Was over at another forum

[rgraham666]

And someone posted a link to this blog.

Don't quite know what to say about it, except that it made me very sad.

 

[cloudy]

And someone posted a link to this blog.

Don't quite know what to say about it, except that it made me very sad.

I have SO much I could add to that, but just in case.....I won't.

 

[bronzeage]

Yeah, All I can say is ouch.

 

[Tegan_Rourke]

Oh wow. This site is very interesting. It's sad, but I can't tear myself away from it. Thanks for the link!

 

[dr_mabeuse]

It's very sad. Very dscouraging. Very depressing.

I know it's got to be that way, because the blog is all nothing but distillation of anguish, disappointment, heartbreak, and rage, but at the same time, it kind of makes me want to just cut off my relationships from all women lest I be one of these men they write about and not know it.

Are men really such a critically important part of a wiman's happiness? Do women fill the same role in determining a man's happiness? Do men keep blogs like this and fume in silence until they just have to spill their anguish out onto the page?

I don't know. I guess it's all the bad without any of the good. I mean, there is some good, isn't there?

 

[cloudy]

It's very sad. Very dscouraging. Very depressing.

I know it's got to be that way, because the blog is all nothing but distillation of anguish, disappointment, heartbreak, and rage, but at the same time, it kind of makes me want to just cut off my relationships from all women lest I be one of these men they write about and not know it.

Are men really such a critically important part of a wiman's happiness? Do women fill the same role in determining a man's happiness? Do men keep blogs like this and fume in silence until they just have to spill their anguish out onto the page?

I don't know. I guess it's all the bad without any of the good. I mean, there is some good, isn't there?

Yes, indeed, there is....never fear.

I think that in a marriage, you invest so much of yourself in the relationship that when it goes bad, it doesn't just go bad, it goes HORRIBLE. I suppose that's why I've heard that in some ways divorce is actually harder on you than if your spouse had died. I'm not minimizing a loved one's death by any means, but - and this is the only way I know how to put this, and it may not make much sense - if your spouse dies, they're still "yours," but if you divorce, you have to adjust to the fact that 1) that person still exists, still lives and breathes (whether you want them to or not ), and 2) something so important to you has "died."

I could easily be one of those women that have posted there, no doubt about it. Probably the only thing that's stopped me from posting to something like that is that he may, one of these days (but I'm not holding my breath), learn how to actually turn a computer on, and *gasp* figure out how to navigate on the 'net....and what I said would become courtroom ammunition (yes, it's been at that point for a good while).

Some people give their all to a relationship, and there really is a fine line between love and hate, as I've realized.

 

[rgraham666]

I think that what gets me the most is how little effort it would take on the guy's part to make things a little better.

One thing I'm guilty of is letting a relationship coast. I start to take it for granted, figure it's good and it's always going to be around.

On the other hand, women don't always make it that easy. Speaking from my limited experience here, but there was no way I could have made my ex happy with me. She wasn't even happy with herself.

Shrugs. I survived and learned a lot, so I guess it turned out OK.

 

[Just-Legal]

There's some good stuff on there too. Some simple little things. *smiles*

And... If nothing else it makes me realise how damn lucky I am.

 

[shereads]

Slut! You said you loved us. We thought we had a commitment.

 

[ungenderless]

Confession #1070 is heartbreaking, but has a beautiful ending.

I seriously cannot believe this:

And then when I told him that I was going to divorce him, I will never forget the first words out of his mouth: "Who will do my laundry?"

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Do men keep blogs like this and fume in silence until they just have to spill their anguish out onto the page?

It's called "Loving Wives"... :x


This blog is just... ugh... the whole thing makes me cringe... the bitterness and venom being swallowed constantly is unbelievably toxic.... makes me so sad

 

[ungenderless]

Holy God..."the secret widows"...confession #1041...that's so scary it's actually disturbing.

 

[Guest]

 

[shereads]

It's not all sad.

Confession #1051

When you hugged me last night and told me you would take care of everything and not to worry, I fell more in love with you. I needed you to be my hero then. Thank you.

Okay, it's all sad. But it's not all sad for the same reason, and it's not all angry.



Dammit. Now I'm sad.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

It's very sad. Very dscouraging. Very depressing.

I know it's got to be that way, because the blog is all nothing but distillation of anguish, disappointment, heartbreak, and rage, but at the same time, it kind of makes me want to just cut off my relationships from all women lest I be one of these men they write about and not know it.

Are men really such a critically important part of a wiman's happiness? Do women fill the same role in determining a man's happiness? Do men keep blogs like this and fume in silence until they just have to spill their anguish out onto the page?

I don't know. I guess it's all the bad without any of the good. I mean, there is some good, isn't there?

I drank too much red wine last night and shouted at him for not looking after me - I've just dislocated my shoulder.

He got up at 5 this morning and drove me to a meeting 100 miles away before going to work. We barely spoke. A co-worker drove me home.

Yes, everyone fumes, but in the good relationships we talk to each other not blog to earn sympathy from a cyber audience.

He'll be back in two hours and I'll apologize from the bottom of my heart.

No, Dr M, the problem is not gender related - it's more to do with commitment.

 

[shereads]

I wouldn't worry about being one of the men who get discussed in forums like that.

If you're in a relationship with someone who's that angry, frustrated, unhappy or just plain bitchy, you have a more serious problem than what she might be saying about you in some anonymous forum.

 

[rgraham666]

Slut! You said you loved us. We thought we had a commitment.

I never said I loved you.

 

[rachlou]

I had a horrible sense of deja vu reading some of those blogs. Bit too close to my own experiences sadly. I don't need to blog my life - I keep a diary for such purposes and God help me should it ever be read by anyone other than me.......

 

[shereads]

I never said I loved you.

You implied it.

 

[rgraham666]

You implied it.

OK. Damn, the guilt's killing me. I've been cheating with another forum.

Can I at least keep my Jim Croce vinyl records?

 

[shereads]

OK. Damn, the guilt's killing me. I've been cheating with another forum.

Can I at least keep my Jim Croce vinyl records?

Yes. If they're warped, it wasn't on purpose. I swear.

 

[Guest]

 

[rgraham666]

Yes. If they're warped, it wasn't on purpose. I swear.

They're warped? (said quietly)

Mutters under breath