What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

Idk. Is it unfair to others to be made to feel special a couple times a year? I don't really think it is.

But as mothers who take care of everyone and everything except ourselves and are then made to feel like we don't matter on days we should matter most unless we plan it? That's so wrong...
It isn’t at all and I don’t think that’s what I said. Neither do I overlook the typically gendered nature of planning and responsibility either. I just like birthdays.
 
Just wondering how many people really love their birthday or dread it? And why? I'm curious... šŸ¤”
It's 2 months and 9 days till mine. I bloody love them. Anyone's. But mine too. What's not to love? A day that's all about you and you get to have fun and be spoiled and spoil yourself if noone else does. And you can just get away with most things and say... pfft. It's my birthday. And then other people can roll their eyes and then you laugh and have fun and its the best.

Anyway.

I like birthdays.
 
Just wondering how many people really love their birthday or dread it? And why? I'm curious... šŸ¤”

I’m turning 30 this year and honestly, I’m kind of loving the idea of leaving my 20s behind. There’s something really magnetic about this milestone that feels both grounding and electric.

That said, celebrating it will feel different. Bittersweet in a way that’s hard to put into words. But still, I think I’ll find a way to make it meaningful.
 
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Oi that's my line. When you look in a dictionary for crazies. My picture is there. šŸ™ƒšŸ˜‰
I’m turning 30 this year and honestly, I’m kind of loving the idea of leaving my 20s behind. There’s something really magnetic about this milestone that feels both grounding and electric.

That said, celebrating it will feel different. Bittersweet in a way that’s hard to put into words. But still, I think I’ll find a way to make it meaningful.
The big 30. That's about the age I started to feel more like an adult ( lasted about 24 hours 😜 ). It's a good age.
 
I'm looking forward to my birthday this year ( a nice change from last year!) as I will be retiring -can't wait!
Oh its wonderful retirement.
I'm on a years break from work (job being kept open for me) but I'm enjoying it so much I might not go back. 51 isn't too young to retire really.... ;)
 
Just wondering how many people really love their birthday or dread it? And why? I'm curious... šŸ¤”
I love birthdays mine and other peoples too. I'm in the camp of celebrating all the occasions that we can. In our family everyone gets to pick their birthday dinner restaurant and we go there for the family celebration. (sometimes a favorite home cooked meal is picked and that is fine too. I don't pick home cooked meals because cooking for myself on my bday is not what I want to došŸ˜‚) If I pick a place to eat my husband will make the reservation. This was an expectation that was set but he has not had any issues with it. Bday dinner is always on your actual birthday so ā€œplanningā€ is minimal. šŸ˜‚ we all know what to expect and it is low stress. This has made bday dinners so easy as the kids got older too.

I don't usually have a specific party but I let my friends and family spoil me as they would like and I plan the things that I want. This means it is a few weeks of dancing, dinners, spa days, and special time with those I love.
I've learned to not try to overly plan or have set expectations and I end up pleasantly surprised instead of disappointed.

I do want to recognize that I have not always done this and I learned what felt good to me and what didn't. Having the ability to celebrate with my family is perfect for me and if I want something different I just need to communicate it.
 
Just wondering how many people really love their birthday or dread it? And why? I'm curious... https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f914.png
I mostly ignore it. Maybe it is weird--I don't mind receiving attention for something I did, but I don't like attention otherwise. And for my birth, my mother did all the work, I just showed up. I don't really know how to process the attention, I guess. And my ex, especially the last several years of our marriage, didn't give enough of a fuck to do anything special (one year she suggested a bunch of places I go in Portland by myself, as a sort of half-ass scavenger hunt, then went to a movie with our daughter. One year, my present was a gift certificate for a hair cut), so that probably soured me on it quite a bit as well.
 
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