What’s the strangest request you’ve had in the bedroom?

[LittleGreene]

Is there something that you got asked to do that was just a massive curve ball?

Did you go with the request or bluntly deny it?

I had one partner that really wanted to cum in my belly button. It was a big thing for him. And yes, I humoured him, but found the clean up annoying.

 

[lordfarquat]

When I was in college, I had a partner who really wanted me to choke her. She was tiny-roughly five feet tall and 100 pounds-whereas I played rugby and took pride in my strength. In theory, I loved the idea of being rough to that extent. In practice, I was afraid to hurt her although I did oblige.

 

[LittleGreene]

When I was in college, I had a partner who really wanted me to choke her. She was tiny-roughly five feet tall and 100 pounds-whereas I played rugby and took pride in my strength. In theory, I loved the idea of being rough to that extent. In practice, I was afraid to hurt her although I did oblige.

I’ve never quite understood the choking thing.

 

[Scareltt]

When I was in college, I had a partner who really wanted me to choke her. She was tiny-roughly five feet tall and 100 pounds-whereas I played rugby and took pride in my strength. In theory, I loved the idea of being rough to that extent. In practice, I was afraid to hurt her although I did oblige.

I’ve had men ask, and it frightens me. Chocking is the only thing I’ve ever said no to… like there’s no negotiation.

Anything else I’m up for trying.

 

[lordfarquat]

it was not my cup of tea not snifter of whiskey. I was honestly afraid to hurt her. She had a fantastic body but was not the best lover.

 

[LittleGreene]

She had a fantastic body but was not the best lover.

Every woman can relate to this and men’s dicks. If you can’t use what you’ve been blessed with them it’s worthless

 

[bikerbonez]

i was once asked to pee in a womans ass I was with, not something I cared to do so she didn't want to see me again because I wouldn't oblige

 

[LittleGreene]

i was once asked to pee in a womans ass I was with, not something I cared to do so she didn't want to see me again because I wouldn't oblige

I’ve only ever been asked to do pee you play once.

 

[Spongo]

May wife asking me if I wanted someone behind me while giving her oral sex

 

[LittleGreene]

May wife asking me if I wanted someone behind me while giving her oral sex

What was your honest answer?

 

[munch2much]

I’d quite like to say, but it might be just a bit too identifying for them.

What I can say is, some things are ok in a bedroom if requested, that would and should get you arrested anywhere else.

I remember finding it very hard to comply. But she was so aroused, it was impossible for me not to be.

But I actually found myself wondering how soundproof our hotel room was.

 

[SpicyBean99]

Ahhh reading the above comments has me FLUMMOXED! Of course, each to their own and absolutely there are things that many won’t enjoy. But CHOKING?! I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t like a strong grip around her throat with one hand, eye contact, and his other hand toying your clit and fucking your holes as he edges you, squeezing a little tighter around your throat every time you get almost close to cumming. It reminds me of a time with @Switchem15 … between fucking he would hold my throat and the feeling when he released me… and I could breathe again… my GOD it felt like heaven. But of course not everyone’s going to be into it.

For me, weirdest request I guess I’ve had is to let them fuck both my holes with vegetables. I was 19 with little experience and said no. Now? Maybe there’s not much I would say no too. I’ve been pissed on, pissed on others, had my face pressed into my own squirt…..but there are also requests I personally wouldn’t want to share on this specific thread for familiarity reasons!

 

[SpicyBean99]

Every woman can relate to this and men’s dicks. If you can’t use what you’ve been blessed with them it’s worthless

You’re so right here. I did date a guy with a micro penis. He had a circumcision 6 months before I met him for confidence reasons. He’s still the best head I’ve ever received. (Like you said, he had to compensate for not having any length at all) He didn’t rush, went down on me for a good hour or so each time, used different toys, used his HANDS (not just fingers, the palm of his hand, his thumbs, using pressure points such as the one women have just beneath their belly button that when pressed on whilst also having fingers inside feels like you’re falling from the fucking clouds in ecstasy)… he was TALENTED

 

[munch2much]

Ahhh reading the above comments has me FLUMMOXED! Of course, each to their own and absolutely there are things that many won’t enjoy. But CHOKING?! I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t like a strong grip around her throat with one hand, eye contact, and his other hand toying your clit and fucking your holes as he edges you, squeezing a little tighter around your throat every time you get almost close to cumming. It reminds me of a time with @Switchem15… between fucking he would hold my throat and the feeling when he released me… and I could breathe again… my GOD it felt like heaven. But of course not everyone’s going to be into it.

For me, weirdest request I guess I’ve had is to let them fuck both my holes with vegetables. I was 19 with little experience and said no. Now? Maybe there’s not much I would say no too. I’ve been pissed on, pissed on others, had my face pressed into my own squirt…..but there are also requests I personally wouldn’t want to share on this specific thread for familiarity reasons!

I’ve done this in a very low level way as a request. And put my hand on peoples throats with no pressure. It’s always seams to go down well …but also nobody has said “c’mon mate, you can do that harder!”. And I’d hate to hurt anyone or for it to go wrong.

Nipple twisting is an interesting one. One ex liked it to be extreme. It made me anxious to start with. Many ladies liked mild twisting and told me so after I cautiously tried. But you will get a yelp if you go to far!!

 

[CD_Bianca]

Is there something that you got asked to do that was just a massive curve ball?

Did you go with the request or bluntly deny it?

I had one partner that really wanted to cum in my belly button. It was a big thing for him. And yes, I humoured him, but found the clean up annoying.

I was living with a girl who one day said that she wanted me to wear skirt while we were having sex.
horror, horror, I'm straight as a die, what would people think
hang on, this is only happening in the bedroom, no one will know
that was 40 years ago, now I wear sexy short skirts to attract MEN
and I don't often miss the mark, nor do they

 

[SpicyBean99]

I’ve don’t this in a very low level way as a request. And put my hand on peoples throats with no pressure. It’s always seams to go down well …but also nobody has said “c’mon mate, you can do that harder!”. And I’d hate to hurt anyone or for it to go wrong.

Nipple twisting is an interesting one. One ex liked it to be extreme. It made me anxious to start with. Many ladies liked mild twisting and told me so after I cautiously tried. But you will get a yelp if you go to far!!

Oh absolutely I feel it adds to the sex! But I’m a little crazy in the bedroom, I’ll ask you to slap me, bite my back and shoulders as you’re fucking me up against a wall, pull my hair (god please pull my fucking hair), I’m also a back scratcher, always have super long nails so… I like to dig those in. I LOVE being submissive.

I love a nipple clamp so….

But yeah there’s a difference between forcing pressure on the throat vs holding it with a good amount of pressure but not squeezing? If that makes sense!

I feel like men maybe get less crazy requests than women?

 

[Switchem15]

Ahhh reading the above comments has me FLUMMOXED! Of course, each to their own and absolutely there are things that many won’t enjoy. But CHOKING?! I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t like a strong grip around her throat with one hand, eye contact, and his other hand toying your clit and fucking your holes as he edges you, squeezing a little tighter around your throat every time you get almost close to cumming. It reminds me of a time with @Switchem15 … between fucking he would hold my throat and the feeling when he released me… and I could breathe again… my GOD it felt like heaven. But of course not everyone’s going to be into it.

For me, weirdest request I guess I’ve had is to let them fuck both my holes with vegetables. I was 19 with little experience and said no. Now? Maybe there’s not much I would say no too. I’ve been pissed on, pissed on others, had my face pressed into my own squirt…..but there are also requests I personally wouldn’t want to share on this specific thread for familiarity reasons!

What a time it was to see her shaking and trembling with a little smirk to add too…getting you off gets me off.

I mean the own squirt was a personal favourite of mine too…

A personal one for me that I did once and didn’t have it in me to do ever again, a girl wanted to be punched clean in the jaw as she came…bag of frozen peas at the ready for it…I didn’t have it in me to really do it properly or ever try it again.

 

[LittleGreene]

Ahhh reading the above comments has me FLUMMOXED! Of course, each to their own and absolutely there are things that many won’t enjoy. But CHOKING?! I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t like a strong grip around her throat with one hand, eye contact, and his other hand toying your clit and fucking your holes as he edges you, squeezing a little tighter around your throat every time you get almost close to cumming

I honestly think this is an age/generational thing.

The younger generation , which looking at your age in your profile I think you are, tend to have been exposed to extreme pornography so much more than my generation, that although we had access to porn, it hadnt yet morphed into the misogynistic incel fueled anti-feminist laced fuck fest it is today.

Choking was a very extreme bdsm kink rather than in the mainstream when I was in my 20s.

 

[SpicyBean99]

I honestly think this is an age/generational thing.

The younger generation , which looking at your age in your profile I think you are, tend to have been exposed to extreme pornography so much more than my generation, that although we had access to porn, it hadnt yet morphed into the misogynistic incel fueled anti-feminist laced fuck fest it is today.

Choking was a very extreme bdsm kink rather than in the mainstream when I was in my 20s.

I totally get that you’re coming from a different generational lens, and you’re older than me, but I don’t agree that things like choking are automatically linked to misogyny or some incel-fueled, anti-feminist culture. I’m a 1999 baby, (I’m 26) and despite growing up with the internet, I didn’t start watching porn to get off until my early 20s. And I wasn’t exposed to BDSM dynamics until then either, it wasn’t some formative influence…

Also it’s a stretch to say choking is ‘mainstream’. Maybe in my circle of friends it is, since we’re all kinky little fuckers but I know that there are portably more people who don’t enjoy it.

When I started exploring things like choking, it was with someone I trusted, in a safe, communicative space. It wasn’t about violence or power over someone. it was about mutual intensity, trust, and connection.

Framing kinks like choking as inherently misogynistic kind of erases the agency of the women who actively enjoy and ask for it. That doesn’t sound very feminist to me.

It’s fine if it’s not your thing, of course, but kink isn’t new, and it isn’t automatically toxic just because more people are open about it now.

I’m so happy to be a part of a generation that isn’t surrounded in shame. I pay for porn made by women and Id like to say I only participate in online porn that is ethical, consensual, and creator-owned. I think it’s powerful that we can explore our sexuality without guilt and shame.

just to add your comment regarding the idea that “porn hadnt yet morphed into the misogynistic incel fueled anti-feminist laced fuck fest it is today”

To say porn today is just a misogynistic, incel-fueled, anti-feminist mess kind of ignores the massive rise in ethical, female-led, queer-inclusive, and kink-positive porn that exists now and is often created by women for women.

(Like the porn I mentioned earlier)

Sites like Bellesa, Afterglow and Erika Lust, didn’t even exist when older porn was still dominated by male producers and tired, unrealistic tropes.
If anything, I think this generation is more thoughtful about consent and boundaries than ever before. We’re not just mimicking what we see, we’re choosing what works for us.

The internet also didn’t kill feminist porn it actually gave it the room to thrive. Gave women ( like me ) who do content creation the chance to take back a part of us that was taken away by misogynistic values in your decades where being a sex worker was frowned upon. And while there’s definitely extreme, problematic content out there (always has been), it’s not the whole story.

 

[LittleGreene]

I totally get that you’re coming from a different generational lens, and you’re older than me, but I don’t agree that things like choking are automatically linked to misogyny or some incel-fueled, anti-feminist culture. I’m a 1999 baby, (I’m 26) and despite growing up with the internet, I didn’t start watching porn to get off until my early 20s. And I wasn’t exposed to BDSM dynamics until then either, it wasn’t some formative influence…

Also it’s a stretch to say choking is ‘mainstream’. Maybe in my circle of friends it is, since we’re all kinky little fuckers but I know that there are portably more people who don’t enjoy it.

When I started exploring things like choking, it was with someone I trusted, in a safe, communicative space. It wasn’t about violence or power over someone. it was about mutual intensity, trust, and connection.

Framing kinks like choking as inherently misogynistic kind of erases the agency of the women who actively enjoy and ask for it. That doesn’t sound very feminist to me.

It’s fine if it’s not your thing, of course, but kink isn’t new, and it isn’t automatically toxic just because more people are open about it now.

I’m so happy to be a part of a generation that isn’t surrounded in shame. I pay for porn made by women and Id like to say I only participate in online porn that is ethical, consensual, and creator-owned. I think it’s powerful that we can explore our sexuality without guilt and shame.

just to add your comment regarding the idea that “porn hadnt yet morphed into the misogynistic incel fueled anti-feminist laced fuck fest it is today”

To say porn today is just a misogynistic, incel-fueled, anti-feminist mess kind of ignores the massive rise in ethical, female-led, queer-inclusive, and kink-positive porn that exists now and is often created by women for women.

(Like the porn I mentioned earlier)

Sites like Bellesa, Afterglow and Erika Lust, didn’t even exist when older porn was still dominated by male producers and tired, unrealistic tropes.
If anything, I think this generation is more thoughtful about consent and boundaries than ever before. We’re not just mimicking what we see, we’re choosing what works for us.

The internet also didn’t kill feminist porn it actually gave it the room to thrive. Gave women ( like me ) who do content creation the chance to take back a part of us that was taken away by misogynistic values in your decades where being a sex worker was frowned upon. And while there’s definitely extreme, problematic content out there (always has been), it’s not the whole story.

To reduce modern sexual expression to some ‘fuck fest’ fueled by incels kinda erases the agency of creators and consumers who are intentionally choosing better.

Ethical porn a a bit of misnomer when even Erica Lusts sets have been accused or sexual coercion on sets in 2018 and 2019

I would also point out in many countries choking is illegal even with consent because of how dangerous it is to women.

https://safeline.org.uk/resources/i...35% of 16,without prior discussion or consent.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...-of-choking-during-sex?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

But I defer to many of your points.

 

[munch2much]

Whatever the rights and wrong of the sex industry or choking, can I say how great it is to discuss theses things and impressive wordsmithery being used.

 

[SpicyBean99]

Ethical porn a a bit of misnomer when even Erica Lusts sets have been accused or sexual coercion on sets in 2018 and 2019

I would also point out in many countries choking is illegal even with consent because of how dangerous it is to women.

https://safeline.org.uk/resources/information-for-adult-survivors/sexual-offences/choking-during-sex/#:~:text=The Rise of Choking in Sex&text=Studies show 35% of 16,without prior discussion or consent.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...-of-choking-during-sex?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

But I defer to many of your points.

Im only responding because I love love a good debate ( I hope you see it this way too, I often get attacked for my interest in conversing with people with differing opinions )

Thankyou for making me aware of Erika lust ( I wasn’t aware of that, it is indeed deeply concerning and must be taken seriously. But there are MANY ethical porn sites made by women for women. I just wanted that to be a clear point!

My second point, the article you attached reads less like a critique of unsafe sex and more like a personal reckoning from someone who felt pressured to be sexually adventurous, and now blames the entire BDSM and kink community for her own lack of agency at the time. That’s not entirely fair, or accurate.

There’s a huge difference between someone doing something to you without your consent (which is assault) and someone mutually engaging in a kink through trust, communication, and boundaries. What the writer experienced is deeply valid and worth talking about, but those are stories of men being selfish, careless, or violent. That’s not BDSM. That’s just bad sex and even worse partners.

What’s frustrating is how the entire article frames kink (specifically choking)….as something dangerous and inherently harmful, rather than exploring how people can do it safely and responsibly. (Which it 1000000% can be)

It completely erases the countless people who engage in kink from a place of autonomy, curiosity, and empowerment. I’ve had more intense, rough sex with women than men, and it was always discussed and consensual, so where do those dynamics fit into this overly simplified, fear-driven narrative?

There’s absolutely a need for better sex ed, porn literacy, and consent culture but demonising kink because some people explore it without care or understanding helps no one. If anything, it silences the voices of people doing it right.

I also think it’s fair to say if you’re vanilla and don’t enjoy rough sex or kink, say that. Say it loudly and with chest.

Make it clear.

That’s valid, and your boundaries deserve respect. But if someone ignores that and continues to push those things on you, the problem isn’t kink, (which that entire article basically states) it’s that they’re not a safe or decent person.

Every SINGLE experience I’ve had within the kink community has been rooted in honesty, communication, and care. Nothing is done without full, informed consent, nothing. And nothing is ever done to intentionally harm the other person. Again, thats not kink, that’s abuse, and we (the REAL BDSM KINKY COMMUNITY) don’t stand for that.

* one more cheeky little point*

it’s technically illegal in some UK councils to sing profane lyrics in public, or to handle salmon suspiciously under the Salmon Act of 1986. (No seriously) also illegal to be a marijuana smoker ( oops )

Hell, it was illegal to be gay in the UK not that long ago. The fact that something is illegal doesn’t always mean it’s wrong, it often just means it hasn’t been properly understood or accepted yet. Breathplay and choking carry risks, sure, but those risks can be managed in the same way people manage skydiving, boxing, or even alcohol consumption. Education and consent should come before criminalisation, especially when it involves consensual adult activity.

 

[ImpishSeraph]

What's strange to me is pretty normal for others while requests that I have made seem normal to me but have freaked others out. Therefore, I find this question hard to answer.

 

[Wonderer67]

What’s the strangest request you’ve had in the bedroom?​

I had a gf in the 90s who had a food thing. She was not fat, but had a little “chunk” we used to call it. Something nice and fun to grab on to, and she did enjoy her deserts.

I don’t know if it was a fetish or not, but one time she asked me to feed her a brownie when we had sex. It was fun.

We tried a few other things that required some more skill and coordination (which is tricky when you’re fucking.) one time she had me feed her cake with a fork… very tricky and it didn’t really work.

But the most memorable one was ice cream. We got a point of Ben and Jerry’s and started making love. As we were going at it, I was spooning melting ice cream into her mouth. It too was a bit messy - but fun and interesting.

Missionary was really the only position you could do this in.

Oddly enough, she was not into the taste of my cum. (But she did give good head)

 

[Wonderer67]

What's strange to me is pretty normal for others while requests that I have made seem normal to me but have freaked others out. Therefore, I find this question hard to answer.

It’s all subjective, but I’d love to hear some of the interpretations of normal and starange!