volume in bed

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Re: Loud

Definitely wouldn't spoil the mood...why should it? Aren't I trying to please him? I might suggest 'ooo that's good babe but it would be so much better if you tried.....' and either told me or showed me...depending on what you want.

If you think your woman might be offended...try to mention it at a different time. Maybe as part of a fantasy that you share with her.

[Response edited out because it was going to be a question answered in the second paragraph above.]

 

[TongueTyler]

Loud man I want the world to know it's all good. Love to openly express my erotic thoughts.

Love that low deep tone. Vibrating grumble in my chest.

More important is to hear it is working for her too back!

 

[warrior queen]

i am a very vocal woman.....

just love to have my guy tell me what he's doing to me as well! the dirtier the better!

oh, and if it's real good.....
then i'm a screamer..........

 

[TongueTyler]

warrior queen

That is an excellent attitude.

Australia Dam you are going to have to do more than scream. If I am ever going to hear you?

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Re: Re: Loud

This raises an interesting question I've had bouncing around in my head for awhile: Would you ladies say that it ruined the mood (and the entire intimate moment) if your guy said 'I'd really wish you wouldn't do that to me, but here's something I'd like to try,' especially (but not exclusively) if you were sucking on his dick?

Not at all - I think it would be heavenly! Its so hot when my lover shows, tells, guides me into doing something else/different. He's an electrical engineer so he's always scheming something in that deliciously warped mind of his!

 

[ChainedEros]

I'm a quiet person, so I'm naturally quiet in bed. However, I'm always willing to step outside of my normal state of being to bring interest and excitement to my sex life.

I would prefer that my lady do what she feels. She can express herself in whatever manner she sees fit - whether it's screaming at the top of her lungs or quietly moaning. It does not matter to me.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Re: Re: Re: Loud

Poof!

 

[ElZorro]

I think I have often suprised my lover with my loud and expressive orgasms....But thats how they come and how i come too. I like a woman who can use her vocal chords to help build her and my orgasms....And I love to be verbal and expressive during sex as well........

 

[Noor]

Re: Re: Loud

This raises an interesting question I've had bouncing around in my head for awhile: Would you ladies say that it ruined the mood (and the entire intimate moment) if your guy said 'I'd really wish you wouldn't do that to me, but here's something I'd like to try,' especially (but not exclusively) if you were sucking on his dick?

I think saying "I really wish you wouldn't do that to me" would ruin the mood. I think saying "that would feel so much better if you.....(used your tongue instead of your teeth?)" or "I just love it when you do ....." or "I'd love to try this"

I find positive reinforcement works better than negative. also during sex is not when you want to be parsing out exactly what that you don't want, it may turn her off completely to sucking your dick in any manner in the future, unless that is what you want.

 

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Re: Loud

I think saying "I really wish you wouldn't do that to me" would ruin the mood. I think saying "that would feel so much better if you.....(used your tongue instead of your teeth?)" or "I just love it when you do ....." or "I'd love to try this"

I find positive reinforcement works better than negative. also during sex is not when you want to be parsing out exactly what that you don't want, it may turn her off completely to sucking your dick in any manner in the future, unless that is what you want.

That's what I was figuring, Noor. In two words, don't complain.

 

[adm]

I am very verbal in bed. I love to tell my SO what I am going to do to her, how hard or soft I am going to do it, what position we are going to do it in, etc... She is a moaner, but man, add alcohol, and she throws caution to the wind. I can recall camping two weeks ago. We sat around the campfire drinking margaritas w/ some friends. When we retired to the tent that evening, she proceeded to tell me that she was going to fuck me silly. So long story short, she is screaming "fuck me... harder, harder" I personally loved the "roll me over and fuck me like a dog!" Needless to say, we had an amazing experience in our tent. The next morning, the people camping next to us, strangers to this point, brought me over coffee, and he said, your'e going to need this a lot more than me!!! LOL! Even I was embarassed. LOL!

 

[ksmybuttons]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Loud

Poof!

 

[Blastasbird]

I can be both loud and quiet. Depends on what we are doing and when but you can guarantee that I am normally very loud when the windows in our house are wide open so that everyone can hear. And I like to think that they can hear thats makes me loud too. And well he always starts off quiet and then just has he is about to come then he gets loud and starts shouting and I just love that.

 

[VincentFloyd]

i'm usually very loud, and i love talking and hearing dirty things

i usually get shushed during sex, but really, it means they're doing a good job

 

[Crimson]

i thought i could be quiet until i had a friend crash on my living room couch one night when the boy was over.

i thought we were safe since she went to bed a few hours before we did, but the next day she mumbled the old "someone had fun last night" line over brunch. oops.

as a little side note, for some reason my man really likes when i clamp my hand over his mouth when he's coming. originally, it was to stifle his moaning for the sake of my neighbors, but now he wants it all the time.

btw VincentFloyd - Strong Bad rocks!!!

(saw your homestar link...)

 

[Lust Engine]

There's no better encouragement than a hardy lusty LOUD fuck session. Hearing a partner squealing with delight just makes me come that much harder.

Mmmmm... bring on the volume!

 

[SlickTony]

before reading the posts, I thought: 'It's a poll to see what size bed people have.'

FTR, we have a king size at home--as far as I'm concerned king size beds rule. Neither my husband nor I are particularly small people. However, we can get along Ok in a full if we have to.

WRT volume, I can be very loud at times--I think noise is erotic. There have been times when he expressed concern about the neighbors hearing me during the spring and fall when we open the windows. Most of the characters in my stories--all of them, now that I think about it--expecially the female ones, are loud, verbal, or both.

However, I can be quiet if I have to. We have sometimes been obliged to do it with a kid sleeping in the same room (fortunately they're hard sleepers, especially the youngest one). And then of course we have to be quiet, and we are. However, in my mind I am hollering away...

I am happy to address some of Idoyoganaked's concerns about camping...

I love fucking in a tent! Tent sex is hot, hot, hot! Never mind about primitive camping--twice a year my church has a camping event, usually at the kind of "civilized" campsite that has mixed accomodations for RVs and tent camping, and an electric/water hookup at every site. It affords me great pleasure to be having sex with only a layer of [whatever they make tents out of nowadays] between us and the outside world. I said I could be quiet if I had to be!

We used to camp out with this group in the Blackwater River State Forest, and that was primitive camping--everything we had we had to bring with us, and the bathroom facilities consisted of going to a certain part of the woods with a wad of ecologically friendly john paper and a shovel. We don't camp with this group for reasons too complicated to go into now (nothing to do with the people, other circumstances intervened). There was one area that was roomy enough to set up several tents, and one year we set up our tent in this area, so that the tent of one of our neighbors was about a foot or so away from ours.

We'd just gone to bed when I heard three soft, intense cries--the unmistakable sound of a woman having an orgasm. In the tent next door to us. I had, even before discovering Literotica, read my share of erotic literature, but had never had the opportunity of overhearing someone else having sex. It was awesome and I've never forgotten it.

 

[Owlz]

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That is so unfair to your partner...but, I guess if that is the type of relationship you want and have, go for it...

What I meant was, sex is all about the woman. I'm not complaining there. What I'm trying to say is 'If she likes it, that's a GOOD thing, so just enjoy.' Now, if she asks me if I like 'such & such,' I might say 'I'd love to try 'whatever.' In other words (again, trying to say this the right way), if she asks, I'll tell her.

 

[Lust Engine]

We'd just gone to bed when I heard three soft, intense cries--the unmistakable sound of a woman having an orgasm. In the tent next door to us. I had, even before discovering Literotica, read my share of erotic literature, but had never had the opportunity of overhearing someone else having sex. It was awesome and I've never forgotten it.

You just have to love the sounds of nature at night huh?

 

[Jaded1]

I sense this is a trick question... It refers to the volume levels in bed! Being very creative I perfer making love with a lover out of bed! Much more room to be playful and playful is so good....

I personally do not consider myself to be loud. The nieghbors in a four house radius would not hear us. I do know that the young lady next door has listened because of the naughty impish smile and hello I get for the next couple of days after. I do enjoy telling a lover how great she makes me feel. If she's on top I may edge her on to ride me harder or take more of me inside her...

I have noticed that I tend to become louder if she is louder... It doesn't bother me if the nieghbor did hear us! I figure it will only boost my image around the nieghborhood...

Can't say I feel I have ever been with a really loud female partner...

Anyone wanna change that...

Jaded1, CT

 

[idoyoganaked]

loud and quiet sex jokes

I just happened to come across these and thought they were funny

"Loud Sex"
A wife went in to see a therapist and said,
"I've got a big problem, doctor.
Every time we're in bed and my husband climaxes,
he lets out this ear splitting yell."
"My dear," the shrink said, "that's completely natural.
I don't see what the problem is."
"The problem is," she complained, "It wakes me up!"

"Quiet Sex"
Tired of a listless sex life, the man came right out and
asked his wife during a recent lovemaking session,
"How come you never tell me when you have an
orgasm?"
She glanced at him casually and replied, "You're never
home!"

 

[jakelyon]

Rather be loud

I am quiet to accomodate my partner, she is always concerned about being to loud, and dirty talk embaresses her. Definitly a turn on for me, but have not been able to make any progress on changing her mind.

That's what I need some advice on how to get her to open up and let loose a little. She likes sex, and climaxes easily, usually mulitple times, but she just won't let loose verbally.

Any thoughts on the subject would be welcome.

 

[Owlz]

Re: loud and quiet sex jokes

I just happened to come across these and thought they were funny

"Loud Sex"
A wife went in to see a therapist and said,
"I've got a big problem, doctor.
Every time we're in bed and my husband climaxes,
he lets out this ear splitting yell."
"My dear," the shrink said, "that's completely natural.
I don't see what the problem is."
"The problem is," she complained, "It wakes me up!"

"Quiet Sex"
Tired of a listless sex life, the man came right out and
asked his wife during a recent lovemaking session,
"How come you never tell me when you have an
orgasm?"
She glanced at him casually and replied, "You're never
home!"

LOL, idyn!

 

[Native Alien]

I personally do soft moans and groans. I prefer that the lover does the same. I am vocal, not verbal, but I really do liked to be talked to.

 

[jeepman6]

I think that volume is an important way of showing approval of the efforts of your partner. It is something that takes practice for those of us raised to be quiet, good little girls. Seen and not heard and all that BS!!!

I am trying to work on verbalization. I know my man wants me to be more verbal and give him directions but something inside me tells me to shut up and preserve my dignity. Any pointers???


Thanks

Maybe try a little wine or something to help loosen up your tongue. I know that when my wife has some wine (she doesn't very often) and gets a little bit tipsy...lol... her tongue loosens up quite a bit and she is able to tell me exactly what she wants and where she wants it and I'll tell you what, at least for me and I'm sure most men, that is one big turn on. Good luck