Well, shit.

[LadyJeanne]

Smile as you walk through the wreckage and smoke. It confuses the bastards and we're here for you on the other side.



Or wallow. We'll still be here for you.

 

[matriarch]

Interesting, fascinating, occasionally enfuriating....and I love 'em all.

Indeed.

 

[English Lady]

*hugs* Min, My mum went through the same thing with theutility bills and it drained her to, it's not very comforting i guess, butit is just part of the process and the process does get easier as you go along, you've just got to go with the flow love, and know we're all around here for ya!

 

[ChilledVodkaIV]

Act III Scene VI (heath before Wake's castle)

Enter Quilt and Jul.

Jul: I cannot look upon this as well met.

Quilt: Aye, but met nevertheless willing or no.

Jul: They are five of my countrymen you say, of great reknown?

Quilt: Aye countrymen and greater reknown than the Prince himself met early or late but always with due appointment.

Jul: (smiling ruefully) 'Twould be a strange thing to meet such without appointment to be covered only with red and white.

Quilt: Red and white are for the quick met, the Prince cares not for rude covering.

Jul: Yet covered withal with magnanimous oath and foresworn fealty. (Jul sighs)

Quilt: And the very reason why these fellows are well met.

Jul: Then give me your wise counsel Quilt and I shall follow.

Quilt: My only counsel is that they be entertained only singly and without struggle.

Jul: For all my days?

Quilt: Until you bade them farewell. Soft! They approach.

[Enter the griefs]

 

[minsue]

CVIV, I find that oddly comforting and I have no idea why. Then again, I'm also so sleepy I'm punch drunk.

 

[Liar]

CVIV, I find that oddly comforting and I have no idea why. Then again, I'm also so sleepy I'm punch drunk.

So go have a nap then. You just might be able to attack things when you don't have to battle your eyelids at the same time.

 

[impressive]

The fact that you don't feel all the things you think you should feel just emphasizes the rightness of the action.

{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}

 

[rgraham666]

*HUGS* for the goose.

Don't worry about the 'shoulds'. Feel whatever the fuck you want.

 

[Black Tulip]

All the wise things have already been said.

Just some more hugs, those are never too much.



Oh, what the heck: it's your life and your heart, so you are the only person to know what you can feel and what not. Merely learn from your emotions. If you listen to them they will tell you what's right or wrong, for you.

 

[Guest]

Chica boom boom

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

*HUSG* Dear min.

Just know we all love you.

 

[Guest]

 

[SeaCat]

Min,

I can't really add to what has been said above, just that I too am here.

Cat

 

[Guest]

{{{Minsue}}}

 

[maggot420]

very strange...i thought you were my wife for a second there...ex-wife i mean. same thing just happened to me after 15 years.
all i can offer is the knowledge that there is someone out there going throught the same thing at almost the same time...and my complete and total support

cheers

 

[Kassiana]

There's no "supposed to." You feel how you feel when you feel it. It's perfectly fine to have different reactions than your friends, or relatives, or society in general tell you that you should have.

Good luck.

 

[Dar~]

only you can determine what is right or wrong for you to feel. however you feel, it is justified by your personality and you perspective. many HUGS and lots of I hope you feel better.

I am here (though there are many who know you better. If you ever need to talk to a stranger tho . . .)

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Big transitions always leave me feeling numb. I just chalk it up to some autonomic reaction within you that helps you through the change. You'll shift through all emotions appropriate to your situation sooner or later whenever you're ready to make heads or tails of them. You're stronger than you realize, and not at all alone.

~lucky

 

[McKenna]

Sometimes feeling "numb" is the only way to make it through life-altering events. Later, when life quiets down into a relatively familiar pattern, you can take the grief out of hiding and give it a good polish.



Thinking of you.

 

[minsue]

to all.

I'll be ok and so will he.

 

[rikaaim]

Gosling,

I'm going through the same thing right now. I don't think it's a surprise. I feel the same way you do. Everyone is right. Many people are feeling this way and going through this same thing every day. Thankfully we have friends who can help us through these difficult times. I often wonder myself what I "should" be feeling. Some days I wake up happy that these last few days she is still next to me. I cherish those days and want to hold her close and make up for all the dumb assed shit I did. Those days are hard because she can't take them. I want to assure her that I love her, and always will, but I don't think we can ever live a "happily ever after" life. To be honest, marriage is hard work. It's not Hollywood "happily every after". There's shit in the toilet that has to be cleaned. There's bugs that sometimes sneak into the house that have to be killed. There's plenty of dirty dishes that have to be washed and trash that has to be cleaned up. Hollywood never shows any of that. It's teamwork. Love is great, but love is the easy part. It takes two very compatible souls who are willing to work through anything thick or thin to really make it. Love happens. Love's very nature comes to us unexpectedly. Sometimes I think love is a pompous bastard who allows us mortal fools to fall into its comforting grace knowing that the two it's brought together will end up killing each other giving enough time. Love comes and goes. Througout all aspects of life. Some days I wake up and want her gone. I want to move on and live "my" life. Then I realize that my life was always with her and should always be with her. But I can not keep her. I can not control her. I can however sit here in my subtle hurt and know that I am doing the right thing by giving her what she wants. I don't hurt now. I will when it's final. I know this. Now I am too happy in her presence, but at the same time agrivated because I know what's coming and there's not a damn thing I can do to prepare for it, no matter how much I try. I've been dealing with the budget with just my income. I know how hard that change is. I'm doing it now. You are not alone Min. I know what I feel right now is what I "should" feel. It's what I should feel becuase I'm not denying any emotion right now. I'm simply living. It's hard to do, but for the first time in my life I am. I feel angry some days, some minutes even. I'll go from angry, to regret, to love, to sympathy, to "get the Hell out" in mere minutes. It is a roller coaster, but remember to enjoy the ride. Emotions are tough, but they are needed to learn and grow. I think that by embracing them, we can control them better than hiding from them. If you must be "numb" then you must be. It's not wrong by any means. Your body does what you need it to do. Nothing more, nothing less. Trust in yourself Min. You'll be fine. I saw where you said you were the reason. I am in my case, but remember, there is still love. There are still friends. There is still forgivness, and above all...it's in the past. Let it go for yourself. Learn, but move on. Live for the now, and plan for the future. That's all any of us can really do. We all fuck up and make mistakes. Face it, learn, and move on. It's much easier said than done, I know. I'm still learning the same lesson, but I am getting better, I know you can too. There is much love and support here, from all of us. Take care dearest goosey. Much love and peace to you in your transition. That's all life is, remember that. There is not honest right path. Do what's right in your heart and in your head, and just enjoy the journey as best as you can. At the end of the day, be proud of your actions, or change what you are not proud of, and remember that dreams come, and go, but the journey is what we really live for. In ten years I doubt you'll remember me, but that's not the point. The point is that you knew me when you needed to, and you'll remember me as long as you'll need to, but then you'll move on. Thus is the nature of life, in my humble opinion. You will find peace and happiness, when the time comes. It's nature. Just wait out the storm and the sun will shine again. In the meantime, we're all here to play those indoor games on these rainy days. Much love to you Minsue. Take care and much peace.

 

[Honey123]

Min...I had no idea.

{{hugs}} and es

If there is anything I can do, please let me know.

 

[haldir]

Bin doin it for the same for 16 months.

this hick Jock's here for you too

 

[matriarch]

Bin doin it for the same for 16 months.

this hick Jock's here for you too

Ditto, only I ain't no hick Jock.