Ways to leave more bruising/marking without more pain?

[Startingtothrive77]

Hello there! I am a newbie to this site and was hoping you all might be able to help me out. My Sir and I are fairly new to the lifestyle and are still testing and trying things and enjoying ourselves with the process. My question is...are there any implements that are really good for marking without causing extreme pain? TIA!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

In a strange world in which this user is already a "guest," but happened to start a good topic for discussion, I'll just move this to Talk and see what happens.

To answer the OP, I am not into much pain, but I sure do love the souvenir marks. His mouth on my breasts tends to leave nice bruises without much pain for me. Hopefully others chime in regarding implements. I greatly prefer my PYL's mouth and hands over any implements.

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

As with any rough type of play, there are several things that warrant careful consideration.

Make sure to have ground rules for what is acceptable and what is not. Lacerations and nerve damage are not something you want, so the proper amount of force needs to be CLEARLY communicated between the two of you, regardless of how it is being delivered. Safe words/colors are also a crucial part of making sure this stays " pain " and doesn't venture into the realm of something else. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and accidentally do something, and your partner needs to respect and observe the trust you are placing in them by not getting carried away.

In the beginning, I'd urge you to start off simply with ( as ToPleaseHim suggested ) hands and teeth. These are something a person has complete control over and is intimately familiar with, so there is less margin for error and you can both find out what works. If you do end up using instruments, make sure to test them gradually so you can each respectively figure out what " too much " is.

One more time. Go slow and give/listen to feedback.

 

[MasterGrimoir]

Well love bites or hickys are a super example of bruising, involve no pain what-so-ever and are quite humiliating for most people too . Otherwise lasting marks are a sign of damage repair processes going on in the body, the body uses pain as a means of signalling damage to the brain, so marking is going to involve pain. You can make temporary marks, rope impressions on the skin, by using bondage to form tight body harnesses but this takes a degree of skill and practice to implement safely: if this appeals a proper corset might be the answer.