What do women want in a guy?

[awestley12000]

Hi and thanks for stopping by.

I'm single and living in Michigan (near Detroit). I've been looking for someone special for quite some time. Doing the internet dating, dating services, news paper, etc.

I really haven't had much luck... some fakes, some looks (internet) not much more.

This may sound stupid, but what are you women looking for in a guy? Seriously.

No I'm not going to use this to make is seem like something I'm not.

I'm actually just curious to see how far away from what you want I am.

Hope to hear from you

Al

 

[Kailey_86]

Where is my man?

Honesty and communication. If something is bugging you, tell me so that it can be fixed. So many relationships are destroyed because of a lack of communication.

Trust. I want you to trust me and I want to be able to trust you.

Understanding/Empathy. Not necessary but VERY nice. I am a woman and sometimes things like PMS happen. I would just want you to understand that women are emotional beings. If that understanding could also extend towards others and their situations, that would be a bonus. I understand that you are a man and this can sometimes be a difficult thing to do but that's ok.

Confidence. Just be yourself and feel comfortable enough to open up and let me in.

Adventuresome. I want to travel and experience new things with you. I am curious about EVERYTHING. Join me in my exciting adventures.

Body type? Doesn't really matter.

Hmmm....and someone who doesn't mind that I am Canadian...(I've had people poke fun at me just to be mean. )

I sound demanding but I'm not really. So what do you guys look for in a woman?

 

[ESH419]

Pretty much the same thing you just said women are looking for in guys =P

I have dated multiple women that never told me any of their problems.. i mean any problems at all. Classes.. bills.. coworkers.. all that stuff causes stress and if a guy doesn't know about it, they (read: me) can make it worse without intent. Sometimes things need extra effort in cheering up and you'll never get it if you don't tell us guys.

And same thing goes with sex too. Far as i can tell most guys have an understanding of anatomy (even if we aren't sure how to spell it =P) and know that what gets a guy off doesn't always get a girl off. We may not ever want directions in the car but if you want it a little to the left.. just say so!

Oi. that came out more rant-y than i ment. Stupid exs. Point is it's a two way street even if not all guys admit it.

ps.. doen't steal ss#'s and blame it on multiple personalities either =P

 

[Kailey_86]

i mean any problems at all. Classes.. bills.. coworkers.. all that stuff causes stress and if a guy doesn't know about it, they (read: me) can make it worse without intent. Sometimes things need extra effort in cheering up and you'll never get it if you don't tell us guys.

Thank God you know this. There are so many men who don't. I've been meeting a lot of creeps lately and they don't care. Women are objects without emotion to them.

Far as i can tell most guys have an understanding of anatomy (even if we aren't sure how to spell it =P) and know that what gets a guy off doesn't always get a girl off.

Again, thank God!

ps.. doen't steal ss#'s and blame it on multiple personalities either =P

I'll try not to. That's a tough one though.

ps.. Ouch! Who would do that!? Crazy...

 

[awestley12000]

To Kailey_86

Kailey not everyone has issuses with people from Canada.

I woman that I would have married (I did ask, but she wasn't ready) was from Alberta (it was a long distance relationship).

I will admit I did harass her about the "a", but she picked on me for my accent. Jock is not Jack.... long story.

PMS isn't a problem unless you use it against the guy. I've dated a woman who had it 3.5 weeks out of the month. She was fine when SHE wanted to do something, but if I wanted to go for a walk, or do something she didn't like or when she wanted to win an argument or explain why she was acting the way she did, it was PMS.

Remember some guys do act like big kids we like our toys and we like to play with them (don't try to understand us, its just the way we are). I'm not refering to our partner or girlfriend as a toy either.

 

[koalabear]

Whatever they say, they all fall head over heels for the bad boys. Nice guys finish last.

 

[Barbdreams]

Whatever they say, they all fall head over heels for the bad boys. Nice guys finish last.

That's a pretty brutal thing to say - but unfortunately it can be so, so true.

Personally, I need a partner who will challenge me and stimulate me, both mentally and physically. I need someone with a great sense of humour, confidence, non-judgemental - and who I have a spark with. Of course I want to be loved and respected, and find a man who is understanding and thoughtful, etc. Unfortunately, I haven't found a nice guy that I've really had any chemistry with - sigh.

Oh, yeah, umm, not having an issue with Canadians is important - as I am one!

 

[Eilan]

Nice guys finish last.

Nice doesn't equal doormat.
Nice doesn't equal whiny.
Nice doesn't equal boring.
Self-proclaimed nice guys generally aren't as nice as they think they are--guys who are truly nice don't need to advertise.

 

[awestley12000]

I know this sounds rotten

I know this really wasn't nice, but when I tried Yahoo personals a few years ago in posting a serious profile I had no hits.

I got discusted and changed the profile to a different face, said I had more money and was looking for someone who didn't need a dog coller to go out.....

The profile was totally opposite of my personailty.

My mail box was filled over the weekend with women wanting to meet and be with me.

I came to the conclusion that women are looking for a guy with money, looks and in a good social position. It didn't matter how he treated them.

Is this TRUELY what you women want? I know you say differently, but SERIOUSLY does a nice guy who wants to have a good loving relationship and doesn't make tons of money have a chance?

 

[Glynnis]

Hi and thanks for stopping by.

Doing the internet dating, dating services, news paper, etc.

I really haven't had much luck... some fakes, some looks (internet) not much more.

This may sound stupid, but what are you women looking for in a guy? Seriously.

No I'm not going to use this to make is seem like something I'm not.

I'm actually just curious to see how far away from what you want I am.


Al

I think that really depends on the woman...Everybody is looking for something different. I've been going the same route you have and all I can say is that we humans a really a bunch of messed up creatures...There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think to myself, "Welcome to Wonderland, Alice" but, let's face it.....you can't find anybody if you don't look around. (and around and around and around)

So what am I looking for? I am looking to meet the person who makes me think that my life will be less of a journey without them beside me. I want somebody that accepts me for who/what I am, warts and all.

The best way I've ever heard it put was "I want a man who won't lie to me, steal from me, cheat on me or kill me in my sleep."

 

[Eilan]

Is this TRUELY what you women want? I know you say differently, but SERIOUSLY does a nice guy who wants to have a good loving relationship and doesn't make tons of money have a chance?

Stereotyping isn't going to get you anywhere with the ladies.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Okay, I'll make with the honesty here, try not to kill the messenger.

When I look at a profile I look at what the guy has to say. Just something beyond, "Hi I'm a straight male, e-mail me." Tell me something about yourself. What you think about a couple things.

Yes, I do like the guy to have a job but education can be high school, that doesn't bother me. What he makes shouldn't come up for quite a while.

Not living at home with Mom and Dad. If you are you better make a joke about it in the intro, something like "still living at home so I can save up for that diamond ring I want to give the woman of my dreams."

I pretty much discount anybody who has two or more kids but has never been married. This just suggests we have different values to me.

A pleasant picture, anybody can comb their hair then smile while a friend snaps a digital pic. That's all I'm asking. Only takes a little effort to do that.

Fill out the whole profile. The more I know the more chances for me to become interested.

Give me more than a single line in two e-mails before you give up. I write back. Just found a lot of guys seem to be "just looking" but not really looking for someone. Lots of smiles with no follow through.

That's all I can think of and I've been looking at many a profile lately and smiled at many.

 

[Guttergoddess]

Not that I'm personally looking....think anyone will notice this part?

Intelligence. Like someone else said, a PhD doesn't necessarily equal intelligence, but if I get the impression that I'm talking to a bowl of jello....he's out of here.

NO MARRIED MEN, I don't care if your wife doesn't love you, you don't love her, you haven't had sex in six years, you're leaving her, you're in the middle of a divorce, you landed from another planet and left her there....YOU ARE MARRIED, get it fixed, then call me.

A job. I don't care whether you are a pooper scooper (as long as you shower before a date) or a corporate lawyer (as long as you shower long and hard before a date). But my momma didn't raise no fools. I work for my money, you work for yours. I WILL NOT SUPPORT YOU.

No criminal record. I'm not talking getting caught sneaking into the girls dorms in HS, or for that matter the requisite raid of a party...I'm talking drug dealing, murder, robbery....you get the picture...if you've had a chance to be Bubba's bitch, I won't be yours.

No addictions. I don't date alcoholics or druggies. The only addiction a man should have in my life is me.

A sense of humor, if you haven't laughed your way through this...you're not suitable for me.

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[Kailey_86]

Is this TRUELY what you women want? I know you say differently, but SERIOUSLY does a nice guy who wants to have a good loving relationship and doesn't make tons of money have a chance?

I don't think it's about women wanting a man with money although it is a bonus if he does. I guess it would be worth looking at a man who appears to have money first to see if it is a good match. Looking at profiles online reminds me of looking at a menu. A guy with money is like a meal with a free sundae. Honestly, I would prefer the "better quality meal" over the "cheaper meal with a bonus dessert" (not to say that a guy with money is not a good man.

Anyway, now that I'm done rambling about men, money, and dessert, I just want honest, deep-felt love.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Intelligence. Like someone else said, a PhD doesn't necessarily equal intelligence, but if I get the impression that I'm talking to a bowl of jello....he's out of here.

A sense of humor, if you haven't laughed your way through this...you're not suitable for me.

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All very well put. I feel very naive for not even thinking about the criminal record etc. but it is one thing that I would have trouble with. And, I love the quote in your sig.