What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[cactusjack0584]

Here’s what I am thinking—it took me 30 years to learn this. If you learn nothing else in 2025, this alone will change your life:

Nothing alienates others or pushes other people away like constant self-deprecation. If you can’t show up for yourself, how would you expect anyone else to?

Conversely, one of the most attractive qualities in another person—even for friendship—is confidence.

Many people simply don’t have the mental and emotional energy to trudge through someone else’s posts of negative self talk when they’re probably hearing enough of their own and all they want is an escape from the negativity.

It starts with nipping the negative self talk in the bud and training your thought patterns to be different. Therapy helps, I had years of it. And as a parent, there is almost nothing more important than NOT passing this behavior on.

This is what I have understood. From your post and all others. I’m just wrong. No matter what, I’m wrong. And that’s fine. I can live with that. Now I’ll just stick to posting funny memes or gifs. But making sure no one (and I mean no one) knows that I’m struggling or that I need a friend. I do appreciate your advice and the fact that you gave it. Apparently having ADHD and a being a former alcoholic and 10 year military veteran has fucked me up completely… I mean everything is great . Whoops

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[Btq97]

May have made too much

 

[Qky75]

I think I'm up too late.

 

[Btq97]

May have made too much

Turns out I did not

 

[RosewoodTulip]

This is what I have understood. From your post and all others. I’m just wrong. No matter what, I’m wrong. And that’s fine. I can live with that. Now I’ll just stick to posting funny memes or gifs. But making sure no one (and I mean no one) knows that I’m struggling or that I need a friend. I do appreciate your advice and the fact that you gave it. Apparently having ADHD and a being a former alcoholic and 10 year military veteran has fucked me up completely… I mean everything is great . Whoops

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Look man if all you got from that post is this then you aren't looking for advice, you're looking for pity.

Lit can be the greatest place if you come here with no demands or expectations from anyone else. There are fast paced funny threads, there are threads that ask the deep questions, casual game threads, pic threads. Switch it up if what you're doing isn't working for you.

But don't expect a bunch a strangers to do the work to cheer you up if you aren't willing to at least try to change things.

God I can be a miserable fucker here. We all have our off days. But I come here for a break from my crap and to hang out with like minded people, not to throw pity parties then get mad when people don't immediately rush to me.

 

[Neanderthal247]

Seems kind of tense in here, since it's December 1st, I think I know what you all need.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Seems kind of tense in here, since it's December 1st, I think I know what you all need.

I don't know you but I think I speak for everyone when I say...

 

[Leigh81]

Contemplating whether to text or call someone.

 

[cactusjack0584]

Contemplating whether to text or call someone.

I always go with text, talking is a lot of work

 

[Cwtchseeker]

Thinking about what I truly want

 

[Leigh81]

I always go with text, talking is a lot of work

I'm the opposite lol
Start with a text & go from there.

 

[ALovelyNudist]

I wonder what he tells his friends about me or even if he does?

 

[cactusjack0584]

I'm the opposite lol
Start with a text & go from there.

Well best of luck on your endeavors

 

[cactusjack0584]

I wonder what he tells his friends about me or even if he does?

Probably all good things

 

[Vinylguy]

Is the 4 day weekend over already? WTAF

 

[UnquietDreams]

Seems kind of tense in here, since it's December 1st, I think I know what you all need.

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[SalaciousMonkey22]

https://iili.io/208KJSe.gif

Have you been eboning @deefalttwunnyfor? You seem to have caught his media issue

 

[UnquietDreams]

Have you been eboning @deefalttwunnyfor? You seem to have caught his media issue

Pourquoi? What are (or aren't) you seeing?

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Pourquoi? What are (or aren't) you seeing?

 

[Acktion]

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[summer_reine]

I hate being slightly sick. Like.. I could technically do some work but I'd feel like garbage and do it poorly. But I'm not so sick that I can't get out of bed. I'm glad I'm not super sick but on the other hand feeling frustrated and guilty that I'm not doing anything on my long to do list

 

[cowslinger64]

Life is really good. Got to see a band from long ago, play at a really cool place nearby, took my son. Spent the weekend bussin up my awesome grandsons. And next weekend, surprising the smokin hot redhead, with a trip out of state to see Night Ranger, one of her all time favs.

 

[LostHorizon]

Why is it so hard to stay in my fucking lane?

 

[Vinylguy]

I hate being slightly sick. Like.. I could technically do some work but I'd feel like garbage and do it poorly. But I'm not so sick that I can't get out of bed. I'm glad I'm not super sick but on the other hand feeling frustrated and guilty that I'm not doing anything on my long to do list

I feel that

 

[curious_slut]

I can't believe it took an hour and a half with technical support to get my text messages working I just thought no one was replying cos it was a busy holiday weekend.