What did I do wrong?

[Guest]

I've met alot of men online and most times we just flirt back and forth....no one is masturbating (at least I know I'm not). It's just playful cybering.

Well, I was chatting with this guy like I do with any other. Well, there came a point in the conversation of if I was actually masturbating. I told the truth that I wasn't and he got mad...said I lied to him. I never lied to him...I figured he was just playing around. I never said whether or not I was horny. He got mad and logged off.

What did I do wrong? I mean, I get horny but not all the time. And most of the guys I chat with are just flirting and playing around as they know that I DON'T cyber....so, what did I do wrong???

 

[Azuldrgon]

I've met alot of men online and most times we just flirt back and forth....no one is masturbating (at least I know I'm not). It's just playful cybering.

Well, I was chatting with this guy like I do with any other. Well, there came a point in the conversation of if I was actually masturbating. I told the truth that I wasn't and he got mad...said I lied to him. I never lied to him...I figured he was just playing around. I never said whether or not I was horny. He got mad and logged off.

What did I do wrong? I mean, I get horny but not all the time. And most of the guys I chat with are just flirting and playing around as they know that I DON'T cyber....so, what did I do wrong???

You did nothing wrong, love. Some guys are just out to cyber which in your sig says you don't do. It is his fault that he didn't read your sig and he assumed that you would.

 

[Reuisu]

You didn't really do anything wrong. The thing is, a lot of guys, when they are cybering, tend to expect both sides to be masturbating either because:

A. They like the idea of being able to turn on a woman enough so she'll be fingering herself, and if she isn't, then they must not be enjoying themselves.

or

B. They think it's a mutual thing where both sides are expecting to be masturbating because they're both horny.

Now, I only cyber when I'm horny, but I'm still young enough and filled with so many hormones (especially from my lack of having real sex) that I tend to do it a lot... or just find some porn to jack off to if I can't find anybody. ^^;;

But no, you shouldn't be feeling bad. Heck, I only REALLY orgasm when the cybering's done with so that I don't lose the mood afterwards if the other person wants to continue. ^_~

 

[Guest]

You did nothing wrong, love. Some guys are just out to cyber which in your sig says you don't do. It is his fault that he didn't read your sig and he assumed that you would.

i'm not sure if he read my sig but i did tell him that i don't cyber. we've chatted before this. i know that he's always judging me. everytime i would talk to him he always gave his opinion of what he thought of me.

i do know that i never said i was horny and i do know that i did tell him i don't cyber.

 

[HisHarlot]

I've met alot of men online and most times we just flirt back and forth....no one is masturbating (at least I know I'm not). It's just playful cybering.

Well, I was chatting with this guy like I do with any other. Well, there came a point in the conversation of if I was actually masturbating. I told the truth that I wasn't and he got mad...said I lied to him. I never lied to him...I figured he was just playing around. I never said whether or not I was horny. He got mad and logged off.

What did I do wrong? I mean, I get horny but not all the time. And most of the guys I chat with are just flirting and playing around as they know that I DON'T cyber....so, what did I do wrong???

it is not you msl, not at all. it is my opinion, humble or otherwise, that the guy you were speaking to was trying to get you to admit that you cyber, which would mean your sig line is a lie, a sham, and that 'he could prove it'.

don't go borrow worries *as my late mother used to say* dear. you are better off not talking to chumps like that one.

stay with those who will respect what is in your sig line or in your profile, and above all, stay with those who will respect YOU and treat you as the lady you are.

capice?

 

[Guest]

You didn't really do anything wrong. The thing is, a lot of guys, when they are cybering, tend to expect both sides to be masturbating either because:

A. They like the idea of being able to turn on a woman enough so she'll be fingering herself, and if she isn't, then they must not be enjoying themselves.

or

B. They think it's a mutual thing where both sides are expecting to be masturbating because they're both horny.

Now, I only cyber when I'm horny, but I'm still young enough and filled with so many hormones (especially from my lack of having real sex) that I tend to do it a lot... or just find some porn to jack off to if I can't find anybody. ^^;;

But no, you shouldn't be feeling bad. Heck, I only REALLY orgasm when the cybering's done with so that I don't lose the mood afterwards if the other person wants to continue. ^_~

thanks....i was beginning to think i had done something wrong. i guess i just assumed that he knew i was just being playfull. guess i learned something today

 

[Azuldrgon]

i'm not sure if he read my sig but i did tell him that i don't cyber. we've chatted before this. i know that he's always judging me. everytime i would talk to him he always gave his opinion of what he thought of me.

i do know that i never said i was horny and i do know that i did tell him i don't cyber.

Then it is his loss that he is too much of a stubborn judgemental a-hole to not just enjoy the pleasant conversation.

 

[jaded_lily]

MSL, if he's giving his opinion of what he thought of you, and got mad because you weren't getting yourself off, he's not really worth talking to. You told him you didn't cyber and he didn't listen.

 

[Guest]

it is so not you msl, not at all. it is my opinion, humble or otherwise, that the guy you were speaking to was trying to get you to admit that you cyber, which would mean your sig line is a lie, a sham, and that 'he could prove it'.

don't go borrow worries *as my late mother used to say* dear. you are better off not talking to chumps like that one.

stay with those who will respect what is in your sig line or in your profile, and above all, stay with those who will respect YOU and treat you as the lady you are.

capice?

actually....well, he called me a liar when i said i wasn't masturbating. said i had lied to him which i think he meant that because i was typing dirty that it meant i was.

capice thanks

 

[Guest]

Then it is his loss that he is too much of a stubborn judgemental a-hole to not just enjoy the pleasant conversation.

thanks dear

 

[Guest]

MSL, if he's giving his opinion of what he thought of you, and got mad because you weren't getting yourself off, he's not really worth talking to. You told him you didn't cyber and he didn't listen.

thank you, that helps

 

[HisHarlot]

actually....well, he called me a liar when i said i wasn't masturbating. said i had lied to him which i think he meant that because i was typing dirty that it meant i was.

capice thanks

oh my stars! just because a woman can, or does, type dirty does not say 'hey, i'm masturbating here, therefore i'm lying'.

oh please. you don't lie.. flat out. it's the chump's headache dear, not yours.

 

[Guest]

oh my stars! just because a woman can, or does, type dirty does not say 'hey, i'm masturbating here, therefore i'm lying'.

oh please. you don't lie.. flat out. it's the chump's headache dear, not yours.

thanks dear...that does make me feel better.

 

[Golden_Silence]

I've met alot of men online and most times we just flirt back and forth....no one is masturbating (at least I know I'm not). It's just playful cybering.

Well, I was chatting with this guy like I do with any other. Well, there came a point in the conversation of if I was actually masturbating. I told the truth that I wasn't and he got mad...said I lied to him. I never lied to him...I figured he was just playing around. I never said whether or not I was horny. He got mad and logged off.

What did I do wrong? I mean, I get horny but not all the time. And most of the guys I chat with are just flirting and playing around as they know that I DON'T cyber....so, what did I do wrong???

Sounds to me you got cornered by an adolescent - it happens, you did nothing wrong - have a nice day whats left of it!!

 

[Cathleen]

Moon, you did nothing wrong. You have made your decision about the activity and you're also free to change your mind too. Whether on occasion or not as well.

I had something similar happen with a friend. We used to cyber but I don't anymore. We ''ran into'' each other here and had a conversation. In my mind it was a conversation. Yes it was sexual, we talked about turn ons and such but it wasn't cyber at all. At one point (very near the end - read that as no cyber no talk), he said ''Were you planning to have a plain conversation with me tonight?" My reply was yes and I asked if it was a problem. He said no but within two minutes our conversation was done.

Neither of us did anything wrong in that situation obviously -- we just had two different motives or agendas. Different motives is fine but to question your honesty screams at me that you're better off without that person.

In my situation I do think it cost our friendship and I'm sorry about that, he is very fun and I'd always enjoyed talking with him. It's okay that I don't fit into his cyber schedule of sorts and vise versa.

Do what is comfortable for you Moon and if someone ever questions the veracity of your actions don't let it damage your personal integrity.

 

[charmed1]

Do what is comfortable for you Moon and if someone ever questions the veracity of your actions don't let it damage your personal integrity.

Sage advice. *nods*

Chin up, MSL. It's not you, it's him.

 

[Dhalgren150]

wrong? well there is never wrong in truth.

the wrong comes from another taking free will and trying to make it His Will.

 

[ladyadonia30]

fucktards

I've met alot of men online and most times we just flirt back and forth....no one is masturbating (at least I know I'm not). It's just playful cybering.

Well, I was chatting with this guy like I do with any other. Well, there came a point in the conversation of if I was actually masturbating. I told the truth that I wasn't and he got mad...said I lied to him. I never lied to him...I figured he was just playing around. I never said whether or not I was horny. He got mad and logged off.

What did I do wrong? I mean, I get horny but not all the time. And most of the guys I chat with are just flirting and playing around as they know that I DON'T cyber....so, what did I do wrong???

Don't sweat it honey...men boost their ego when they think or imagine us masturbating to their dirty words....
when we are blunt and honest
they say we are full of shit
because they have super sized ego's and pea sized dicks

 

[Anaconda man]

You did absolutely nothing wrong. I'm guessing this guy is a little bit insecure and flys off the handle for no reason, as it sounds like he may have been a little more into this than you maybe realised. Reminds me of one of my favourite quotes

Drunk guy: Well, being a dick ain't so bad. See, there's three kinds of people: dicks, pussies, and assholes. Pussies think everyone can get along, and dicks just wanna fuck all the time without thinking it through. But then you got your assholes, Chuck. And all the assholes want is to shit all over everything! So, pussies may get mad at dicks once in a while, because... pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also-fuck-assholes, Chuck. And if they didn't fuck the assholes, you know what you'd get? You'd get your dick and your pussy all covered in shit!

Now, what were we talking about again????

 

[Bob Briton]

MoonShadowLady...
You did nothing wrong. He just sounds ignorant and young, perhaps its the heat?

Anyway I find it really hard cybering with one hand as my spelling gets terrible.

 

[Guest]

Sounds to me you got cornered by an adolescent - it happens, you did nothing wrong - have a nice day whats left of it!!

thanks so much

 

[Guest]

Moon, you did nothing wrong. You have made your decision about the activity and you're also free to change your mind too. Whether on occasion or not as well.

I had something similar happen with a friend. We used to cyber but I don't anymore. We ''ran into'' each other here and had a conversation. In my mind it was a conversation. Yes it was sexual, we talked about turn ons and such but it wasn't cyber at all. At one point (very near the end - read that as no cyber no talk), he said ''Were you planning to have a plain conversation with me tonight?" My reply was yes and I asked if it was a problem. He said no but within two minutes our conversation was done.

Neither of us did anything wrong in that situation obviously -- we just had two different motives or agendas. Different motives is fine but to question your honesty screams at me that you're better off without that person.

In my situation I do think it cost our friendship and I'm sorry about that, he is very fun and I'd always enjoyed talking with him. It's okay that I don't fit into his cyber schedule of sorts and vise versa.

Do what is comfortable for you Moon and if someone ever questions the veracity of your actions don't let it damage your personal integrity.

thanks so much...sounds just like my situation. i really appreciate your words

 

[Guest]

wrong? well there is never wrong in truth.

the wrong comes from another taking free will and trying to make it His Will.

i suppose he was trying to get wanted he wanted....thanks

 

[Guest]

Don't sweat it honey...men boost their ego when they think or imagine us masturbating to their dirty words....
when we are blunt and honest
they say we are full of shit
because they have super sized ego's and pea sized dicks

lol....excellently put...thanks!

 

[Guest]

You did absolutely nothing wrong. I'm guessing this guy is a little bit insecure and flys off the handle for no reason, as it sounds like he may have been a little more into this than you maybe realised. Reminds me of one of my favourite quotes

Drunk guy: Well, being a dick ain't so bad. See, there's three kinds of people: dicks, pussies, and assholes. Pussies think everyone can get along, and dicks just wanna fuck all the time without thinking it through. But then you got your assholes, Chuck. And all the assholes want is to shit all over everything! So, pussies may get mad at dicks once in a while, because... pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also-fuck-assholes, Chuck. And if they didn't fuck the assholes, you know what you'd get? You'd get your dick and your pussy all covered in shit!

Now, what were we talking about again????

yes, it would seem he was way more into it then i thought and yes, he does fly off the handle alot.....thanks for your words and the funny quote