What am I?

[reanne]

So here's the thing. I am totally the one who has to be in control. Outside of the bedroom that is. All the decisions about finances, kids, etc. are mine, but in the bedroom it's my hubby's domain. I love to be tied up and at his mercy. It gets me so hot when he pins my wrists over my head, or pulls me by the hair so that my face is in his lap and I "have" to suck him. Nipple and clit clamps, the BDSM stories, they all excite me. But I draw the line at actual pain. No beatings and bleeding for this gal. As for spankings, well my ass is so sensitive forget it, but I do love to have it caressed and fucked, hopefully while I'm tied face down and have no choice.

So what does that make me. Do I fit into the "BDSM" category or what? And are there others like me out there?

 

[bunny bondage]

what you are

to me it sounds like you are a woman who knows what she likes and has found a partner willing to participate in fun activities with her! congrats! ^_^

 

[WynEternal]

I think you most definately do.

It seems you have a submissive nature, so are probably more into the Dominance/submission aspect than you are the sado/masochism. It seems that you are also into bondage (?).

Not all play and pain have to be extremely painful. A crop can feel like the gentlest of taps. And a flogger can feel like the featherlight caress of a lover's touch. Blood doesn't have to be involved at all, and I know of many who have limits about it.

Glad you know what your likes and dislikes are.

 

[Richard49]

You need to ask ?

 

[morninggirl5]

I agree with everything bunny said.


But i'd also describe you as a very lucky woman indeed.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: what you are

to me it sounds like you are a woman who knows what she likes and has found a partner willing to participate in fun activities with her! congrats! ^_^

I agree. labels, shmabels.

 

[pierced_boy]

Lucky you indeed

You are getting what you want Cool

But why do you need a label Reanne?

Go for it girl and I hope you press your boundaries too

H

 

[WynEternal]

I forgot to mention yesterday, but I do agree with what others have said here. Why the need for a label?

 

[Pixie Mischief]

She sounds like my bf hehe.. not to the same extreme thought but she does. He tends to be a control freak. Rather domineering.. I cant complain even if it pisses me off he usualy has a reason for the things he tells me to do or not do.. He seems to expect me to just do them and not ask questions and just trust him. Anyways he can be somewhat the same in bed. His idea of forplay mmmm YUM I so miss him LOL is bitting and pinching.. Even his kisses can be.. painful (god he kisses miss them) he bites at my tongue and lips not really hard but hard enough LOL but well LOL very often its the other way around.. hes always said he liked agreesive girls but its proving to be an understatement.. one problem is I'm shy. we had a little arguement well wasnt an arguement but he was honest with me. telling me how I havent intiated anything and he cant go on this way always being the one initiating everything. the guy lost his erection cause I wasnt "Agreesive" enough when he was with me. I never heard such a thing!! anyway we have a long distance relationship so we have sex online and phone. But since that talk Iv'e been trying to work at not being so shy for him. for us.. its not fair if hes not happy. both people must be happy in a relationship. or it wont work.
and its not that I dont want to. I've fantasized about it about grabbing him by the hair and kissing him forcefully. mmm but I'm shy. I just CANT. The Latest development is I found out when I tell him a story he waits till I finish my story till in it he cums to actually cum. I injured him over the computer LOL cause after 2 hours of jerkin off. I hadnt told him to cum. I had no idea at all that he waited. I always was suspecious I mean he always ended up comming within a few minutes of my ending my stories.
I cried and cried didnt mean to hurt him! Told me next time I wonder something to just ask. but how can you ask someone if they wait till you tell them to cum to cum? LOL
I didnt want to seem crazy.
He then told me that it was YOUR story and said that you lead 99%

well geez!!!!!! I thought it was all in my head but after that... noppers. LOL poor guy LOL he tore is pee pee LOL aww

I need to talk to him about all this but I've been putting it off.

Labels suck.. why not be who you are??? why need a label?

 

[reanne]

I think you most definately do.

It seems you have a submissive nature, so are probably more into the Dominance/submission aspect than you are the sado/masochism. It seems that you are also into bondage (?).

Oh yeah!

Not all play and pain have to be extremely painful. A crop can feel like the gentlest of taps. And a flogger can feel like the featherlight caress of a lover's touch. Blood doesn't have to be involved at all, and I know of many who have limits about it.

Glad you know what your likes and dislikes are.

Well, I guess you can tell by my virgin "label" (lol), I'm a newbie here. I'm still not familiar with the "etiquette" of the lifestyle and wanted to be sure. Thanks so much for the insight Wyn and everyone. It's great to find a place where you can be yourself.

 

[DVS]

You are a submissive.
It is not at all uncommon for someone to be in a power role outside of the bedroom and a submissive in sex. It is also not uncommon to have someone be in a blue collar type of job, where they are not at all in charge, and then be a complete Dom in bed.

There are many powerful people OUTSIDE of the bedroom who prefer to be submissive in the bedroom. Many corporate executives tend to be submissive. In fact, my present submissive is very smart (graduated college at 19), has just retired from the corporate world where she was the only woman on a board of directors and held her own quite well.

She now has a landscaping business of her own, after retiring from corporate world. She also handles a large personal household after everything else is done. This is the power person she is on the outside.

The only powerful thing she has done as far as sex is concerned is to answer my ad on the Internet. I was the second she answered as the first didn't work out so well. But, the type of woman she is, she was determined to continue, even after the bad situation. She knew what she wanted and went after it. We met and talked, and everything has worked out well, ever since.

She is very submissive when it comes to sex. Finding me was the only power thing she has done, as far as her sex life is concerned. After the initial getting to know each other stage, I have taken control and she is the submissive to my dominant.

Still, outside of the sexual area, she is quite intelligent, and I even ask her opinion on things. Because she has been high on the corporate ladder, she has experienced a lot of life. She is a great sounding board, if I need help in making a life decision.

But, when it comes to sex, she loves someone else being in charge, submissive all the way. Don't get me wrong...she is very intelligent and observant in her submissive sex role, too. She constantly asks questions about why she feels the way she does at different times.

She is constantly learning, finally fulfilling her love to submit to another. And, I put her through her paces. She experiences everything from simple bondage to electroplay, and everything in-between.

Yes, we have our share of fun. It just goes to prove that the submissive isn't a non-thinking partner in the BDSM lifestyle. They might ask a lot of questions and they might allow their partner to take charge, but their mind is always working. And, that makes the mental torment games that much more fun.

So, any of this sound familiar?

 

[Sir James A]

I would refer you to this link...

http://www.castlerealm.com/library/ami.shtml

 

[Impish]

ummm thank you

You are a submissive.
It is not at all uncommon for someone to be in a power role outside of the bedroom and a submissive in sex...
She is very submissive when it comes to sex... she is very intelligent and observant in her submissive sex role, too. She constantly asks questions about why she feels the way she does at different times. ... So, any of this sound familiar?

Thank you. Thank you for the thread and DVS your response. Very helpful for one needing more.

 

[reanne]

You are a submissive.
It is not at all uncommon for someone to be in a power role outside of the bedroom and a submissive in sex. It is also not uncommon to have someone be in a blue collar type of job, where they are not at all in charge, and then be a complete Dom in bed.

Yes, this sounds very familiar. Thanks everyone for the wonderful insight.