Visiting a UK sex club?

[grant8064]

Hi, new here but i've surfed the site for some time.

Basically my gf (25) and I (30) were staying in a hotel over the weekend and discussing some fantasies during a hot moment in bed and it turns out she really really wants to visit a sex club. I shouldn't have been surprised as she's very sexual and almost always horny but as we've only been together for a year we're still learning each other and opening up about our likes/dislikes.

The premise that she described would be us visiting a club and simply enjoying each other with our hands, mouths and then having full sex in front of others. They would not join in but she would like people to watch and enjoy themselves whilst doing so.

I know it's not the most extreme fantasy but everything starts somewhere and it would be a realistic proposition that we're both very into the idea of and would like to make a reality.

The question....how? And where?

We're in Brighton UK but only know of a Gay club/sauna. How would we locate such a club or venue? Also whilst it would only involve people watching we're both quite health and safety concious so we would want to find somewhere not too seedy.

Any help out there?

 

[dizzyegg]

A lot of people say and agree to all sorts in the throes of passion. Has she discussed this since then?

 

[suckonsimon]

Do you have a quality licensed sex shop you frequent or could visit? They sometimes have info about clubs and such, I believe.

 

[NightL]

Just because you may be experiencing a new environment does not mean the moment you walk in you will be overcome with urges beyond your control. You will easily stay within the bounds of your relationship. Go have a look - no one will think less of you if you just have a cuddle with your partner while watching others.

If approached by another couple or single to request joining in to play - if you are not ready or never have a wish for that, just say "We are new here, we just want to take it quietly. Tonight we are just observing." or "We don't play with others, thank you" - either approach will be respected.

If you don't wish to play with others, don't miss the opportunity to just chat near the bar... socialise have fun, get to know the people who are there, chances are they will be very like you.

 

[grant8064]

Thanks for the replies everyone...keep them coming as discussion can't hurt!

It's something we've discussed since and something we've discussed outside of the bedroom which is important I think...rather than just pillow talk that we dismiss as soon as one or both of us cum.

Thanks for the advice also about not diving in head first or feeling pressure to either...luckily we're both pretty level headed and confident enough not to fall to peer pressure or put one another in a position that's too much too soon or generally uncomfortable.

That's a good heads up on the sex shop visit idea, maybe that'll be our first step. This isn't an idea we want to rush and we won't be visiting somewhere immediately, after all what's the rush?

Any comments from visitors to establishments like this would be welcomed too.

Cheers again

 

[NightL]

Any comments from visitors to establishments like this would be welcomed too.

just did

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

We went to one several years ago and never did it again. Its like being meat for the lions. People are attractive but act like vampires.

 

[vibes]

I'm so going to go with you one day now that I'm free to.

Am I missing something?

 

[vibes]

No no BB. you're just looking in the wrong direction.

I'm looking at your boobies LS

 

[vibes]

So just like it's always been?

And always will be

Enough with the hijacking, sorry grant