We are going visa versa

[T.H. Oughts]

I've been chatting online with a guy for two weeks now and we had lunch yesterday. We have hit it off really well, it is like our souls are connected already. We are both bisexual. One of the things that attracts us to each other is a different kind of kink we both have. But they go hand in glove together. I have always wanted too be with a man who would dress in panties, stockings and lingerie and let me have him with a strapon. He has always wanted to find a woman who would take him like a man and treat him like a woman. Soooooo we are both totally WOWed when we realised how our kinks go hand in glove. Plus our personalities work well together also.

So our kinks will be played out in private. But in public we would like to treat each other as the opposite sex as much as possible. Myself playing male and himself playing female. In public we would dress as our own sex. My question is how can I act male besides playing a more dominant role ? I have a few ideas... opening doors for him.... buying flowers and chocolates and jewellery. But what else can I do too 'do' the male thing????

 

[Little Bird]

Phew... Tough question...

For myself I try to act as neither male or female. It's just that I see no need, that men and women should act and be treated different.

Everything that comes to my mind thinking of "acting male" is being rude and careless...
...leaving behind a line of destruction...

The only thing I could think of is to tell him, that he has to lay his haed on your shoulder looks up to you with loving eyes and asks you to get it for him, if he wants something...
In fact I think, he should ask you every time to buy it for you, if he wants to have it. Every man in a relationship can tell you thats the way things go...

 

[robbie_boy1]

I've been chatting online with a guy for two weeks now and we had lunch yesterday. We have hit it off really well, it is like our souls are connected already. We are both bisexual. One of the things that attracts us to each other is a different kind of kink we both have. But they go hand in glove together. I have always wanted too be with a man who would dress in panties, stockings and lingerie and let me have him with a strapon. He has always wanted to find a woman who would take him like a man and treat him like a woman. Soooooo we are both totally WOWed when we realised how our kinks go hand in glove. Plus our personalities work well together also.

So our kinks will be played out in private. But in public we would like to treat each other as the opposite sex as much as possible. Myself playing male and himself playing female. In public we would dress as our own sex. My question is how can I act male besides playing a more dominant role ? I have a few ideas... opening doors for him.... buying flowers and chocolates and jewellery. But what else can I do too 'do' the male thing????

i believe Your question is more D/s than it is male or female. my Ms just does all the things that men do in regular life. She drives, I rid *shot gun*, she orders dinner when we are out. I do laundry, and cook, she comes to the table when it is ready.
in bed, she starts sexual trists, i follow her lead.

i am not sure it it is really a big deal it is more of a choice, she likes to use and i like to be used.........*all red in the face*...i am such a slut......lmao

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[T.H. Oughts]

Thanks for the replies.... reading through what I wrote it made it sound rather stark.... I know I like to lead and he likes to follow... so I think it's all going to happen naturally when we are together...

 

[madmanmike]

But what else can I do too 'do' the male thing????

sit down. watch tv. put your hand in your pants ala al bundy. ask him whats for dinner. ask how his day was then just mentally mute him. if you cum first role over and go to sleep. and if you get any complaints tell him to stop being so damn emotional. and if that doesnt work just some light spousal abuse. nothing that would leave bruising. the cops can use that against you.


hope that helps.

 

[madmanmike]

btw

that was a joke post. laughed the entire time. and dont tell me it isnt funny. if rape can be funny so can spousal abuse and dumb male/female behavior.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

sit down. watch tv. put your hand in your pants ala al bundy. ask him whats for dinner. ask how his day was then just mentally mute him. if you cum first role over and go to sleep. and if you get any complaints tell him to stop being so damn emotional. and if that doesnt work just some light spousal abuse. nothing that would leave bruising. the cops can use that against you.


hope that helps.

lol, yep all that had crossed my mind. It's all the sports I'd have to watch that would drive me crazy about that. Though I could hang out for the half time Hooters jumping about.

 

[SweetErika]

btw

that was a joke post. laughed the entire time. and dont tell me it isnt funny. if rape can be funny so can spousal abuse and dumb male/female behavior.

Perhaps if it was never "funny" and we didn't joke about it, there would be a lot less rape and spousal abuse.

 

[madmanmike]

Perhaps if it was never "funny" and we didn't joke about it, there would be a lot less rape and spousal abuse.

oh shut the fuck up and make my dinner.


lossen up. if you cant joke about it you cant talk about it. like women voting. there is nothing wrong with rape and spousal abuse from a comedy standpoint. hell if it wasnt for spousal abuse cops wouldnt be half as entertaining. they are both natural parts or animal behavior which we are part of. when was the last time you saw a horse buy the mare dinner first? spousal abuse is fine as long as no onje gets hurt. besides without it we wouldnt have lesbians.


i can picture it now. in acient times a bunch of women were sitting around a loom chit chatting and martha sits down with a patch of hair missing and a busted lip.

mary - martha what happened?!?!?
martha - you know steve likes banging my head against the wall during sex. its the only way he gets off. but what else am i gonna do? not like i have an alternative.
karen - too bad you couldnt be maried to a woman
every laughs
later the first all female loom orgy occurs.


see. sposal abuse has its lighter side.

 

[SweetErika]

oh shut the fuck up and make my dinner.


lossen up. if you cant joke about it you cant talk about it. like women voting. there is nothing wrong with rape and spousal abuse from a comedy standpoint. hell if it wasnt for spousal abuse cops wouldnt be half as entertaining. they are both natural parts or animal behavior which we are part of. when was the last time you saw a horse buy the mare dinner first? spousal abuse is fine as long as no onje gets hurt. besides without it we wouldnt have lesbians.


i can picture it now. in acient times a bunch of women were sitting around a loom chit chatting and martha sits down with a patch of hair missing and a busted lip.

mary - martha what happened?!?!?
martha - you know steve likes banging my head against the wall during sex. its the only way he gets off. but what else am i gonna do? not like i have an alternative.
karen - too bad you couldnt be maried to a woman
every laughs
later the first all female loom orgy occurs.


see. sposal abuse has its lighter side.

Sorry for the hijack, TH.

Mike, I don't believe you need to joke in order to talk about it. My point isn't that there shouldn't be comedy, it's that we shouldn't make light of these issues at all because it tends to devalue and increase our tolerance for the real, extremely damaging events. It sends a message that it's not that big of a deal. A lot of offenses aren't reported for that reason. If nothing else, we should think about how much it hurts a survivor to hear a joke about something so painful and not funny to them.

I've been thinking about it, and I really can't come up with a single instance in which rape would be funny. Dumb male/female behavior is certainly funny most of the time, but not rape or abuse.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Sorry for the hijack, TH.
I've been thinking about it, and I really can't come up with a single instance in which rape would be funny. Dumb male/female behavior is certainly funny most of the time, but not rape or abuse.

I agree with you. There is a difference between lame male chauvinists and brutal force.

Only some sensual spanking is allowd.

 

[madmanmike]

I've been thinking about it, and I really can't come up with a single instance in which rape would be funny. Dumb male/female behavior is certainly funny most of the time, but not rape or abuse.

sure there is. imagine elmer fudd raping porky pig. why do you think they called him porky. besides porky never wears pants. porky was asking for it. or a pedophile who was incorrectly convicted for some shit and gets 20 years now gets ass raped by a man name logg for 20 years. anything can be funny.

Mike, I don't believe you need to joke in order to talk about it. My point isn't that there shouldn't be comedy, it's that we shouldn't make light of these issues at all because it tends to devalue and increase our tolerance for the real, extremely damaging events. It sends a message that it's not that big of a deal. A lot of offenses aren't reported for that reason. If nothing else, we should think about how much it hurts a survivor to hear a joke about something so painful and not funny to them.

how about the women who you see on tv who dont report it for years are legally retarded. girls on maury povich get their ass kicked for 10 years. and asked why they didnt tell they all say the same thing. "but maury i love him" i dont care how much your love is. change your name to lorena and do what is right. if you are top stupid to report it you bring it upon yourself and maybe just deserve an ass whooping to wake up. if you have a black eye and tell the cops your husband did it when in reality you ran into a bookshelf the police will belive the woman EVERY FUCKING TIME. i dont care if your husband is christopher reeves the police will arrest his ass. so fuck them for being to stupid to report their shitbag husbands.

 

[SweetErika]

I agree with you. There is a difference between lame male chauvinists and brutal force.

Only some sensual spanking is allowd.

True. Sensual spanking is good....very good.

 

[SweetErika]

sure there is. imagine elmer fudd raping porky pig. why do you think they called him porky. besides porky never wears pants. porky was asking for it. or a pedophile who was incorrectly convicted for some shit and gets 20 years now gets ass raped by a man name logg for 20 years. anything can be funny.

how about the women who you see on tv who dont report it for years are legally retarded. girls on maury povich get their ass kicked for 10 years. and asked why they didnt tell they all say the same thing. "but maury i love him" i dont care how much your love is. change your name to lorena and do what is right. if you are top stupid to report it you bring it upon yourself and maybe just deserve an ass whooping to wake up. if you have a black eye and tell the cops your husband did it when in reality you ran into a bookshelf the police will belive the woman EVERY FUCKING TIME. i dont care if your husband is christopher reeves the police will arrest his ass. so fuck them for being to stupid to report their shitbag husbands.

So much is wrong with that, I don't know where to begin. This thread is the wrong place for this discussion anyway, but if you want to create a thread with your assertions, I'll be happy to respond.

 

[John Doe]

Sorry for the hijack, TH.

Mike, I don't believe you need to joke in order to talk about it. My point isn't that there shouldn't be comedy, it's that we shouldn't make light of these issues at all because it tends to devalue and increase our tolerance for the real, extremely damaging events. It sends a message that it's not that big of a deal. A lot of offenses aren't reported for that reason. If nothing else, we should think about how much it hurts a survivor to hear a joke about something so painful and not funny to them.

I've been thinking about it, and I really can't come up with a single instance in which rape would be funny. Dumb male/female behavior is certainly funny most of the time, but not rape or abuse.

That's silly. By that logic you would deny a coping mechanism to victims of rape and spousal abuse. Believe it or not, humor is how some people deal with the pain. After all, a wise man once said that we luagh when it hurts too much to cry.

 

[SweetErika]

That's silly. By that logic you would deny a coping mechanism to victims of rape and spousal abuse. Believe it or not, humor is how some people deal with the pain. After all, a wise man once said that we luagh when it hurts too much to cry.

No, I'm simply asserting it's not imperative for most people to joke about it in order to discuss it. I agree it can be a coping mechanism for some victims, but that doesn't mean it's funny or anyone else should make light of it.

 

[madmanmike]

No, I'm simply asserting it's not imperative for most people to joke about it in order to discuss it. I agree it can be a coping mechanism for some victims, but that doesn't mean it's funny or anyone else should make light of it.

so its ok for jay leno to make jokes about iraq and how ourt missles paid for by tax dollars hit the mosque or hospital or other building instead of a target but i cant joke about a rape. fuck that. i think rape can be funny. anything can be funny. so laugh it up.

its ok for chris rock to talk about the colombine school shooting but i cant find humor in spousal abuse. bullshit. spousal abuse goes both ways. a man slaps a woman and she fucks him over finacially. and btw if she fucks his friend i think he should get a free shot in. he should be able to beat the shit out of his former friend too. aint nothing innocent in this world. aint nothing sacred. you dont think its funny or that i shgouldnt be able to joke about go to china and let them tell you what you can say. i am an american and im gonna say what ever the fuck i want.

 

[mercy's_grace]

Now that's really funny.