BlueSugar
Faceted Sensualist
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Tonight I went to a party, my SO and I went as a sub and her dom all dolled up for a night out of whathaveyou. I suppose it wasn't much of a costume for us... but thats what halloween is all about (now a days anyway) we can be who we are, or aren't and no one is the wiser for at least one day. ((unless they realize just how authentic some of your things are...tehe))
anywho. and old friend of my SOs got into the age old "debate" on how vanilla is right, and monogomy is better, that we're wrong and bdsm is wrong, and "if she dated him- he wouldn't need anyone else," *words from her mouth!!* Now- I'm not mad about that, but she only takes it up with him and gives me dirty looks- at least have the damn balls to say that one to my face. And not to forget we somewhat/support being poly because we aren't right for eachother and its just an "accepted" form of cheating. (?!) heh.
I wasn't there for the whole thing, but I could tell what was going on, they have these conversations often enough- and I get enough dirty looks. But it reached a point where someone else stepped in and just said "not everyone is vanilla... so stop it already" or at least something very close to that effect. Then a few people left uncomfortable with the mini arguement.
We don't impose anything on them, we don't invite them, we don't ask them to watch, we don't share our lives with the people that aren't comfortable with anything we do- w/ either our bdsm or our poly-ness. We don't tell stories of triumph or woe... nothing. We respect their decision, and we do not press our morals or views on them at all. Maybe she felt out numbered bc most of the people there are open to suggestions or at least experimentation. I don't know... but I am fucking tired of people trying to tell me what is right and just and moral and all that shit.
If my SO and I weren't happy or content we'd either change or not be together. We are very happy together, if we say it or not everyday- its the small things that matter. And if its flowers, food or a friend we bring home to each other at night, it doesn't matter to me
We're fine, so stay out of it!!!
ugh... I had to tell someone who understood so I came here.
:: plops down and relaxes finally ::
anywho. and old friend of my SOs got into the age old "debate" on how vanilla is right, and monogomy is better, that we're wrong and bdsm is wrong, and "if she dated him- he wouldn't need anyone else," *words from her mouth!!* Now- I'm not mad about that, but she only takes it up with him and gives me dirty looks- at least have the damn balls to say that one to my face. And not to forget we somewhat/support being poly because we aren't right for eachother and its just an "accepted" form of cheating. (?!) heh.
I wasn't there for the whole thing, but I could tell what was going on, they have these conversations often enough- and I get enough dirty looks. But it reached a point where someone else stepped in and just said "not everyone is vanilla... so stop it already" or at least something very close to that effect. Then a few people left uncomfortable with the mini arguement.
We don't impose anything on them, we don't invite them, we don't ask them to watch, we don't share our lives with the people that aren't comfortable with anything we do- w/ either our bdsm or our poly-ness. We don't tell stories of triumph or woe... nothing. We respect their decision, and we do not press our morals or views on them at all. Maybe she felt out numbered bc most of the people there are open to suggestions or at least experimentation. I don't know... but I am fucking tired of people trying to tell me what is right and just and moral and all that shit.
If my SO and I weren't happy or content we'd either change or not be together. We are very happy together, if we say it or not everyday- its the small things that matter. And if its flowers, food or a friend we bring home to each other at night, it doesn't matter to me
We're fine, so stay out of it!!!ugh... I had to tell someone who understood so I came here.
:: plops down and relaxes finally ::
xx
