Watching my wife flirt when she’s drinking

[Mark_M718]

I’ve always noticed that my wife gets real flirty with other men when she’s drinking. Sometimes whit guys we know and more recently with new people we meet. She becoming very engaging then touching their arms and back. I have been checking her panties after those nights and noticed they are way more wet and stained than normal. What are your thoughts and ideas on how to test the waters further to see where she might take it?

 

[william1965]

I’ve always noticed that my wife gets real flirty with other men when she’s drinking. Sometimes whit guys we know and more recently with new people we meet. She becoming very engaging then touching their arms and back. I have been checking her panties after those nights and noticed they are way more wet and stained than normal. What are your thoughts and ideas on how to test the waters further to see where she might take it?

Sounds exciting. Would she chat with guys?

 

[Mark_M718]

Sounds exciting. Would she chat with guys?

What do you mean by “chat”?

 

[william1965]

What do you mean by “chat”?

Online first then meet?

 

[Mark_M718]

I don’t think so. We haven’t talked about what I am seeing but it turns me on. Wonder if she wants to fuck these guys or is just making herself feel good

 

[william1965]

I don’t think so. We haven’t talked about what I am seeing but it turns me on. Wonder if she wants to fuck these guys or is just making herself feel good

Maybe both.

 

[Britva415]

What are your thoughts and ideas on how to test the waters further to see where she might take it?

Talk to her about it.

She'll either deny everything, or, she'll be mortified that anyone thinks she's behaving this way, or, she'll say, yeah, I flirt, so what?

Only one of those reactions leaves any possibility of interest in taking it further. So even if you get that far, you still want to talk to her about it.

She'll either get real mad at you for suggesting such a thing, or she'll wonder if you are positioning yourself for some kind of a pass of your own, and get real mad about that, or she'll be willing to take you seriously and consider the possibility.

I'm not sure exactly what you want out of this, but every hurdle you overcome, if any, leads to an even more unlikely scenario.

 

[Mark_M718]

Talk to her about it.

She'll either deny everything, or, she'll be mortified that anyone thinks she's behaving this way, or, she'll say, yeah, I flirt, so what?

Only one of those reactions leaves any possibility of interest in taking it further. So even if you get that far, you still want to talk to her about it.

She'll either get real mad at you for suggesting such a thing, or she'll wonder if you are positioning yourself for some kind of a pass of your own, and get real mad about that, or she'll be willing to take you seriously and consider the possibility.

I'm not sure exactly what you want out of this, but every hurdle you overcome, if any, leads to an even more unlikely scenario.

Is this from a man or woman’s perspective? I’ll be honest it turns me on so I’m curious the driver behind it and want to see if it would go further if I stepped away for a bit

 

[KatieDoes]

Sometimes flirting is just fun flirting

Checking your wife’s panties instead of having a conversation with her is fucking creepy and gross.

 

[Mark_M718]

Sometimes flirting is just fun flirting

Checking your wife’s panties instead of having a conversation with her is fucking creepy and gross.

Haha appreciate the honest feedback. It’s a turn on so can’t help that

 

[KatieDoes]

Haha appreciate the honest feedback. It’s a turn on so can’t help that

You may not be able to help what turns you on, but you are in control of your creepy behavior.

 

[Nicefella]

You may not be able to help what turns you on, but you are in control of your creepy behavior.

I think that’s taking it too far. I thought it funny at first but now you’re just giving the guy a hard time.

It’s his wife. Let him do what he wants. He wasn’t asking for your approval.

I think it’s one thing to speak your mind but it’s another to berate the man. I thought this is safe space where people can share their thoughts without getting shamed for it.

 

[Mark_M718]

I think that’s taking it too far. I thought it funny at first but now you’re just giving the guy a hard time.

It’s his wife. Let him do what he wants. He wasn’t asking for your approval.

I think it’s one thing to speak your mind but it’s another to berate the man. I thought this is safe space where people can share their thoughts without getting shamed for it.

Appreciate it. Not shamed at all. My wife has teased me with her worn panties before so she’s into it…I just noticed a big difference when these nights occur

 

[KatieDoes]

I think that’s taking it too far. I thought it funny at first but now you’re just giving the guy a hard time.

It’s his wife. Let him do what he wants. He wasn’t asking for your approval.

I think it’s one thing to speak your mind but it’s another to berate the man. I thought this is safe space where people can share their thoughts without getting shamed for it.

Sure. If his wife is aware of it, and consents to it. But he doesn’t say that, does he?

 

[Nicefella]

Sure. If his wife is aware of it, and consents to it. But he doesn’t say that, does he?

He did say that she teased him with her worn panties in the past. I don’t have a dog in this fight.

 

[KatieDoes]

He did say that she teased him with her worn panties in the past. I don’t have a dog in this fight.

He did say that after. His initial posts did not imply or infer that his wife was aware that he was inspecting her panties instead of just asking her direct questions. If she knows and consents to it, rock on with your creepy little selves.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Be careful what you wish for.

 

[Saint_Ann]

I’ve always noticed that my wife gets real flirty with other men when she’s drinking. Sometimes whit guys we know and more recently with new people we meet. She becoming very engaging then touching their arms and back. I have been checking her panties after those nights and noticed they are way more wet and stained than normal. What are your thoughts and ideas on how to test the waters further to see where she might take it?

Just how often do you check her panties? That's a thing, ya know.

 

[easyoff]

If both of you want to take it further you need to talk.

 

[Mark_M718]

Just how often do you check her panties? That's a thing, ya know.

After a night that were out and she’s super touchy feely

 

[Saint_Ann]

After a night that were out and she’s super touchy feely

Why don't you just tell her you want to be cuckolded?

 

[kucked2x]

After a night that were out and she’s super touchy feely

Its a thing to put pieces together, and discover whats going on. Extremely exciting and maddening.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife is a natural flirt, and a couple of drinks makes her even more of a flirt. I enjoy her working men at a party or at a bar when we are in another city on vacation. We never let it lead to sex, but it can get interesting.

 

[MiaBabe23]

I think that’s taking it too far. I thought it funny at first but now you’re just giving the guy a hard time.

It’s his wife. Let him do what he wants. He wasn’t asking for your approval.

I think it’s one thing to speak your mind but it’s another to berate the man. I thought this is safe space where people can share their thoughts without getting shamed for it.

So… people are free to share their thoughts, but only if they agree with you and like your fantasy?
I agree with Katie, if I walked in to find a bf secretly sniffing my panties, it would feel odd. I would want to hear all about any fantasy he might have, but sniffing without chatting feels a bit like a strange version of checking my mobile…maybe just me.

 

[Nicefella]

So… people are free to share their thoughts, but only if they agree with you and like your fantasy?
I agree with Katie, if I walked in to find a bf secretly sniffing my panties, it would feel odd. I would want to hear all about any fantasy he might have, but sniffing without chatting feels a bit like a strange version of checking my mobile…maybe just me.

No. That wasn’t it. I felt that Katie was berating him not just disagreeing.

And you’re not HIS wife and your feelings do not supplant his wife’s feelings, especially since she supposedly gave him some indication that she was ok w it.

Checking panties vs checking mobile? I don’t even know how that’s similar.