What do you girls think when you see a guy you fancy?

[LyndaB]

I see a guy who looks good, and my mind starts to work over time. I wonder what he is like in bed, do I flirt with him, fluter my eye lashes, smile and look into his eyes. No I just look the other way, and keep sneaking glances to see if he is looking at me. Well, it is a bit like you can look but not touch. What do you do boys and girls?

 

[crystalhunting]

I'm a male so I can't answer your question....but I am curious as to how the other women will answer.




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[Never]

I can't answer your question either.. but I can answer a question like your question.

And my answer is 'Run and hide.'

 

[LyndaB]

Run and hide, what for, so what do you guys think when you see an attractive female, that you would like to get to know better?

 

[Never]

You run so they can't catch you and hide so they can't find you.. Even I know that one.

 

[Jaded Eyes]

Ya...when I see an attractive female, I usually end up doing nothing. I just try not to look at them...even though my eyes are drawn towards them.......and yes sometimes I'l watch from the corner of my eye to see how many times and how long they look at me. Of course if this is a "casual" public place I'd never do anything about it...even if she seemed really interested...I'm such a wuss!!!

 

[Mustang Sally]

I appreciate him in that moment I first see him, and then dismiss him from my mind, because why would a guy like that ever be interested in me?

 

[LyndaB]

Sally, suppose that he smiled at you, would you not be curious?

 

[Fleshmachine]

There are far too many factors involved for me to answer that.

 

[livin_simple]

Ahh, for myself, the issue of self-image and self-confidence is entirely wrapped up in this question.

While I've been told I'm a good looking physically fit slender guy, humorous, intelligent, pleasant to be with, adept conversationalist, I've also never been one of those guys the women seem to show any apparent interest in. Those who have eventually gotten close to me have confided they were intimidated. Their response was like Mustang Sally, "Why would he be interested in me?" Meanwhile, I'm sitting at my table, considering my past history with women, looking at Mustang Sally and LyndaB and wondering why they would be interested in me.

I think we need some sort of a secret sign. Um, I'm a little dense with these matters so it needs to be a non-subtle secret sign that shows you're interested in those guys. For me it would need to be way more than the licking the lips or batting the eyes type stuff. I'd need a wave or a "come here" type of gesture.

Yeah, and still I sit wondering why they would be interested in me......

 

[riff]

What I do depends on so many things...

I am not too shy about looking a girl over, but I am not rude about it. If she notices my glance I may smile- not a big beaming smile, but not a half-smile. Just a very unthreatening, unassuming smile that I hope is interpreted as "Don't worry, I don't bite- I am just happy to see you and that's enough."

Good nature... don't know why, but when I think about it, everything I do in such circumstances seems as an effort to communicate: "Don't be afraid. I am not gonna hurt you. I am not asking you for anything. I am just being... me?"

There is always the concern of giving offense. There are girls whom I could simply look at all day- just look at them and delight in them. It's not undressing them with the eyes or imagining what they look like when they come... it's just looking at them. Enjoying them.

What I do besides to observe depends totally on context.

Every now and again, something happens.. the proverbial wild hair up my ass... and I'll attempt a more obvious social contact. It only takes a second to know if I have barked up the wrong tree.

Not so every now and then I will even compliment a woman out of the blue. It isn't a prelude to anything, just a compliment. More often than not, she is totally confused. Poor girl. Poor lady.

 

[Mustang Sally]

Ahh, for myself, the issue of self-image and self-confidence is entirely wrapped up in this question.

This is exactly it. I simply can't see myself as sexy or attractive. I make a great wall-flower. If someone's staring at me, I assume there must be something stuck in my teeth, or maybe the back of my skirt's tucked into my underwear, or I've spilled evidence of my lunch down my shirt.

This "I'm not interested in you unless you're interested in me" attitude has saved me the heartache of stupid crushes, or so I tell myself. In reality, it's probably just deprived me of some fun. Who knows?

 

[pabloback]

i wish someone would teach me body language

 

[LyndaB]

For me it is knowing that I look good, and that a guy can look but he can not touch. To see a guy eyeing me up an down, gives me the confidence to wear short skirts. It also means I have to be good at saying get lost, in a nice sort of way.