What do people think of Threesomes?

[mizzo]

I have been involved in a threesome once. Me and my girlfriend hooked up with a girl friend of ours. It ended up turning into a 3 month relationship with the 3 of us. I was awesome while it lasted, just wondering what people think of threesomes, foursomes, etc and maybe finding someone interested in possibly having one.

 

[Illusionz]

I'm going to be the voice of discouragement, but remember that I'm in no way saying it can't work right when the boundaries are properly set and everyone involved is supported in doing so.

July of last year, I'd been dating a girl for about 2 months. We weren't sexual because we were both very stressed and were just not ready for that yet. She asked me one day "What would you say if I was in a threesome?" I asked her why she asked and she said that she had been invited into a threesome with a 29y/o male and 19y/o female married couple. While I knew that she was sexually frustrated from not being able to take our relationship to that level, I was very uncomfortable with that idea. We talked about it and I asked her not to do it. We had agreed that we were in love with each other but that, at that point in time, sex would screw up what we did have. She went through with the threesome anyway, knowing that it would possibly end our relationship. I found out a couple of weeks later because I walked in on her and the husband having sex while the wife was at work. It was my understanding that the two of them would not be engaging in sex without the wife if they did go through with the threesome. But there she was, laying on the bed I had paid for, getting pounded by that asshole. I left all my stuff there and went to the wife's place of employment and told her what I had seen. I know, I'm an asshole for that, but sure enough, she didn't know. I figured if my gf was willing to jeapordize our relationship, I was willing to jeapordize the marriage of the other couple.

I regret doing that. And I guess I should get to my point. I would never, under any circumstance, go through with a threesome, either as a member of the original couple or as the outsider. But I'm different than most people. It's up to you and your significant other. If the two of you agree that you are comfortable with it and can actually trust each other to stick to the rules of the threesome, go for it.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Awesome when we can get'em!!!

 

[1SexyBiNympho]

I have had a couple threesomes when i was married to my Ex-husband. He wanted to have a threesome because it was his fantasy and like a good wife i gave in. Not saying i regret all of them,i regret a few but not all. But because i gave him a taste for other women he kept wanting it and wanting it,and when i didn't give in he would go to other women.. So to say it caused my marriage to go to SHIT! So i have put up rules in my new relationship and my b/f has agreed.

 

[fille]

There have to be very clear rules and boundaries, obviously, before a couple gets into this sort of arrangement. And the partners have to continue to communicate about their feelings about it throughout. If two people are very secure in their relationship, have a great sex life with each other, are able to view the third party in a purely sexual way and not as part of the relationship, and can abide by the rules, the threesome can be an incredible addition to their sex life. You can't go into a threesome because your sex life as a couple isn't that great - you're just finishing it off if you do that.

 

[cinnamonstick]

For myself I know I wouldn't want to have a threesome if I was part of the couple. I am not into sharing and I know it would ruin the relationship. If it works for you go for it. Most of the couples that I know who have done it regretted it and 90% of the single person enjoyed it.

 

[OneSublimeGuy]

Well I'd like to try FMF even if I got it "wrong". I learn from my mistakes.


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[bmw1080]

You need to set the ground rules first if you are a couple - if you cannot agree then do not proceed.

Secondly, bringing in a person they need to understand that the bottom line is the couple relationship is most important.

When enjoying a 3some, don't leave any one person out. It is actually very easy to do.

I have enjoyed 3somes with my SO (at the time) and another on a few occasions. The above rules are improtant if you don't want your relationship to collapse.

An alternative arrangement that I ended up in is where myself and two women had a casual fling one night in the foreign country we were all in. It eventually lead to us all sharing a house and each other for about 5 months. It must be recognised that there were no couple relatioinships in this and more a casual sexual thing. We were all professionals staying in the particular city in Asia for about 8 months. It worked for us at the time.

 

[ofallonguy]

I have enjoyed several over the years, both MFM and FMF, and find them very enjoyable when they occur. Always willing to be a participant!