Well, shit.

[minsue]

It's official. After spending the last three days setting up his new furniture and moving all his clothes, he just walked out the door with a pillow and alarm clock. Apparently they're only things he didn't decide to just replace.

As I commented in the mood thread earlier today as I watched him load up the car, I feel oddly numb. Sure, I knew it was coming. Hell, I'm the cause. And it's been months of limbo trying to sort out finances and such with more to come. All the damned utilities are still in his name even though the house is in mine. All the little things that you never think of ahead of time. Sure, the gas company is easy, but apparently the city needs official papers to change the name for the water service. Kicking myself for not thinking in the first place about whether or not my name was on any of this shit.

After six years of marraige, thousands of shared moments and memories, shouldn't I feel more at this moment beyond irritation that I have to justify his leaving to the phone company?

 

[Guest]

 

[The_Fool]

You will. You do. With a crash on some days. With relief on others. With anger on many days. With sadness on more than a few. The day will seem to pick itself sometimes. The only thing you can do is just wear out the emotion.

Just remember you are not alone.

 

[sophia jane]

Sending you hugs. Been there. Still doing that.

Enjoy your new life.

SJ

 

[tolyk]

Min... the irritation fades, anger replaces, head it off at the pass and just go to anger now

*HUGS*

 

[minsue]

Thanks to all.

Any anger I feel, Foooool & Tol, is at myself. He's been amazingly supportive and kind throughout it all.

Maybe it's the heat that's sucking all emotion. It's after 8 at night and still over 100 degrees according to my little system tray icon. It's not supposed to do this in May and I'm getting really whiny about it.

Edit to change both to all and add Tol to Fooool...a story in the making

 

[cloudy]

I've been there too, Min, and don't worry about "shoulds" right now, okay?

 

[Celtic Princess]

When my marriage was over, and it came to actually leaving our residence, I was numb. I had shut off most emotion months earlier. The leaving part was anticlimactic for me.


Give it time, you'll ride the whole roller coaster of emotions. Later. And don't worry about what you "should" or "shouldn't" be feeling. I did that for a while and drove myself nuts.


Good luck to you.

 

[tolyk]

Thanks to all.

Any anger I feel, Foooool & Tol, is at myself. He's been amazingly supportive and kind throughout it all.

Maybe it's the heat that's sucking all emotion. It's after 8 at night and still over 100 degrees according to my little system tray icon. It's not supposed to do this in May and I'm getting really whiny about it.

Edit to change both to all and add Tol to Fooool...a story in the making

Well, sometimes that makes the anger worse.. it's a self-defense mechanism. When they're being supportive and kind, it hurts.. in it's own way..

I'm too tired to make sense.. *HUGS* Don't be angry at yourself, it doesnt' really help.. As a fridge magnet of mine says "Smile, and the world smiles back. Bitch, and the world falls in line." I like that magnet

 

[Samandiriel]

I'll be here when you sober up.

 

[minsue]

I'll be here when you sober up.

Now that's love. I bet you'd be there to bail me out, too.

 

[Belegon]

Now that's love. I bet you'd be there to bail me out, too.

I hope you mean bail us out...

 

[Samandiriel]

Now that's love. I bet you'd be there to bail me out, too.

Bail you out??? Hell no, I'm gonna break you out and then we Thelma and Louise it outta there.

 

[Shadowskill Knight]

*hugs* we're here for you

 

[minsue]

I hope you mean bail us out...

It depends. Do they jail you for mocking Shakespeare?

 

[minsue]

Bail you out??? Hell no, I'm gonna break you out and then we Thelma and Louise it outta there.

That's the bitch I know and love.

 

[minsue]

*hugs* we're here for you

 

[Belegon]

It depends. Do they jail you for mocking Shakespeare?

not on this side of the border...

actually, we can get away with it on either side. But if we hit TJ, just remember; do not mention the World Cup in Korea for any reason...

 

[Samandiriel]

That's the bitch I know and love.

Where?

 

[minsue]

not on this side of the border...

actually, we can get away with it on either side. But if we hit TJ, just remember; do not mention the World Cup in Korea for any reason...

Yeah, coz that often comes up in my conversations.



Sam, sweets, she's hiding behind a bunch of kohl.

 

[Samandiriel]

Yeah, coz that often comes up in my conversations.



Sam, sweets, she's hiding behind a bunch of kohl.

Oh....her. She's pretty cool. but then again I always loved Cher.

 

[AppleBiter]

It's official. After spending the last three days setting up his new furniture and moving all his clothes, he just walked out the door with a pillow and alarm clock. Apparently they're only things he didn't decide to just replace.

As I commented in the mood thread earlier today as I watched him load up the car, I feel oddly numb. Sure, I knew it was coming. Hell, I'm the cause. And it's been months of limbo trying to sort out finances and such with more to come. All the damned utilities are still in his name even though the house is in mine. All the little things that you never think of ahead of time. Sure, the gas company is easy, but apparently the city needs official papers to change the name for the water service. Kicking myself for not thinking in the first place about whether or not my name was on any of this shit.

After six years of marraige, thousands of shared moments and memories, shouldn't I feel more at this moment beyond irritation that I have to justify his leaving to the phone company?

I never know what to say to people when the shit hits the fan . . . just know that I'm thinking of you.

 

[minsue]

I never know what to say to people when the shit hits the fan . . .

Duck?

. . . just know that I'm thinking of you.

Thanks, hun. I'll be ok. Just a bit at loose ends, I think.

 

[Gekken]

I've only been here a couple of days, but....

I noticed that there is a real support group here made up of like-minded people. To contrast, when my long-term (8 years) girlfriend gave me a call one day and said that she no longer loves me and is fucking other men, my buddies said
"Shit, lets get you a hooker."
support-ish, but not what was needed. (Or was it?) I digress.

I think I stumbled onto an interesting group o'people.

My siggy says it all

 

[minsue]

Interesting, fascinating, occasionally enfuriating....and I love 'em all.