What do you do when nothing turns you on?

[AvoidingRealWork]

I just can't catch a spark. It's been like this for a while. What do you do when it just seems like you're dead from the waist down?

 

[Stella_Omega]

Out of the bazillions of possible reasons why, I ask;
Are you on any sort of SSRI? If so, talk to your psychiatrist.

 

[JagFarlane]

I just can't catch a spark. It's been like this for a while. What do you do when it just seems like you're dead from the waist down?

Hmmmm sometimes its a psychological issue. If you're under a lot of stress, if something has been bothering you for a long time, or even depression. Take some time to think of perhaps, a recent amount of stress placed upon you, or is there something that has been bothering you for quite some time? Figure that out...perhaps find a way to lighten the load, or do something that really makes you feel good about yourself. And once you're feeling better about yourself...go ravish Freckles like no tommorrow

 

[rgraham666]

I'm pretty much dead from the waist up. No spark there. Especially between my ears which is where all the important stuff happened.

 

[JagFarlane]

I'm pretty much dead from the waist up. No spark there. Especially between my ears which is where all the important stuff happened.

LOL and here I was gonna suggest buying a Rob Graham book to start LOL

 

[impressive]

Well, if you're not feelin' it, you're not feelin' it. And if you're not feelin' it, what is making you want to push for something that's not there? Do you think it's required of you? If so, by whom? If not, don't sweat it. It'll come back when it comes back... or not.

 

[rgraham666]

I might not mind if it didn't come back.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

I'd say you have succumbed to an inevitably fatal gradual degenerative disease.

Not that this necessarily has anything to do with the libido-thing - just sayin.

 

[sophia jane]

Well, if you're not feelin' it, you're not feelin' it. And if you're not feelin' it, what is making you want to push for something that's not there? Do you think it's required of you? If so, by whom? If not, don't sweat it. It'll come back when it comes back... or not.

This is pretty much what I was going to say, except put better. My advice- if nothing turns you on, stop trying to get turned on for a bit. It happens to all of us at some point or other; stressing about it only makes it worse.

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

Out of the bazillions of possible reasons why, I ask;
Are you on any sort of SSRI? If so, talk to your psychiatrist.

Been on SSRIs, but I'm not right now. It feels just like when I was on them. No sex drive, very difficult to cum. Sometimes I go weeks without being able to.

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

Well, if you're not feelin' it, you're not feelin' it. And if you're not feelin' it, what is making you want to push for something that's not there? Do you think it's required of you? If so, by whom? If not, don't sweat it. It'll come back when it comes back... or not.

I wouldn't mind it if I were single.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Been on SSRIs, but I'm not right now. It feels just like when I was on them. No sex drive, very difficult to cum. Sometimes I go weeks without being able to.

Whee! Well, of course except that it must be hard to get you into bed in the first place...

Talk to your psychiatrist, seriously. It took me two years to get over Zoloft. Pissed me the hell off!

For immediate gratification, you might try one of those *coff* suction devices. Pulling lots of blood into the genital region helps some women wake up their libido-- it ought to help men as well. I think. Apply it around (if it will work that way) gently, to the scrotum, perinium, before you stick it to Willy-- let your nerve endings wake up. And stimulate your prostate, if you're not averse to ass play.

 

[sophia jane]

Whee! Well, of course except that it must be hard to get you into bed in the first place...

Talk to your psychiatrist, seriously. It took me two years to get over Zoloft. Pissed me the hell off!

For immediate gratification, you might try one of those *coff* suction devices. Pulling lots of blood into the genital region helps some women wake up their libido-- it ought to help men as well. I think. Apply it around (if it will work that way) gently, to the scrotum, perinium, before you stick it to Willy-- let your nerve endings wake up. And stimulate your prostate, if you're not averse to ass play.

God I love you Stella. Just saying.

 

[JagFarlane]

Whee! Well, of course except that it must be hard to get you into bed in the first place...

Talk to your psychiatrist, seriously. It took me two years to get over Zoloft. Pissed me the hell off!

For immediate gratification, you might try one of those *coff* suction devices. Pulling lots of blood into the genital region helps some women wake up their libido-- it ought to help men as well. I think. Apply it around (if it will work that way) gently, to the scrotum, perinium, before you stick it to Willy-- let your nerve endings wake up. And stimulate your prostate, if you're not averse to ass play.

Thus one of the reasons my counselor took me off Zoloft and onto something much lighter [Lexapro which was brand new then]. Most of those drugs can have long lasting shitty side effects that can trigger depression

 

[Stella_Omega]

God I love you Stella. Just saying.

Me? Know-it-all me?
My heroes are Pat Califia and Dan Savage.

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

Whee! Well, of course except that it must be hard to get you into bed in the first place...

Talk to your psychiatrist, seriously. It took me two years to get over Zoloft. Pissed me the hell off!

For immediate gratification, you might try one of those *coff* suction devices. Pulling lots of blood into the genital region helps some women wake up their libido-- it ought to help men as well. I think. Apply it around (if it will work that way) gently, to the scrotum, perinium, before you stick it to Willy-- let your nerve endings wake up. And stimulate your prostate, if you're not averse to ass play.

I have no problem getting hard. That's just a physiological reaction. Play with it, it gets hard. Then I can screw or whatever indefinitely. But it just seems like a chore, and most of the time I can't get off.

I haven't been on an SSRI for maybe 4 years now, and this is a more recent thing. In my early 30s, so I don't think it's age. I don't have a psychiatrist. I do have a doctor, and he didn't seem to give a rip when I presented these symptoms.

It makes my wife feel unsexy, but the fact of the matter is I'm not interested in any women. I see plenty of very attractive women. We live in a college town. But I'm just not "shopping," if you know what I mean.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thus one of the reasons my counselor took me off Zoloft and onto something much lighter [Lexapro which was brand new then]. Most of those drugs can have long lasting shitty side effects that can trigger depression

Wellbutrin was the magic bullet for me. I told my doc; "I do NOT want to lose my libido, it's tied into my creativity and my id."

Plus, I felt tired all the time. I tested negative for Epstein Barr, low iron, excess iron-- everything was fine, except- not.

After a week of Wellbutrin I called my doctor and said; "This is speed, right?" But it isn't!

 

[JagFarlane]

Wellbutrin was the magic bullet for me. I told my doc; "I do NOT want to lose my libido, it's tied into my creativity and my id."

Plus, I felt tired all the time. I tested negative for Epstein Barr, low iron, excess iron-- everything was fine, except- not.

After a week of Wellbutrin I called my doctor and said; "This is speed, right?" But it isn't!

Mmmm varies for people...Lexapro was more for the fact that its not as overwhelming to the system as Zoloft/Prozac but by the time she got me on it...I'd been working on my own for a few months in self improvement and was much better for it

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

Wellbutrin was the magic bullet for me. I told my doc; "I do NOT want to lose my libido, it's tied into my creativity and my id."

Wellbutrin is ungood for those with chronic anxiety.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I have no problem getting hard. That's just a physiological reaction. Play with it, it gets hard. Then I can screw or whatever indefinitely. But it just seems like a chore, and most of the time I can't get off.

I haven't been on an SSRI for maybe 4 years now, and this is a more recent thing. In my early 30s, so I don't think it's age. I don't have a psychiatrist. I do have a doctor, and he didn't seem to give a rip when I presented these symptoms.

It makes my wife feel unsexy, but the fact of the matter is I'm not interested in any women. I see plenty of very attractive women. We live in a college town. But I'm just not "shopping," if you know what I mean.

Tell the bastard that this problem is upsetting you DEEPLY and your wife too. Present it as a serious health issue, I dunno. I hate doctors sometimes. Or insurance companies, more likely.

Wellbutrin is ungood for those with chronic anxiety.

Well, yeah, but cumming can help majorly with anxiety levels...

 

[AvoidingRealWork]

Tell the bastard that this problem is upsetting you DEEPLY and your wife too. Present it as a serious health issue, I dunno. I hate doctors sometimes. Or insurance companies, more likely.

Thanks for the advice, Stella.

I think maybe I do need a new doctor.

Good night, everyone.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thanks for the advice, Stella.

I think maybe I do need a new doctor.

Good night, everyone.

Sweet dreams, man.

 

[JagFarlane]

Thanks for the advice, Stella.

I think maybe I do need a new doctor.

Good night, everyone.

Agreed...if your doctor could give a rats ass about your issues...change them

 

[rgraham666]

I have no problem getting hard. That's just a physiological reaction. Play with it, it gets hard. Then I can screw or whatever indefinitely. But it just seems like a chore, and most of the time I can't get off.

That happened to me a couple of years ago. It went away.

This time around I know it's stress. The last month or so has been quite stressful, especially on the sexual front.

I'm hoping this goes away as well.

 

[impressive]

Well, yeah, but cumming can help majorly with anxiety levels...

Word.

I self-medicated with orgasms for years. Best AD med on the planet -- and free.