Well, I know this isn't technically the weekend, but I do feel I need to share or burst!
My partner suggested we go to Catalina Island for a couple of days to celebrate our birthdays. (Mine is the 11th, his is the 14th) We left Wednesday and returned today. Well, my 'nilla guy sure surprised the hell out of me - in a very good way! I had brought a lot of my toys over to the island with us, and the first night we were there, I brought them out. He was a little surprised - said he suspected I was a bit kinky, but didn't realize how much so.
I started off with a talk and asked him if he would be bothered with idea of knowing he might be hurting me. He said it would bother him, so I told him that if I said the word "yellow" it meant that I was uncomfortable with something physically and would need either shift position or do something to make me more comfortable. I told him if I said the word "red" he needed to stop whatever he was doing immediately as it would be going beyond what I could handle. As long as he didn't hear either of those words, all was well.
I showed him the floggers and the slappers, and showed him how they could be used. I let him feel (slightly) the difference between the sting of a suede flogger as opposed to the rubber flogger. Then I let him feel the sting of the slapper - again, slightly.
He was hesitant about where to begin, but decided against blindfolding me or restraining me. (I'd only brought the wrist restraints.) He started off with his hands, using a wonderful mix of soft and hard! He then took a turn at the suede flogger and followed that with the rubber flogger. By the time he got to the slapper, I had to fight going into sub space! And when he moved around to my head and grabbed my hair, pulling my head up to suck his cock while he used the slapper on my ass, I just went over the edge!
He stopped more quickly than I would have liked, but we had a long talk afterwards about what he was feeling. He said he enjoyed and liked the idea of experiementing. But he did have some conflicts with the idea that he was doing things to a woman that society and culture have told he must never do. He said he had to reconcile these in his own head and come to terms with them. I told him that just about every Dominant had the same feelings and what he was feeling was not unusual or odd, and that I understood.
The next night I made certain that all was soft and romantic - the complete opposite of what we did the night before. I made certain to let him know that both were enjoyable to me and fulfilled me.
But I have to admit: I was rather proud of the welt he managed to produce on my ass. And I think he was just as proud!
I know this post seems very selfish, and I ask those here to forgive that selfishness. This was just such a time of intimacy and sharing for me, and I am so delighted to find out that he is at least open to exploring those things that I enjoy to find out if he enjoys them as well!
But I do hope that all here have a fantastic weekend! Des - you lucky gal! I'm glad you all had a great time! And Eb, my apologies for a late HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you truly have a wonderful time celebrating it this weekend!
My partner suggested we go to Catalina Island for a couple of days to celebrate our birthdays. (Mine is the 11th, his is the 14th) We left Wednesday and returned today. Well, my 'nilla guy sure surprised the hell out of me - in a very good way! I had brought a lot of my toys over to the island with us, and the first night we were there, I brought them out. He was a little surprised - said he suspected I was a bit kinky, but didn't realize how much so.
I started off with a talk and asked him if he would be bothered with idea of knowing he might be hurting me. He said it would bother him, so I told him that if I said the word "yellow" it meant that I was uncomfortable with something physically and would need either shift position or do something to make me more comfortable. I told him if I said the word "red" he needed to stop whatever he was doing immediately as it would be going beyond what I could handle. As long as he didn't hear either of those words, all was well.
I showed him the floggers and the slappers, and showed him how they could be used. I let him feel (slightly) the difference between the sting of a suede flogger as opposed to the rubber flogger. Then I let him feel the sting of the slapper - again, slightly.
He was hesitant about where to begin, but decided against blindfolding me or restraining me. (I'd only brought the wrist restraints.) He started off with his hands, using a wonderful mix of soft and hard! He then took a turn at the suede flogger and followed that with the rubber flogger. By the time he got to the slapper, I had to fight going into sub space! And when he moved around to my head and grabbed my hair, pulling my head up to suck his cock while he used the slapper on my ass, I just went over the edge!
He stopped more quickly than I would have liked, but we had a long talk afterwards about what he was feeling. He said he enjoyed and liked the idea of experiementing. But he did have some conflicts with the idea that he was doing things to a woman that society and culture have told he must never do. He said he had to reconcile these in his own head and come to terms with them. I told him that just about every Dominant had the same feelings and what he was feeling was not unusual or odd, and that I understood.
The next night I made certain that all was soft and romantic - the complete opposite of what we did the night before. I made certain to let him know that both were enjoyable to me and fulfilled me.
But I have to admit: I was rather proud of the welt he managed to produce on my ass. And I think he was just as proud!
I know this post seems very selfish, and I ask those here to forgive that selfishness. This was just such a time of intimacy and sharing for me, and I am so delighted to find out that he is at least open to exploring those things that I enjoy to find out if he enjoys them as well!
But I do hope that all here have a fantastic weekend! Des - you lucky gal! I'm glad you all had a great time! And Eb, my apologies for a late HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you truly have a wonderful time celebrating it this weekend!
Wow, sounds like you are going to be busy! Have a great weekend!
