What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[AmberLGreen]

It's a phrase I have just recently learned

Ok I have gone through all of the voice messages from last night and fanny flutters was only mentioned once and in an innocent context (can breathe a sigh of relief)

 

[Shenanigans90]

I form my own opinions of people. I have been warned about certain people and told that I shouldn’t talk to them but I’d like those people and I will always chat to them. Hi I like lots of people and just because they might not get on with somebody else doesn’t mean that I can’t get on with them. Most people on here are my cup of tea I like them.

I am nosy as to why a Litster would bad mouth a fellow Litster to others. There are so many different personalities here that you are certain to clash with someone. Let everyone form their on opinions and quit trying to manipulate people. Keep an open mind and give everyone a chance to be a friend.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I make up my own mind about people. I have been the person women here warned men about and it’s a bunch of BS. Sometimes it can be legitimate, but more often than not I have found people hear something from one of their friends and run with it.

 

[Dribble]

There are people here i no longer talk with because of who their friends are. I have likewise been told by other people they won't interact with me because of who my "friends" are. I can accept both. I am a pretty good judge of character in terms of what I am ok with.

What I don't do is tell others not to interact with someone. I will tell them I don't like that person. If they ask why...I will tell them. But to say...don't interact with this person...well...that's so high school. I could say...just be careful...they have a pattern. That's what friends do.

 

[Shenanigans90]

No.
You don’t have to give everyone a chance.

I understand that someone may not like a person but why would they bad mouth that person to others?

 

[Dribble]

Wait.
You have friends?

Not really. But I was trying to be optimistic so I can sleep better tonight. Lol.

 

[Dribble]

There are a lot of creepy “please fuck meeeeee, I’m a nice guyyyyyy” men here.
I will let my friends know who they are if they ask.

My first NA meeting followed a sex anonymous meeting. It was fucking hard. You get clean...and weird things like you finish puberty and your dick gets hard all the time. How could you not talk with them hoping for relapsers? I am a nice guy. But I also did some pretty shitty things. I have grown since then. Just not as much as I would like.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I'm a grammar fiend and a spelling fiend. I believe that you need every advantage you can when trying to sell yourself. Those two things are automatically a great way to make yourself look bad if you suck at either one.

That being said. I try to be nice to everyone. I've made mistakes and paid for them. But all in all I try to be the nicest guy I can. Just my nature.

 

[Azuldrgon]

But I don’t think you can judge it solely by that because I flirt with a lot of men on threads & we’re friends in the DM and nothing more

It's a crap shoot sometimes.

We can be whatever we want to be on here and sometimes you have to cut through the bullshit to discover folks. Sometimes there's credible info. Sometimes not. Just the way it is on here.

 

[Dribble]

Holds your hand and kisses it.

Wrong hand....

 

[Shenanigans90]

There are a lot of creepy “please fuck meeeeee, I’m a nice guyyyyyy” men here.
I will let my friends know who they are if they ask.

Thanks, I am still pretty naive about things here.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Being nice doesn't guarantee anything.
If you're trying to be the nice guy just to get some action, you're as big an asshole as others.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

There was one time I saw a girl and a guy flirting pretty hard back and forth on a thread. The guy was someone who ghosted me out of the blue after spending a significant amount of time chatting with me. I considered PMing this girl just to make her aware of my experience as a heads up but decided not to because A it was really none of my business and B I had reached out to her in a friendly way before and she wasn’t particularly friendly to me. If it were someone I considered a close friend, I probably would have felt obligated to share my experience with them.

 

[Azuldrgon]

As the mum of a Dysgraphic child I have zero tolerance for grammar and spelling nazis.

Only at work do I do that stuff.
Never on here.
Never somewhere besides work.

 

[SassySheDevil]

https://voca.ro/1lDTpCuTT7lE

Where Fara gives confirmation to all that she is a complete idiot. ^

This is exactly where my mind went. I totally thought you'd be all over this question!!!

 

[ydahecnot]

So I am nosey in a follow-up kind of way: Am I to understand that a guy who you say is nice but acts needy and perhaps entitled is as worthy of an urgent warning as a Ravi? Why not just take the dude aside and tell him what he’s doing is not cool and why?

 

[SassySheDevil]

I am nosy as to why a Litster would bad mouth a fellow Litster to others. There are so many different personalities here that you are certain to clash with someone. Let everyone form their on opinions and quit trying to manipulate people. Keep an open mind and give everyone a chance to be a friend.

^Yes. And also No.

I want my friends to tell me if I’m about to/getting involved with a known problem because I generally don’t know this stuff or keep track of who is doing who or whatever and I have zero interest in being part of the reason another woman feels like shit about herself. (Been there done that grew better.)

I don’t want gossip or bitch sessions but if my friends get an inkling that there’s trouble coming for me in the shape of a sexy fella, I want to know what that looks like..

I make up my own mind about people. I have been the person women here warned men about and it’s a bunch of BS. Sometimes it can be legitimate, but more often than not I have found people hear something from one of their friends and run with it.

Kind of all of these. I've been on both sides of this.

Sometimes I like a heads up if a person is a shit head. But I've also learned that whomever is a shit head to one person, doesn't mean they are going to be one to me.
The Alts that play games with people. Yes. 100% yes. Tell me those.
But in a conversation I had today. There are many examples of people that didn't mesh well with others, but I loved, or vice versa.
So I don't take someone elses version all the time.

I hate that it is so easy for one person to say "I don't like so and so, so you should stay away" and their friends do.
I know many who don't like me, because someone else didn't like me (and I'm sure they'd deny it)

I also know that many that don't like me, have never talked to me.

So it can work both ways.

Now, I try to always form my opinions based on my own interactions. I felt into the hole of just a friends opinion. And that hurt me in the end.
You can lose good friends, conversations etc by not getting to know someone for yourself.

 

[SassySheDevil]

If he’s talking to me and you and Bambi and Sassy and Chilly and Amber all at the same time, and he’s hitting on AmPics?
Yeah. Out with it.

lol I hate to tell you this. 99% of them are.

 

[CreamyOnTheInside]

I would prefer to make my own mistakes, when it comes to things of the heart. If I'm considering something with someone, why wouldn't I try to explore that? Seems like 9 times out of 10 when friends try to wave you off its because of their own insecurities. Live it up, or wonder what-if the rest of your life.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I’m mostly ok with that. After all, I’m talking to more than that person too. Fair is fair!

As long as people are honest about it. Not my thing, but if it works for you, get it girl!

 

[SassySheDevil]

So this sort of relates to something Bambi/Fara just mentioned.


Overlap. How do you feel about overlap.

I'm not talking about the out in the open people. I'm talking about all the secret players behind the scene.
Fara brought up a few names. So I'll use us..

Fara is playing (heavy flirting, whatever) with Bob
Sassy is also playing (heavy flirting) with Bob.
Sassy and Fara don't know they are both playing with Bob.

Overlap. Secret overlap.

Sassy and Fara are friends. It gets a little creepy when we find out we are secretly having an orgy with each other when we didn't know. Cause Bob says he's not playing with anyone else. But one day. Sassy and Fara talk, and find out.

And why do guys get so mad when Sassy says to Bob. "You are playing with my friend. I'm not interested in playing with you anymore"

Bob now says "Why did you discuss my private life!!!"

I don't like overlap with my closest friends. I just think it balances on Girl code. I get that on a site like this, there is a lot of overlap, but with my closest friends. It just feels icky.
We are all basically having an orgy. But a couple months back. I had someone flip his shit because I said I didn't want to walk that line because I knew he was playing with a friend of mine. He literally called me every thing he could think of.
Had another person tell me the other day that he would talk to me, but I could never tell my friends, or even mention me.
Fuck that. I don't want to be your dirty secret. In that case. We were TALKING. Not playing.

I know the difference between keeping a private life private, and "Don't mention me because your friends will find out were all having an orgy"

 

[SassySheDevil]

As long as people are honest about it. Not my thing, but if it works for you, get it girl!

I'm not interested in the orgies either. I know it happens. But I especially don't want it with my closest friends.

 

[Dribble]

lol I hate to tell you this. 99% of them are.

Now how fucking bad is this? I am a 1-percenter. Fuck yea.

Actually...I am a zero-percenter but one-percenter is cooler. Now I need a bike

 

[ydahecnot]

Now how fucking bad is this? I am a 1-percenter. Fuck yea.

Actually...I am a zero-percenter but one-percenter is cooler. Now I need a bike

No, you only get a toaster for that

 

[Dribble]

No, you only get a toaster for that

Does it do bagels?