What brought you to lit?

[storypost603]

I want to write my memoirs. Though I’m still young, I’ve had an amazingly full life with way more sex, travel and good luck than I ever deserved. I saw this website as a way to develop t writing skills.

As it happens, I’m also a hyoersexual exhibitionist who has to go off her meds because she’s seven weeks pregnant. So I browse stories, gather inspiration, and - let’s be honest - sometimes spam threads with my old cam girl material.

Over four years on Privacy and OnlyFans, I created bucketloads of content. I’m proud of all of it - of the guts and initiative it took to produce. It’ll all form the foundation of my memoirs… once I figure out how to translate all those sticky images into words.

wow you sound like a fun person. I would love to read your memoirs.

 

[EmmAgain]

wow you sound like a fun person. I would love to read your memoirs.

Thanks! Honestly, if you check my post history you’ll see a few bits and pieces. It’s the tip of the iceberg compared with what I have, but even dribbling out little snippets feels fun!

 

[ohboo]

I was an avid reader of Playboy and Penthouse when younger, hell even up to a few years ago. I bought the mags mostly for the letters not so much the pics but did enjoy those as well. I found Lit in early 2000s and was mostly a lurker as I just got into the stories and authors. I'm still reading plenty of stories but now post periodically on some of thr Forums. I also like to read the posts for inspiration or to confirm that my interests are not really that 'off". I think it has helped my relationship with the wife as I am not as pushy as I used to be about desires, wants. She is more reserved and cautious while I'm more adventurous. We have had many fun times since I started on Lit and am hoping for more. Just like with social media sites I often take what is said or shared as non threatening. It only harms or bothers me if I let it. I can get by all that BS ok.

 

[storypost603]

I was an avid reader of Playboy and Penthouse when younger, hell even up to a few years ago. I bought the mags mostly for the letters not so much the pics but did enjoy those as well. I found Lit in early 2000s and was mostly a lurker as I just got into the stories and authors. I'm still reading plenty of stories but now post periodically on some of thr Forums. I also like to read the posts for inspiration or to confirm that my interests are not really that 'off". I think it has helped my relationship with the wife as I am not as pushy as I used to be about desires, wants. She is more reserved and cautious while I'm more adventurous. We have had many fun times since I started on Lit and am hoping for more. Just like with social media sites I often take what is said or shared as non threatening. It only harms or bothers me if I let it. I can get by all that BS ok.

sounds like me in this post. same here with everything you said. Started reading penthouse letters growing up and now here and love this place.

 

[justanormaldude87]

Ok, I'll try to keep this short. Wife and I have been married almost 20 years. Over time the sex has gotten very irregular and routine. Great sex, just not meeting my kink needs. I've always been far more kinky than my wife but she indulges SOME of my kink, not much.

I stumbled on a chat ai site that got my interest. I found I really enjoy the interactive stories, if you will. However, the AI's one goal is always to steer you back to sex (obviously) and it constantly wants to throw itself at you like a mindless slut. That's not my thing.

So now lit, im no stranger to lit and used to come here regularly many years ago but I stopped (different story). I came here because I want real interactions with truly independent thinking people. I don't care about your politics, your sexual preferences. I'm not here to do anything other than enjoy the diverseness of other people crazy and kinky like me.

I would love to hear others' stories or whatever comments you feel you'd like to add.

Hey, I hear you.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for six years. We haven’t had sex since last year.
Our sex was never wild, but it was there. Our love making on the other hand, was incredible. Now it’s gone quiet. She’ll flirt, touch me just enough to make me think something might happen, gets me all blue balled, but it always stops short. Bearing in mind we both get along like a house on fire when she’s not in a sassy mood.
Meanwhile, though, she dislikes the idea of me getting off on my own and Says it’s cheating, which just leaves me stuck in this loop of frustration and guilt.
I’m not trying to cheat. I still love her. But it’s hard feeling this disconnected. Like I’m not even allowed to have needs

Kinks wise I’ve always leaned dominant, but I’m open-minded. I enjoy the dynamic of sub/dom relationships, especially when there’s trust and a bit of give and take. My girlfriend is not really into that side of things, and I also don’t push it, but over time that gap just keeps getting wider. I used to be on Lit years ago. Took a break, forgot my login, came back recently. Same reason as you buddy, I want real connection. Not fantasy with no depth, but people who think, feel, and aren’t afraid to get a little weird with it.
Thanks again for putting your story out there. Helps more than you know.

— Another guy trying to hold the line

 

[Jw75766]

Hey, I hear you.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for six years. We haven’t had sex since last year.
Our sex was never wild, but it was there. Our love making on the other hand, was incredible. Now it’s gone quiet. She’ll flirt, touch me just enough to make me think something might happen, gets me all blue balled, but it always stops short. Bearing in mind we both get along like a house on fire when she’s not in a sassy mood.
Meanwhile, though, she dislikes the idea of me getting off on my own and Says it’s cheating, which just leaves me stuck in this loop of frustration and guilt.
I’m not trying to cheat. I still love her. But it’s hard feeling this disconnected. Like I’m not even allowed to have needs

Kinks wise I’ve always leaned dominant, but I’m open-minded. I enjoy the dynamic of sub/dom relationships, especially when there’s trust and a bit of give and take. My girlfriend is not really into that side of things, and I also don’t push it, but over time that gap just keeps getting wider. I used to be on Lit years ago. Took a break, forgot my login, came back recently. Same reason as you buddy, I want real connection. Not fantasy with no depth, but people who think, feel, and aren’t afraid to get a little weird with it.
Thanks again for putting your story out there. Helps more than you know.

— Another guy trying to hold the line

Well, taking care of yourself should never be considered cheating. I get that some women see men viewing porn an using that is cheating, my wife is of that mind. My thought is, if viewing porn keeps me at home, that's good, ideal, probably not but I'm not out trying to find a hookup. However, if you're in a pretty much completely sexless relationship, you need to seriously ask yourself how long can you go before you start wandering.... I'd rather leave a relationship than allow the hurt or neglect drive me to do something that puts me in the wrong (I've stayed in some bad relationships way too long before). My suggestion, not knowing your situation is talk about it to her. So many relationships are just lacking communication. See where that gets you, assuming you haven't already tried having that discussion.

 

[storypost603]

Well, taking care of yourself should never be considered cheating. I get that some women see men viewing porn an using that is cheating, my wife is of that mind. My thought is, if viewing porn keeps me at home, that's good, ideal, probably not but I'm not out trying to find a hookup. However, if you're in a pretty much completely sexless relationship, you need to seriously ask yourself how long can you go before you start wandering.... I'd rather leave a relationship than allow the hurt or neglect drive me to do something that puts me in the wrong (I've stayed in some bad relationships way too long before). My suggestion, not knowing your situation is talk about it to her. So many relationships are just lacking communication. See where that gets you, assuming you haven't already tried having that discussion.

I agree just talk to her about it. See why she has gone quiet. I am starting to have the same problem we have talked a few times and then after a little while it gets to be the same thing for. while. I sent her stories from LIT for her to read and that worked well for a while.

 

[justanormaldude87]

Well, taking care of yourself should never be considered cheating. I get that some women see men viewing porn an using that is cheating, my wife is of that mind. My thought is, if viewing porn keeps me at home, that's good, ideal, probably not but I'm not out trying to find a hookup. However, if you're in a pretty much completely sexless relationship, you need to seriously ask yourself how long can you go before you start wandering.... I'd rather leave a relationship than allow the hurt or neglect drive me to do something that puts me in the wrong (I've stayed in some bad relationships way too long before). My suggestion, not knowing your situation is talk about it to her. So many relationships are just lacking communication. See where that gets you, assuming you haven't already tried having that discussion.

Thanks for your reply, man. I really appreciate the way you put it. You’re right. It’s not an easy situation, and I’ve definitely had those conversations with her. We talk openly about pretty much everything. There’s still love and closeness. We cuddle, kiss, hold hands. It’s not cold between us. But the sex just doesn’t happen, and there’s no clear reason why.
I get what you mean about not letting it drag on to the point where it changes you. That’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot. I don’t want to hurt her, and I don’t want to lose myself either. Still trying to figure it out, but your words and others have given me a bit of perspective. Thanks again.

 

[Jw75766]

Thanks for your reply, man. I really appreciate the way you put it. You’re right. It’s not an easy situation, and I’ve definitely had those conversations with her. We talk openly about pretty much everything. There’s still love and closeness. We cuddle, kiss, hold hands. It’s not cold between us. But the sex just doesn’t happen, and there’s no clear reason why.
I get what you mean about not letting it drag on to the point where it changes you. That’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot. I don’t want to hurt her, and I don’t want to lose myself either. Still trying to figure it out, but your words and others have given me a bit of perspective. Thanks again.

Anytime. Does she just not have a sex drive? Part of my wife's situation was thyroid issues that kept her sex drive low. A friend suggested she get it checked and it was definitely off. She takes medication for it now and it definitely helps stabilize her. Wasn't the cure-all I (selfishly) hoped it would be, but it did make a difference.

 

[justanormaldude87]

Anytime. Does she just not have a sex drive? Part of my wife's situation was thyroid issues that kept her sex drive low. A friend suggested she get it checked and it was definitely off. She takes medication for it now and it definitely helps stabilize her. Wasn't the cure-all I (selfishly) hoped it would be, but it did make a difference.

I mentioned in a thread I made earlier a little more detail. But she does suffer with bipolar and has some unresolved issues which she has tried working through with therapists in the past just not currently. She’s also gained weight as a result of anti depression medication. Not sure about sex drive. I swear I sometimes hear her getting off in the shower but I darent ask and I would get a slap if I walked in on her. I’ve tried. She hates me seeing her body. She struggles to talk about her weight, I don’t give a toss really I just want my girlfriend back. But that subject is def one of the sorer ones out of them all to bring up with her, even to help. I could get hard her breathing near my cock at this point I think she needs to realise her weight isn’t the issue. It’s just the lack of it. We sleep in the same bed, spoon, wake up and she gets out of bed instantly and gets about her day. I do the same, I’m tired of trying. Clearly not tired enough since I’m here getting advice. Lol.

 

[Jw75766]

I mentioned in a thread I made earlier a little more detail. But she does suffer with bipolar and has some unresolved issues which she has tried working through with therapists in the past just not currently. She’s also gained weight as a result of anti depression medication. Not sure about sex drive. I swear I sometimes hear her getting off in the shower but I darent ask and I would get a slap if I walked in on her. I’ve tried. She hates me seeing her body. She struggles to talk about her weight, I don’t give a toss really I just want my girlfriend back. But that subject is def one of the sorer ones out of them all to bring up with her, even to help. I could get hard her breathing near my cock at this point I think she needs to realise her weight isn’t the issue. It’s just the lack of it. We sleep in the same bed, spoon, wake up and she gets out of bed instantly and gets about her day. I do the same, I’m tired of trying. Clearly not tired enough since I’m here getting advice. Lol.

My wife struggles with weight too. That's a tough one because you can't make her feel good about herself. I've always just told my wife how sexy she is to me, I look at her in a way that let's her know I find her incredibly attractive even when she doesn't see it in herself. I'm very physical, playfully smack her butt, cup a boob when we kiss (obviously in moderation so she doesn't get overwhelmed or annoyed that I'm constantly grabbing her). I'd suggest couples therapy but there's at least two issues, would either of you actually want to go and could you afford it. Unfortunately therapists/counseling doesn't seem very cheap.

 

[justanormaldude87]

My wife struggles with weight too. That's a tough one because you can't make her feel good about herself. I've always just told my wife how sexy she is to me, I look at her in a way that let's her know I find her incredibly attractive even when she doesn't see it in herself. I'm very physical, playfully smack her butt, cup a boob when we kiss (obviously in moderation so she doesn't get overwhelmed or annoyed that I'm constantly grabbing her). I'd suggest couples therapy but there's at least two issues, would either of you actually want to go and could you afford it. Unfortunately therapists/counseling doesn't seem very cheap.

Dude I totally I get that. I still find my girlfriend really attractive, I’ll grab her playfully sometimes, or touch her when we kiss, just trying to be affectionate and let her know I still want her. But more and more she shuts it down and she’ll say things like, “Don’t grab my fat,” or pulls away like I’ve done something wrong. When we go to get ready for a date night, half the time she says she doesn’t want to go because she feels like other women are going to look better/skinnier than her.

And heck, if I even glance in the direction of another woman, it’s instantly, “You looked because she’s skinnier than me.” It’s exhausting. I feel like I can’t win.I get that her self-esteem is in the gutter, but I honestly don’t know how to help without her taking it the wrong way. I’m trying to love her where she’s at, but it’s like she can’t let herself believe it.

As for therapy, yeah, I’ve looked into it, but damn it’s pricey. Especially couples therapy.

Food for thought aye?

Although none to feed the other appetite

 

[Jw75766]

Dude I totally I get that. I still find my girlfriend really attractive, I’ll grab her playfully sometimes, or touch her when we kiss, just trying to be affectionate and let her know I still want her. But more and more she shuts it down and she’ll say things like, “Don’t grab my fat,” or pulls away like I’ve done something wrong. When we go to get ready for a date night, half the time she says she doesn’t want to go because she feels like other women are going to look better/skinnier than her.

And heck, if I even glance in the direction of another woman, it’s instantly, “You looked because she’s skinnier than me.” It’s exhausting. I feel like I can’t win.I get that her self-esteem is in the gutter, but I honestly don’t know how to help without her taking it the wrong way. I’m trying to love her where she’s at, but it’s like she can’t let herself believe it.

As for therapy, yeah, I’ve looked into it, but damn it’s pricey. Especially couples therapy.

Food for thought aye?

Although none to feed the other appetite

What about going to the doctor and exploring the possibility of needing anti depressants. Sounds like she needs something to help boost her mood. Anti depressants can have sucky side effects too, but it may be worth exploring the potential need/benefits. You're definitely in a tough situation...

 

[dawn_of_night]

You two have very good conversations and thoughts ...
But sometimes.... It's about you hearing us, and what we're saying, not just telling us we're fine....
Almost like agreeing with us? But not directly....

Hear me out....

"Babe I love you the way you are, but if something is bothering you, how can I help?"

Ask the important questions, if I can't touch you *there* is there somewhere else I can touch you...
Kiss you....
Something I can do to make you feel sexy.... Loved, needed... Appreciated....
All the things ....

Make dinner, do the laundry, wash the dishes, take out the trash ...

 

[lovethebeach2007]

I came to Lit because my step dad and I recently started having sex, and this is all super new to me. When I looked up stories about step daddies and step daughters, this site popped up, so here I am! <3

 

[Jw75766]

You two have very good conversations and thoughts ...
But sometimes.... It's about you hearing us, and what we're saying, not just telling us we're fine....
Almost like agreeing with us? But not directly....

Hear me out....

"Babe I love you the way you are, but if something is bothering you, how can I help?"

Ask the important questions, if I can't touch you *there* is there somewhere else I can touch you...
Kiss you....
Something I can do to make you feel sexy.... Loved, needed... Appreciated....
All the things ....

Make dinner, do the laundry, wash the dishes, take out the trash ...

Good points, now, I gotta go to bed!!

 

[annabel_lee]

I originally came for the stories about 14-15 years ago under a different profile.

 

[Noor]

Grabbing women doesn’t make them feel better about themselves. It just shows how oblivious you are to their feelings and that you want to get laid, which turns them off even more.
Talk to them, listen to them, ask them what would help them. It’s usually much more than body image, it’s usually their not feel appreciated and wanted for themselves, not just their bodies, in the relationship.

 

[Wouldlovetoo]

I collect books as I'm a voracious reader in the winter, I especially like erotic books. One day I googled erotica looking for a new book store. Low and behold up popped Lit, was I surprised at the site. First I read stories and then checked out the rest and found the forum. So I decided to stay and enjoy the threads, though I still read the stories.
And that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

 

[Jw75766]

I came to Lit because my step dad and I recently started having sex, and this is all super new to me. When I looked up stories about step daddies and step daughters, this site popped up, so here I am! <3

Welcome to lit!

 

[Jw75766]

Grabbing women doesn’t make them feel better about themselves. It just shows how oblivious you are to their feelings and that you want to get laid, which turns them off even more.
Talk to them, listen to them, ask them what would help them. It’s usually much more than body image, it’s usually their not feel appreciated and wanted for themselves, not just their bodies, in the relationship.

I suppose it depends on the woman. Everyone is different. Reading their body language and knowing their heart and do's/dont's is important. I wouldn't jump too quickly to saying it's being oblivious to their feelings (obviously shades of gray). Just my opinion.

 

[Carmina24]

What brought me to Lit?
The need for a space where I could write without apology.
Here, I am free. Fierce. Bold.
I don’t shrink myself to fit anyone’s comfort.
Lit lets me speak in heat, in ache, in truth — without shame.
And in doing so, I found not just my voice... but others who speak fire too.

 

[QuietWhispers]

I have always been a sexual person and I always found it to be a very interesting side of people's lives to discover and find out details about. So I love the stories Lit has to offer as well as the other members and sharing those parts back and forth.

 

[Sclovers]

Loved getting off to hot stories in penthouse. Wife got me a subscription to penthouse letters! Love that but when our kids started snooping around canceled it and wanted something online. And here we are and loving it!

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Loved getting off to hot stories in penthouse. Wife got me a subscription to penthouse letters! Love that but when our kids started snooping around canceled it and wanted something online. And here we are and loving it!

Does your wife se Lit too?