Well... this is new; and I don't know how to fix it!

[JohnGalt2009]

I do not even know how to approach this.

I've been on a sexual dry spell for... oh... at least a year. My wife simply has no interest in sex. So when I did actually get laid last week, for the first time in over a year; I nearly came from a little manual stimulation. And when we did actually get to the main event, I lost my load so very quickly!

WHAT
THE
HELL????

I've never had to deal with premature ejaculation, but I guess I'm there now.

If you've had to deal with this, how did you get past it?

Obviously, there is something mental going on over the frustration of almost zero sensual life. Outside of that, we have a great relationship.

Could it be some hang up because I felt you was doing me a favor in having a romp? Is it pent up frustration?

This has carried over to masturbation as well.

Any guidance would really be appreciated.

 

[lovecraft68]

Well first off this is not premature ejaculation. What this is, is no sex for a goddamn year then getting sex.

I don't care how often you have masturbated during your dry spell, but it is nothing like the touch of a woman.

You have had no sex, she now wants some, its the first time she has touched you in a very long time and your body is excited.

If the two of you began having sex regularly again you would see your stamina come back.

Now on the other side of things its not good to have no sex that long. I applaud you for not stepping out, but if there is no sexual relationship you guys need to speak with someone.

Either that or start thinking about whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life like this.

 

[pfflyerhot]

... Now on the other side of things its not good to have no sex that long...

Tell me about it. Two years, here.

 

[bone251]

 

[Shankara20]

I've never had to deal with premature ejaculation, but I guess I'm there now.

Been There.
Done That.

I would call that premature ejaculation. It might pass in time. It might get worse.

Mine became chronic and became a real problem between my wife-at-the-time and myself.

Eventually I found help developing skills using tantra ejaculation control techniques. Talking to a sex therapist also helped me sort out the whole damn thing.

Years later now it is no longer a problem and the techniques helped me become a better lover - for both my partner and myself.

This happens to many men. Most are ashamed to seek advice. Good for you for asking. Hope you find the support you are looking for.

I started a thread over the the BDSM area called something like "Mine Doesn't Always Work", or something like that, to discuss cocks with a mind of their own. I'll try to find it and post a link.