What do they want?

[Kailey_86]

So there's this guy who I work with and am friends with. He keeps flirting with me. He says things like "Say it...Daddy's always right" which completely turns me on. I think he might be a dom but I'm not sure. What other signs should I look for? Is this even a sign?

The other thing is that he is seeing a mutual friend of ours and I wonder if they want me to join them for a threesome. Someone else pointed this out to me. The girl asked if I was bi the other day and seemed disappointed when I said no and the guy seemed to get excited when I made a false statement that I was a lesbian. These were seperate incidences. Then, he asked if I wanted to join him at the gym (nothing sexual but maybe he wants me to be in better shape) and she is insisting that I hang out with him as much as I want. THe suggestion that they might want a threesome made me wonder. What do you think? Again, any other signs that this might be the case?

Either way, I feel very uncomfortable when I'm around him because I do like flirting with him and he is constantly giving me hugs and making sexual comments to me but he is seeing someone. I try not to interact with him when he does this but we were friends before him and her ever met and we have been flirting since before they were together. I don't want to lose her friendship over jealousy or lack of trust but she keeps saying she isn't jealous. I don't know if I should tell him to stop, tell her that her boyfriend is flirting with other girls (maybe not a great idea), or say nothing at all.

There is another thing wrong with this picture. He is my boss and all three of us work at the same location. We could get into big trouble. His hugs and sexual comments can be considered sexual harrassment even though we are friends.

Just a little worried about the situation and feeling stuck. There are so many red flags but I don't know what to do, if anything. Any thoughts?

 

[Betticus]

Involvement with co-workers is an all around bad idea. As a boss it is very unprofessional to get involved with people you supervise. It could become very awkward, you could both lose your jobs, you could lose a friend or friends.

A very slim chance of it working out well.

 

[chris9]

As to the flirting, and leaving the work situation out of the picture: I don't see anything wrong with flirting even when one is in a relationship. In fact I know that if I don't get a chance to flirt at least a bit for some time I don't feel happy, like I need a little flirting now and then to tell me that I'm still desirable.
I believe the work morals, involvement with co-workers and such is handled at least a bit differently here, and since I don't have any experience with how it works here I'm not able to tell you how you should act.

As a general statement though, if you are uncomfortable with whatever someone is doing, you have two options: 1) tell them to stop whatever bothers you, which is especially good if they are friends you like and want to keep as friends, 2) avoid interacting with them.

 

[esclave_PP]

I agree with what was said here. I wouldn't do it as stimulating as it may be.

 

[Ebonyfire]

There is an old adage that says it all: You don't shit where you eat

Eb

 

[Etoile]

Count me as another voice saying "don't get involved with co-workers, especially those in superior positions to you." Hot fantasy, bad reality.

 

[Netzach]

If the job isn't the job of a lifetime, I'd be inclined to hop the ship in the name of a really hot 3 way.

But I'm not the voice of reason.

 

[Quint]

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[Evil_Geoff]

Grandfather's Wisdom:

Son, don't play
Where you get your pay!

Nuff said!