What Are You Thinking? Continued 4

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I agree with you on your first point--there is a theory that psychopaths and sociopaths (there's some clinical disagreement about the distinction between the two) have served to drive civilization forward (though whether for better or worse also remains a question). But I disagree with your second point--I think you can easily create an asshole by mistreating a child.

Also, I was extremely mistreated as a child, but I have become extremely compassionate - to the point I struggle to put myself first. So is that my reaction, or what the adults in my life caused? It’s a fine line
 
But when you’re an adult dealing with them in the workplace, you aren’t necessarily the one who created them. For me, it feels like you are both correct - but in different contexts

I tend to think of things in terms of intrinsic chemical imbalances versus life trauma versus particular immediate stresses. It's far from a refined approach. Really, the best thing I can do is ask, "How can I help?" Let me pitch in and we'll try to fix things. But if you are an incorrigible asshole, I am well-armed. I am patient, but I have my limits.
 
I tend to think of things in terms of intrinsic chemical imbalances versus life trauma versus particular immediate stresses. It's far from a refined approach. Really, the best thing I can do is ask, "How can I help?" Let me pitch in and we'll try to fix things. But if you are an incorrigible asshole, I am well-armed. I am patient, but I have my limits.

The one I’ve talked about today is an incorrigible asshole, and not of my creating, but I tried to help. Even bought him a present when his second child was born - despite his actions causing me not earning enough to even feed myself. Yes, sometimes things are chemical imbalances, but the big difference is whether people recognise/try to fix them, or use them as an excuse to treat everyone else like shit. I also think people can overcome the crap that happened to them, but I also think that belief is my failing - as it leads me to give far too many chances to people. It’s rare that someone hasn’t hurt/used me, and yet I’m someone who constantly tries to put myself in other’s shoes, and step out of my own. I’ve never been wanted/respected, and yet it’s all I strive for others to see in themselves. I’m never going to have a family, is that me or my health conditions or my upbringing? I don’t know, but multiple people tell me I help them to get better for themselves, so maybe that’s my purpose. Life is a complicated thing, and largely self interpretation, I guess
 
The one I’ve talked about today is an incorrigible asshole, and not of my creating, but I tried to help. Even bought him a present when his second child was born - despite his actions causing me not earning enough to even feed myself. Yes, sometimes things are chemical imbalances, but the big difference is whether people recognise/try to fix them, or use them as an excuse to treat everyone else like shit. I also think people can overcome the crap that happened to them, but I also think that belief is my failing - as it leads me to give far too many chances to people. It’s rare that someone hasn’t hurt/used me, and yet I’m someone who constantly tries to put myself in other’s shoes, and step out of my own. I’ve never been wanted/respected, and yet it’s all I strive for others to see in themselves. I’m never going to have a family, is that me or my health conditions or my upbringing? I don’t know, but multiple people tell me I help them to get better for themselves, so maybe that’s my purpose. Life is a complicated thing, and largely self interpretation, I guess

Well, no one has ever said to me, "Yep, my life has been perfect. I have no stories to tell." I may possibly have known such people, but I lost interest in them long ago. I know a guy who devoted much of his life to trying to figure it all out, and then he told me it's all about love. Well, I could have told him that 30 years ago. The thing is, you can't just know it. You have to live it.
 
Well, no one has ever said to me, "Yep, my life has been perfect. I have no stories to tell." I may possibly have known such people, but I lost interest in them long ago. I know a guy who devoted much of his life to trying to figure it all out, and then he told me it's all about love. Well, I could have told him that 30 years ago. The thing is, you can't just know it. You have to live it.

I agree that at 17 one girl told me “the worst thing to happen to me was my aunt’s car breaking down on my way to school” and she was largely superficial, I don’t know if she was overprotected or what? Love is the one thing I give, but never receive - half my life later, I’m careful where I put my efforts/intentions, but always seem to end up used. I guess it’s not meant for me, and I’m more a resource for others
 
I agree that at 17 one girl told me “the worst thing to happen to me was my aunt’s car breaking down on my way to school” and she was largely superficial, I don’t know if she was overprotected or what? Love is the one thing I give, but never receive - half my life later, I’m careful where I put my efforts/intentions, but always seem to end up used. I guess it’s not meant for me, and I’m more a resource for others

Love is a physiological response our genes use to pass on DNA. It's also a beautiful feeling. And a profound emotional risk. It's all these things. You have to ask yourself if you want it badly enough to have your heart broken. Because it will. But you can recover.
 
Love is a physiological response our genes use to pass on DNA. It's also a beautiful feeling. And a profound emotional risk. It's all these things. You have to ask yourself if you want it badly enough to have your heart broken. Because it will. But you can recover.

I’ve only ever loved once, and it’s been broken. I believe I’m not meant to have anything - a mistake - that’s me 🤷🏼*♀️
 
I’ve only ever loved once, and it’s been broken. I believe I’m not meant to have anything - a mistake - that’s me 🤷🏼*♀️

I think it’s what you do with your experiences and learn from them. I’m sorry you have had your heart broken. There are good people out there, I hope you don’t give up finding your person.

I don’t think anyone is a mistake.





Justin Bieber is the exception.
 
So pissed at the manager at KFC. I ordered a 12 piece homie. If I want all legs you better give me all legs. And yes that is a bottle of E&J in my jacket. What’s it to you. Goddamnit.
 
I think it’s what you do with your experiences and learn from them. I’m sorry you have had your heart broken. There are good people out there, I hope you don’t give up finding your person.

I don’t think anyone is a mistake.


Justin Bieber is the exception.

I like that end bit - -as YouTube has selected some JB songs. I genuinely could understand that. I’m so understanding /try for others, that I feel I’m more a tool than anything for myself. 🤷🏼*♀️ I honestly believe I’m a tool for others than myself.

I got through the work stuff to find my mum’s dead body and try to save save her, makes me think I’m supposed to support everyone not me
 
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There are a lot of things I like about autumn. But my absolute favorite is the fact that all the ladies pull the boots out of their closets. Yum.

Also, a dream I had last night: Connecting with a fictional Litster who, in the context of the dream was something of a Lit luminary. She turned out to be a regular customer from a retail job I had nearly a decade ago. But then she kept trying to get me to watch her on cam having sex with her much younger lover while I was at work. Yes I want to watch you get fucked! Just not right this second.

Sometimes I wonder where my brain comes up with this shit.
 
The one I’ve talked about today is an incorrigible asshole, and not of my creating, but I tried to help. Even bought him a present when his second child was born - despite his actions causing me not earning enough to even feed myself. Yes, sometimes things are chemical imbalances, but the big difference is whether people recognise/try to fix them, or use them as an excuse to treat everyone else like shit. I also think people can overcome the crap that happened to them, but I also think that belief is my failing - as it leads me to give far too many chances to people. It’s rare that someone hasn’t hurt/used me, and yet I’m someone who constantly tries to put myself in other’s shoes, and step out of my own. I’ve never been wanted/respected, and yet it’s all I strive for others to see in themselves. I’m never going to have a family, is that me or my health conditions or my upbringing? I don’t know, but multiple people tell me I help them to get better for themselves, so maybe that’s my purpose. Life is a complicated thing, and largely self interpretation, I guess

You do realize the hypocritical nature of this post, right?

You're basically telling everybody else to get over their "chemical imbalances," yet at the same time, you're saying "I'm the victim. Everybody hates me. The world is against me."

It's like you're blaming people for having their own problems and then complaining because nobody loves you.

You feel like nobody loves you? Well guess what? Join the club. There's a lot of us out here.
 
You do realize the hypocritical nature of this post, right?

You're basically telling everybody else to get over their "chemical imbalances," yet at the same time, you're saying "I'm the victim. Everybody hates me. The world is against me."

It's like you're blaming people for having their own problems and then complaining because nobody loves you.

You feel like nobody loves you? Well guess what? Join the club. There's a lot of us out here.

👋🏾 Hi my name is MHND and no body love me. Oh wait wrong support group. Lol
 
You do realize the hypocritical nature of this post, right?

You're basically telling everybody else to get over their "chemical imbalances," yet at the same time, you're saying "I'm the victim. Everybody hates me. The world is against me."

It's like you're blaming people for having their own problems and then complaining because nobody loves you.

You feel like nobody loves you? Well guess what? Join the club. There's a lot of us out here.

Nope, never told anybody to get over chemical imbalances without support- that’s probably based on a personal assumption, without reading what I’m referring to. I was saying I support people - that even though a line manager intentionally reduced me to homelessness I celebrated the birth of his second child. No idea where the hypocrisy is supposed to be..

No one loves me - fact. That’s what it always has been, and will always be.have never assumed I’m alone with that, but have helped people and yet never had anyone to reach out to help me - so assume I’m a tool for others, not myself. That’s what I work with. I was saying that I believe people can overcome anything that befalls them, despite the fact I don’t believe it for myself. The two are not connected.
 
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Nope, never told anybody to get over chemical imbalances without support- support and that probably based on a personal assumption, without asking what I’m going through.

No one loves me - fact. That’s what it always has been, and will always be.have never assumed I’m alone with that, but have helped people and yet never had anyone to reach out to help me - so assume I’m a tool for others, not myself. That’s what I work with

Alright then. Good luck.
 
Let me be straight - I believe everyone is worthy of love, except me. I don’t attack others - im not like that - I attempt to understand them. You are trying to attack me - probably because of me not feeling able to respond to your PM immediately (doesn’t mean I won’t reply, just means I have personal shit going on). But I would never say anyone ‘has to’ deal with their stuff - I believe people will deal with it when it’s right for them. I’m not going to say more than that for now - just I was going to respond when able. Now apparently you want to target me for not being an emotionless machine... okay, that’s on you - all I wanted to do was show people that shit can lead to being stronger/better, even if sometimes I’m not up to individual/personal replies to people who don’t know me
 
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