What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Lonelywife1205]

giving someone a facial...

I have very few hard limits, but this is one of them.

It’s one of those things I should probably look into a little deeper because I associate it with humiliation and degradation which I am not into at all. I’m missing the allure, but I do know lots of people are into it. I’m the oddball who doesn’t want cum on my face. (My tits are A ok though)

 

[Modern_drunkard]

I have very few hard limits, but this is one of them.

It’s one of those things I should probably look into a little deeper because I associate it with humiliation and degradation which I am not into at all. I’m missing the allure, but I do know lots of people are into it. I’m the oddball who doesn’t want cum on my face. (My tits are A ok though)

Eh, I would doubt you are in the minority. Probably seems more normal around here or porn but doubt large portions of society is ok with it. I could be wrong.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I’m nosy about something…when you post pics do you say something like “excuse the I look like I just rolled out of bed look” or some other similar negative comment? I try not to do this, but I can’t say I never have. I seriously doubt that anyone posts a pic where they truly think they look like shit. If I post a pic, it’s me, unfiltered and feeling cute. Why can’t we just unapologetically feel confident and sexy without adding the negativity?

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’m nosy about something…when you post pics do you say something like “excuse the I look like I just rolled out of bed look” or some other similar negative comment? I try not to do this, but I can’t say I never have. I seriously doubt that anyone posts a pic where they truly think they look like shit. If I post a pic, it’s me, unfiltered and feeling cute. Why can’t we just unapologetically feel confident and sexy without adding the negativity?

Because the negativity brings more attention.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Because the negativity brings more attention.

Seems to.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I’m nosy about something…when you post pics do you say something like “excuse the I look like I just rolled out of bed look” or some other similar negative comment? I try not to do this, but I can’t say I never have. I seriously doubt that anyone posts a pic where they truly think they look like shit. If I post a pic, it’s me, unfiltered and feeling cute. Why can’t we just unapologetically feel confident and sexy without adding the negativity?

It's human nature and a defense mechanism to point out our perceived flaws before anyone else does.

 

[TheRealFlash]

It's human nature and a defense mechanism to point out our perceived flaws before anyone else does.

This. And, I think it gives us a sense that we are displaying some modesty at the same time we're "showing off".

 

[Wand3rlust]

This!!!!


Its not for attention, and sorry but that kind of irks me... even pics where I feel cute and want to share, I still see every little flaw. I see unruly hair, splotchy skin, chub rolls, etc..things I dont notice in other's photos so I feel like I have to point out what I see to excuse how I look

Exactly. And we see everything we think is wrong with us, when very rarely does anyone else see that as flaws. I think when we post any pics of ourselves we are looking for a bit of validation, acceptance and reassurance about ourselves. And there is nothing wrong with that.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

This!!!!


Its not for attention, and sorry but that kind of irks me... even pics where I feel cute and want to share, I still see every little flaw. I see unruly hair, splotchy skin, chub rolls, etc..things I dont notice in other's photos so I feel like I have to point out what I see to excuse how I look

Exactly. And we see everything we think is wrong with us, when very rarely does anyone else see that as flaws. I think when we post any pics of ourselves we are looking for a bit of validation, acceptance and reassurance about ourselves. And there is nothing wrong with that.

I agree with both of you, but I also think sometimes it’s attention seeking.

 

[AlexBailey]

I'm nosey about if there is a sex act you do that feels common place that you are surprised to find out isn't?

Several of the first girls I was with were friends who also slept with each other and they all were into swallowing. Even when when we were fucking they didn't want me to come in their PLPs they wanted me to pull out so they could catch it in their mouths. They loved tasting each other's pussies on my cock as they would suck me dry.

The first straight girl I was with after that got upset because she thought I was trying to give her a facial. It was very awkward but once I explained, the idea turned her on - she wanted to suck a cock that tasted like another girl's pussy. We hooked up with a friend of hers and they ended up being lovers for years.

 

[SassySheDevil]

This!!!!


Its not for attention, and sorry but that kind of irks me... even pics where I feel cute and want to share, I still see every little flaw. I see unruly hair, splotchy skin, chub rolls, etc..things I dont notice in other's photos so I feel like I have to point out what I see to excuse how I look

Exactly. And we see everything we think is wrong with us, when very rarely does anyone else see that as flaws. I think when we post any pics of ourselves we are looking for a bit of validation, acceptance and reassurance about ourselves. And there is nothing wrong with that.

But do you not both see those same "flaws" on other women (or men) and think it adds character, beauty, personality to them?

Why can we as women (especially) see those same flaws on someone else, and think they are beautiful, but make sure to point them out in ourselves?

We are all insecure, and of course we have our weaknesses. But how does pointing out those flaws, make it easier to post a picture? Does it not just draw attention to those perceived flaws?

I have done that. I am guilty. I try not to, because I know how much it makes me roll my eyes when I see others do it. So now. If I am not comfortable with a picture, I just don't post. If I am feeling extra vulnerable, I wont post. We all like attention and Validation.
But irritated with the comment or not, it does bring extra attention.

 

[keeperofsecrets69]

own your beauty ladies. We arent here to judge you or point out your flaws. We just want to see you unfiltered in all your womanly grace. If we cant appreciate you for who you are, we probably arent worthy of you regardless.

 

[saustin5432]

I’m nosy about something…when you post pics do you say something like “excuse the I look like I just rolled out of bed look” or some other similar negative comment? I try not to do this, but I can’t say I never have. I seriously doubt that anyone posts a pic where they truly think they look like shit. If I post a pic, it’s me, unfiltered and feeling cute. Why can’t we just unapologetically feel confident and sexy without adding the negativity?

I know every single one of my flaws intimately and I'm sure that given days no one would ever see them all in a photo. I honestly think I get the same response whether I'm self deprecating or not, but having the confidence to not forecast a negative response to those "massive" flaws is more the reason for me than seeking reassuring attention that I'm not as bad as I think I am. Although I'll take a the niceties.

 

[SassySheDevil]

own your beauty ladies. We arent here to judge you or point out your flaws. We just want to see you unfiltered in all your womanly grace. If we cant appreciate you for who you are, we probably arent worthy of you regardless.

This. I love this.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I think it's two things.

1. Inviting the rejection or setting the expectation bar low. I posted a picture Monday and had many kind compliments. Did I agree with any of them? Nope. But I said thank you and that was that. I didn't set it up with a negative caption but my brain did. If skmeone had something negative to say, well I've already handled that in my brain and it bothers me slightly less.

2. Women are trained to deferential and not overly confident. Confident women are setting themselves up to get knocked down a peg. I think it's awful and definitely something we should push back on. LW is absolutely right when she says - why can't we just say we feel beautiful today and post a picture.

I'm not sure how attention plays into it? I guess there's a niche of people who will try to say - oh hush, your hair looks great or whatever it is. But so those really feel like earned attention? If we are really supporting other women, why don't we let them add a little self protection if they need it? And a question, I've asked myself lately, why should we care if someone needs a little extra attention? There's no good/positive reason to feel that emotion that I can think of.

 

[keeperofsecrets69]

I think it's two things.

1. Inviting the rejection or setting the expectation bar low. I posted a picture Monday and had many kind compliments. Did I agree with any of them? Nope. But I said thank you and that was that. I didn't set it up with a negative caption but my brain did. If skmeone had something negative to say, well I've already handled that in my brain and it bothers me slightly less.

2. Women are trained to deferential and not overly confident. Confident women are setting themselves up to get knocked down a peg. I think it's awful and definitely something we should push back on. LW is absolutely right when she says - why can't we just say we feel beautiful today and post a picture.

I'm not sure how attention plays into it? I guess there's a niche of people who will try to say - oh hush, your hair looks great or whatever it is. But so those really feel like earned attention? If we are really supporting other women, why don't we let them add a little self protection if they need it? And a question, I've asked myself lately, why should we care if someone needs a little extra attention? There's no good/positive reason to feel that emotion that I can think of.

you are beautiful today as you are everyday, post your pics for those who admire you, believe in you and want to build you up and make you see how special you are. If someone is so petty that they want to point out what they see as flaws most likely they are just broken themselves. Let your heart be strong beautiful and bold and know that you stand above all those who would cast stones.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I think it's two things.

1. Inviting the rejection or setting the expectation bar low. I posted a picture Monday and had many kind compliments. Did I agree with any of them? Nope. But I said thank you and that was that. I didn't set it up with a negative caption but my brain did. If skmeone had something negative to say, well I've already handled that in my brain and it bothers me slightly less.

2. Women are trained to deferential and not overly confident. Confident women are setting themselves up to get knocked down a peg. I think it's awful and definitely something we should push back on. LW is absolutely right when she says - why can't we just say we feel beautiful today and post a picture.

I'm not sure how attention plays into it? I guess there's a niche of people who will try to say - oh hush, your hair looks great or whatever it is. But so those really feel like earned attention? If we are really supporting other women, why don't we let them add a little self protection if they need it? And a question, I've asked myself lately, why should we care if someone needs a little extra attention? There's no good/positive reason to feel that emotion that I can think of.

this. And my opinion on your picture the other day was “fucking stunning” because I thought you looked amazing in that. I think it is the best one I have seen of you.

We never know the negativity that a person has faced in their life that might lead to insecurities they have about themselves. Sometimes it isn’t about attention but confirmation and reassurance.

Every face has its beauty and its flaws and it should all be embraced.

I never like the way I look in photographs but I think I look okay when I look in the mirror.

 

[saustin5432]

I never like the way I look in photographs but I think I look okay when I look in the mirror.

Why is this (more generally...not just for you)? I feel like this is so true for a lot of people (me included). I have no problem with how I look, but show me a photo of me and I'm all like...who TF is that homely guy with the unkempt hair and baggy eyes??

 

[SassySheDevil]

The whole point of posting a pic is attention though, isnt it? So why does the caption attached to it matter? If I honestly feel like a damn mess but want to post anyway, why cant I say how I feel and post the photo without it being "extra"?

I've posted some with the caption "Just because" or posted before/after shots when I have a hair appointment, and I have posted ones where I say how I feel about the photo attached....they all are viewed and commented on equally.

And yes, its nice to get some validation back (for me personally it means even more coming from women I value and trust) saying something positive about what I perceived as a negative - i.e. whenever I make a comment about hating my hair but someone else points out that they like it. It has nothing to do with seeking extra attention, I will always feel like my hair looks better straight than curly but it does make me feel great when someone comments nicely on it curly.

I still dont see how this makes someone extra attention seeking when the whole point of posting a photo is for it to be seen and to get attention...why does the captioning matter if its truly how that person sees what they have posted?

Every time you post a picture. You get a lot of attention, which is great. Again, Yes. This is one reason people post.
I've even commented on your pictures telling you that you look beautiful. Granted, rarely when you are filtered, because I think you are more beautiful without the filter. And often not when you start with the negative intro.
I LOVE your curls. I can get them pretty easy, but like you, I often straighten my hair. I know what even a little bit of humidity does.
My point is. Own your beauty. Find your confidence. You don't EVER point out someone elses flaws. So why point out yours?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

this. And my opinion on your picture the other day was “fucking stunning” because I thought you looked amazing in that. I think it is the best one I have seen of you.

We never know the negativity that a person has faced in their life that might lead to insecurities they have about themselves. Sometimes it isn’t about attention but confirmation and reassurance.

Every face has its beauty and its flaws and it should all be embraced.

I never like the way I look in photographs but I think I look okay when I look in the mirror.

Well thank you.

And you're absolutely right. The things some people see as flaws are often my favorite thing about their face. But you never ever know what someone is struggling with or what they see in comparison to what we see.

And I agree with SNG saying the compliments from women I respect are the ones that mean the most because we are harder on each other historically.

Being generous in my views of other people is something I'm working on. It's definitely work but so far, worth it!

ETA - I think it's not helpful to tell someone how they should feel about themselves.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Why is this (more generally...not just for you)? I feel like this is so true for a lot of people (me included). I have no problem with how I look, but show me a photo of me and I'm all like...who TF is that homely guy with the unkempt hair and baggy eyes??

Your unkempt hair is sexy AF. Own it.

 

[saustin5432]

Your unkempt hair is sexy AF. Own it.

Was that attention seeking on my part? Thanks!

 

[AlexBailey]

I think it's two things.

1. Inviting the rejection or setting the expectation bar low. I posted a picture Monday and had many kind compliments. Did I agree with any of them? Nope. But I said thank you and that was that. I didn't set it up with a negative caption but my brain did. If skmeone had something negative to say, well I've already handled that in my brain and it bothers me slightly less.

2. Women are trained to deferential and not overly confident. Confident women are setting themselves up to get knocked down a peg. I think it's awful and definitely something we should push back on. LW is absolutely right when she says - why can't we just say we feel beautiful today and post a picture.

I'm not sure how attention plays into it? I guess there's a niche of people who will try to say - oh hush, your hair looks great or whatever it is. But so those really feel like earned attention? If we are really supporting other women, why don't we let them add a little self protection if they need it? And a question, I've asked myself lately, why should we care if someone needs a little extra attention? There's no good/positive reason to feel that emotion that I can think of.

There is a lot of social conditioning that creates insecurities, very few people are free of it. One of the prettiest, most talented girls I've ever known would sometimes get riddled with insecurities. One of the biggest issues she had was people being 'fake' to her. Sometimes she would intentionally wear unmatching outfits and would fuck up her makeup and hair, aching for someone to be honest and tell her she looked like shit - when some other girls in town actually started copying her she had a breakdown. One of the most fucked up things about it was that even some of her friends thought she was being a stuck up, whiny bitch. She almost killed herself over it.

 

[keeperofsecrets69]

I believe the beauty of life is in the flaws and the scars. All of us have them. They are like a living testiment to our past and our struggles. How boring would life be if we all were just carbon copies of someone elses idea of perfect. Why not embrace them and cherish them?

 

[cheekygirl75]

Why is this (more generally...not just for you)? I feel like this is so true for a lot of people (me included). I have no problem with how I look, but show me a photo of me and I'm all like...who TF is that homely guy with the unkempt hair and baggy eyes??

I think this is at least partly because we're more used to seeing our faces in the mirror than in pictures. And when we see ourselves flipped the other way in pictures, it just looks weird.