What breaks a date?

[la mariposita]

Say you're out with someone on the first date who looks put together and has been nothing but charming up to that point until he or she pulls out a stinker on you.

What sort of mannerisms, remarks, or behavior would make you wish you stayed at home?

Considering that this is a personal question there are no right and wrong answers. Just yours.

 

[Bob Peale]

"This is my husband's favorite restaurant as well."

 

[killallhippies]

stupidity. unintentional and unfunny.

also, blattant bigotry. again, the unfunny/non-ironic kind.

 

[MWG]

For me, it was always cockiness and his inability to talk about anything but himself. Of course there were things I'd want to know about my dates, but the ones who just blabbered on and on about themselves and took no interest in me basically saw my half of the check and a flip of the hair as I faked a headache and went home.

And, even though I would never totally judge anyone by the political or religious beliefs they held, I would get annoyed at those who, knowing I believed differently, would kind of attempt to proselytise to me throughout the whole date. That kind of bullshit would earn them the WHOLE check as I snuck out of the bathroom and through the front door.

 

[naded]

A big ass loud belch would do it for, I would have to leave.

 

[Guest]

When she turns out to be a he.

 

[killallhippies]

When she turns out to be a he.

homophobe.

 

[Guest]

homophobe.

I think that's transphobe

 

[killallhippies]

I think that's transphobe

my bad, transphobe.

 

[la mariposita]

For me it would be horrid table manners and racist remarks of any kind. I'm pretty much out the door with that last one.

In addition to those anyone who is purposely rude to the wait staff for reasons that I can't find.

 

[Guest]

 

[Marxist]

For me it would be horrid table manners and racist remarks of any kind. I'm pretty much out the door with that last one.

In addition to those anyone who is purposely rude to the wait staff for reasons that I can't find.

I blame Hispanics and Black people for a lot of things. I guess that just ended that one.

 

[la mariposita]

I blame Hispanics and Black people for a lot of things. I guess that just ended that one.

*Sneaks out to the "bathroom" and leaves him with the bill just like MWG suggested*

*grin*

 

[The Heretic]

What sort of mannerisms, remarks, or behavior would make you wish you stayed at home?

Rudeness to anybody. Going off on a rant about an ex. Extreme stereotyping of anybody. Racial/religious/sexual slurs. Impugning my integrity. Bragging about how they stole something from somebody.

In short, extreme indicators of an incompatible personality.

 

[Marxist]

*Sneaks out to the "bathroom" and leaves him with the bill just like MWG suggested*

*grin*

Hispanic, right? Always leavin' the Black man with the bill. Fuck...

 

[la mariposita]

Hispanic, right? Always leavin' the Black man with the bill. Fuck...

Hey, it's not my fault you look for a lighter complexion with that mandatory bubble butt you love so much.

 

[capricious_chic]

This varies date to date. Usually if I become bored or overwhelmed with the feeling of "what the fuck" it is time to call the date over.

 

[MWG]

Re: Re: What breaks a date?

This varies date to date. Usually if I become bored or overwhelmed with the feeling of "what the fuck" it is time to call the date over.

Like you just wandered into a swarm of bees.

"WHAT the fuckamIdoing?!"

 

[capricious_chic]

Re: Re: Re: What breaks a date?

Like you just wandered into a swarm of bees.

"WHAT the fuckamIdoing?!"

One of my favorites was a blind date. All was going well, the guy was totally hot and funny - then like a switch went off and he becomes this really insecure needy person. He kept repeating, "I don't know why you would go out with me, you are way too good for me, too pretty, blah blah blah". After so long I finally just said, "yeah, you are probably right." and left.

 

[VincentFloyd]

bad table manners, and rudeness to the waiter for example:

instead of saying "I'm sorry I asked for dr. pepper and you gave me tea." "I'm sorry ma'am." "oh it's no big deal."

they say "YOU STUPID LITTLE ASSHOLE I ASKED FOR DR. FREAKIN' PEPPER NOT ICED TEA IS IT THAT DIFFICULT TO REMEMBER SUCH A SIMPLE TASK?"

 

[Calamity Jane]

Bigotry.

Speaking ill of an ex. She may be a complete psycho, and it may even be entertaining to hear the stories sometime... but a first date is not the place to lay out the baggage.

Stupidity.

Saying "I really don't enjoy reading, I watch movies instead."

Raging political or religious belief spewing.

 

[MaggieH]

The last date I had was with a flight attendant. All night he bragged about how powerful he was on the plane (he could order FBI agents with prisoners around, and he took it upon himself to break up a couple trying to have a private moment on the back of the plane). He also left the waitress such a horrible tip, I had to go to the bathroom, sneak out and find a waiter that I could get to give the waitress another tip from me.

So, dealbreakers are arrogance, being unappreciative of people who are providing a service to him, being hung up on having power, intolerance. Also, not having a sense of humor and not being bright. Not having ethics. Being too clingy.

 

[VincentFloyd]

if i tell them a funny story, which really IS a funny story, and they don't laugh, or say "um i don't get it", the date is over.

 

[SimplySouthern]

Let's see. Date busters for me? Someone who is rude to the waitstaff. Anyone who carries on about all their past relationships. Bad table manners. I'm sure there are more.

One of the very worst dates I ever had: We went to dinner and all was well. He was nice, smart and articulate. We decide to go to a movie after and as we sit in the theatre waiting for the movie to start, we mention something about how funny it is that we're getting along so well. Both of us had been party to a long string of bad dates recently and we found it funny that ours was working out well. There's silence for a moment and he turns to me and says, with a dead serious look on his face "So you want me to sell my house and move in with you or would you like to sell yours and move to my place?" Of course, I smile and laugh at this "joke". He isn't laughing and becomes very offended. He tells me I'm just like "all the others". He proceeds to tell me that the ONLY reason that you should go on a date is to find a like-minded prospective mate but no one "around here" seems to understand that. I'm looking at him this whole time in disbelief. He excuses himself to go to the restroom to compose himself and I take of. Thank God we had driven to the restaurant seperately and the theatre was right next door. Can anyone say PSYCHO?

 

[VincentFloyd]

Let's see. Date busters for me? Someone who is rude to the waitstaff. Anyone who carries on about all their past relationships. Bad table manners. I'm sure there are more.

One of the very worst dates I ever had: We went to dinner and all was well. He was nice, smart and articulate. We decide to go to a movie after and as we sit in the theatre waiting for the movie to start, we mention something about how funny it is that we're getting along so well. Both of us had been party to a long string of bad dates recently and we found it funny that ours was working out well. There's silence for a moment and he turns to me and says, with a dead serious look on his face "So you want me to sell my house and move in with you or would you like to sell yours and move to my place?" Of course, I smile and laugh at this "joke". He isn't laughing and becomes very offended. He tells me I'm just like "all the others". He proceeds to tell me that the ONLY reason that you should go on a date is to find a like-minded prospective mate but no one "around here" seems to understand that. I'm looking at him this whole time in disbelief. He excuses himself to go to the restroom to compose himself and I take of. Thank God we had driven to the restaurant seperately and the theatre was right next door. Can anyone say PSYCHO?

this story was the reason the term "lol" was invented.