples are so painful they are causing you problems at other times ask yourself 'was that his intention' if it was, did he tell you in advance it was a part of it or is he making it up as he goes along?
Does he know your body so well at every given moment in time that he anticipated this?
My nipples change greatly throughout the month in terms of pain limits and tenderness, I would not expect him to know when this occurs as it changes on irregular basis.
If he did not intend this, is he a man enough to admit it and is he prepared to take it slowly until your nipples have toughened up?

Its easy to be a sadist, its far more difficult to be a Dom/Master/Sir/PYL

I wish you well xx