What aspect should I devirginize first??

[littlegirlslut]

So, as many of you have figured out I am very, very new to BDSM. Even as less than that, I am very inexperienced sexually too. I have had normal vanilla sex but not much more than that. Never had phone sex or cyber either (no I'm not asking for someone to volunteer).

I am hopefully going to be exploring all aspects of sexuality in the next couple of months. In your opinion what do you think would be the best things to try first or explore?

This can be anything... or what do you like most?

Thanks.
LGS

 

[FungiUg]

I think it really depends on the availability of partners. And since cyber is a pretty "low impact", "safe" thing to experiment, and no shortage of available willing partners, my recommendation would be to experiment there. Maybe visit some chat rooms and interface with Doms.

I gather there are a lot of Dom/mes who are happy to do cyber sessions, and it'll give you a flavour of the head space.

From there, you can look at phone sessions, and perhaps individual play sessions. Perhaps go along to a munch and meet some real people, get a chance to explore (second hand) what the "lifestyle" is like.

Good luck, play safe, and have fun!

 

[Vixandra]

Fugi, as usual, is quite right.

Try a cyber session, remember the standard internet rules (to protect yourself) so on and so forth.

Have fun and welcome to our world.

 

[DVS]

Cyber is so lame, but it is the safest method of finding out what it's all about. But, don't go into cyber thinking it's going to be the same as the real thing.

Phone sex isn't bad, if you live close. Long distance bills suck. And, when you are thinking about the bills, you can't let go and get involved in the phone call.

And, because it's closer to "being there", phone sex isn't too bad, if you get someone who knows how to do it. If you find someone who can give you a good "talk" you might be amazed at how it affects you.

I'd say the most fun is "hands-on" or rather their hands on you, but that is also the most scary, most dangerous and most difficult to accomplish.

If you go that route, be sure to read up on the safe call options, SS&C basics and also use plain common sense. If you're gonna meet someone and allow them to tie you up and have control over you, you have to be able to trust them. That's not easy to do.

First times are the scary times. Be VERY sure you are safe. Take a friend with you, if possible. I would have no problem with a friend watching, if I were going to tie some sweetie up and torment her. But, then, I love an audience! LOL.

In any phone or real life meeting, be sure you stay safe. Trust is a large part of this life style, and until you get to know someone, trust is not there. There are a lot of good people out there, but there are also a fair share of ass holes, too. Some ass holes can hurt you.

Maybe join a munch group in your area. That is usually a good way to meet people in your area. Then, talk to some others like you to find out who's OK to play with.

Remember, the sub is in charge. You allow the Dom to do those things to you. You have the ability to say no at any time. If you say no and he doesn't stop, he's not safe to be around.

Good luck. After all of the shit you have to deal with, and you've found someone you trust... have fun. It can be great!

 

[sincerely_helene]

... phone sex isn't too bad, if you get someone who knows how to do it. If you find someone who can give you a good "talk" you might be amazed at how it affects you.

Just be sure to wipe off the reciever afterward!

 

[DVS]

Just be sure to wipe off the reciever afterward!

So true, especially if you have room mates!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Think DVS has given you great advice. As to what to try first, that mostly depends on your fantasies and desires, and the person you find to interact with. Don't think you can ever arrive at a place where you can say you have tried everything, so go for what feels right at the time, what tickles your fancy, and enjoy.


Catalina

 

[sub UK girl]

So, as many of you have figured out I am very, very new to BDSM. Even as less than that, I am very inexperienced sexually too. I have had normal vanilla sex but not much more than that. Never had phone sex or cyber either (no I'm not asking for someone to volunteer).

I am hopefully going to be exploring all aspects of sexuality in the next couple of months. In your opinion what do you think would be the best things to try first or explore?

This can be anything... or what do you like most?

Thanks.
LGS

Hi, I'm saying this from one little girl slut to another.

I've edited this, as what I originally wrote was a little too personal (about myself).

You've already been given some great advice, but I just wanted to give you an idea of my own experiences.

Cybering can be fun, but it doesn't feel at all real, unless you have actually met the person, in the flesh. Also, from my own experience - prior to meeting the man I cybered with - it felt weird and a little seedy.

Phone sex can be awesome. Having someone talking to you while you play with yourself, particularly when he knows what you love to hear to get off, is far better than cybering.

Real life is the biggie; the ultimate. But, be sure and be safe. DVS gave you some very wise words about this. Nothing beats an actual "flesh on flesh" play session.

Most importantly, stay SAFE and only do whatever YOU feel comfortable doing. I've found getting to know someone through the written word alone, and asking and answering any questions you feel comfortable with, is the best way to go, before taking the plunge with anything further.

All the best!

K

 

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[Etoile]

All aspects in the next few months? Wow!

 

[littlegirlslut]

All aspects in the next few months? Wow!

A girl can dream can't she!!

 

[sub UK girl]

A girl can dream can't she!!

Oh yes, indeed she can, and dreams do come true, believe me.

Dreams of the filthiest kind.

K

 

[rosco rathbone]

Since you asked: the butt.

Devirginize first the aspect of your butt.

Giving a master an 0 with your bottom hole for the first time can be a life changing experience, subs tell me.

 

[DVS]

Since you asked: the butt.

Devirginize first the aspect of your butt.

Giving a master an 0 with your bottom hole for the first time can be a life changing experience, subs tell me.

Just like in your AV?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Just like in your AV?

There is no way to tell which hole that devil man is defiling. I prefer to think ass.